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11 May 2017, 6:32 pm

Don't worry about us, and that's your own opinion, and if you want to date older men you can. I think if it suits you best it will. Don't worry about us younger guys. In the face of things I wish I was older than the women I wanted in college, like ten years or five years with the mind that's twenty years ahead, and I can completely understand why someone would think like this. You don't have an issue, and I do agree that this generation could use some maturing, and I admit I should too, and if this comment bothers you I'll make sure that it is deleted as soon as possible, or edited, or perhaps even make another comment apologizing about it. Don't take my comment wrong, and some of us guys are burned out or bummed out for the day.

Go change your Eharmony age audience to the age you like, and go talk to some older men.

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11 May 2017, 7:01 pm

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Howdy. I'm not really worried about the men because they seem to be getting what they want (sex) and using these young women then throwing them away - they don't seem to see a reason to change. This article helps young women know exactly what these men are doing and some young women are finally coming to their senses. They need to actually get away from places like Tinder. The reason I chose Eharmony is that it isn't cheap to join, so any guy on there is paying quite a bit to try and find someone. You don't have to pay on Tinder. Those guys don't want to put much out - they just want one night stands. I'm a trusting person, so articles like this one really open my eyes to what is out there.

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11 May 2017, 7:15 pm

And then those men actually wind up in a shotgun wedding and afterwards the couple ends in a devastating divorce.

Exactly, I really don't like online dating to begin with. To me, online dating is a recipe for disaster.

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11 May 2017, 8:23 pm

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You're also mixing sleaze & disciplines others spend their lives on as if that's license to dispense advice. If you said any of this to any girl I know I would be getting rid of you personally & cleaning up your mess. If you're going to b***h about hookup culture you shouldn't be perpetuating it by whining that others only want sex just to demand it yourself.

Huh? Was that to me?

Nope, rdos, thanks for livening things up BTW, I just get livid when older guys play off their own shortcomings on others. He practically generalized us as rapists. To be clear, I'm 23 & it's the 50 something in this picture who's whistling at anything that moves. Aging guys are going to run with your line of reasoning because they crave attention more than they'll ever admit & it rationalizes their hate towards young guys they don't even know. I contribute on technologies this man uses every day & he still addresses me like I'm in a chain gang. I feel sorry for girls who identify that as respect.

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11 May 2017, 8:33 pm

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This immediately made me think of my cousin. She always only dated men older than her, sometimes almost twice her age. None of the relationships lasted long and they didn't care about her. Now she's with a guy who is four years younger than her. It's the first time she has a boyfriend who actually loves her and cares about her. They have been together for more than two years now and so far it's going a lot better than any of her previous relationships.
There might be many young men who are irresponsible and selfish, but it's not all young men. There are old men who are like that too. People simply are individuals and not everyone is the same.

I don't think I'd be more compatible with someone a lot older than me than with someone who is closer to my age. In some ways I feel younger than my actual age, which seems to not be too uncommon for autistic people.

Yeah I think it is important to keep in perspective that there are certainly younger men who aren't into the 'hookup culture' or maybe have tried it out some and have grown sick of it. And there certainly are older guys who just want a nice young body to enjoy...so you can't really assume someone is relationship material or not just because of their age.

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11 May 2017, 8:46 pm

I think maybe the problem is the computer. Online makes it tons easier to treat people like crap. Online dating, online breaking up - it's all impersonal and cold. Easier to hook up quicker without finding out who a person really is. Great for one night stands, but not for actual relationships. I think it started with the computer and online which only started about 25 yrs ago? It says 1992 by Sprint.

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11 May 2017, 9:12 pm

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Well one can always meet up with someone they've met online and insist on waiting to have sex till they get to know each other better. In the past I certainly kinda just jumped into having intimacy/sex right away because I figured that is just what you do if you like a guy and they like you....more like that is what you do to get a one night stand or led on, for a few sessions of 'hanging out' for sex.

But I figure it would be the same if you just met someone IRL and are too quick to jump into sex or intimacy with them before you know how they really feel about you.

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11 May 2017, 9:14 pm

Sprint would be right. It was part of their mobile dialup clickbait if I remember correctly. Of course in that era this inevitably meant one of those 'Elite Singles' type deals & everyone in the States knows Sprint wasn't known for any kind of fair dealings until their present management stepped in.

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11 May 2017, 9:42 pm

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I didn't post this for men - unless they can learn something from it. It's actually what the younger generation of women are finding out - that older men appreciate women more and they are more traditional. I can't help if you take offense to the truth.

Goes the other way as well. Girls that age have never been into men who are responsible. We older people should just be together and leave millennials to screw up their own lives together.

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11 May 2017, 11:17 pm

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:

99% of women on tinder are seeking for a seriouls relationship and not for hookup.
"No hookup!" is the most common intro.

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12 May 2017, 4:57 am

cberg wrote:

Have I ever claimed that I wanted sex for myself? Could you provide a reference for that?

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12 May 2017, 5:03 am

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Nope, rdos, thanks for livening things up BTW, I just get livid when older guys play off their own shortcomings on others.

What kind of shortcomings are you talking about now?

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He practically generalized us as rapists.

Actually, you are a rapist if you know a woman is asexual, yet don't accept that and still require sex with her in a relationship.

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To be clear, I'm 23 & it's the 50 something in this picture who's whistling at anything that moves.

Never, ever, whistled at a woman. Not now, and not when I was your age.

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Aging guys are going to run with your line of reasoning because they crave attention more than they'll ever admit & it rationalizes their hate towards young guys they don't even know.

I don't hate young guys. Can I have a reference for that too?

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12 May 2017, 5:19 am

Oh so suddenly nothing's implicit, you'll just be padding your odds demographically even if you have to outright lie? You directly insulted half of all young people & all of us can read it.

I find it a shortcoming that you won't even think before judging & yet expect me to believe all those titles you self-conferred. You call it respect but I'm reading melodrama.

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12 May 2017, 7:09 am

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Oh so suddenly nothing's implicit, you'll just be padding your odds demographically even if you have to outright lie? You directly insulted half of all young people & all of us can read it.

I thought you wanted an academic discussion, and now you refuse to provide evidence for what you claim?

Let me guess that you read "polyamory", and then thought I would whistle at every woman I saw, for the ultimate purpose of having sex? Yet, polyamory has nothing to do with sex. It's the ability to love more than one person at the same time.

Also, it's pretty inconsistent to worry about us older men from the purpose of whistling and one-night stands. That kind of behaviour would not affect your dating pool in the least. What you should worry about is older men getting into relationships with young girls. Regardless if they are monogamous or not.

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12 May 2017, 9:21 am

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cberg wrote:

He practically generalized us as rapists.

Actually, you are a rapist if you know a woman is asexual, yet don't accept that and still require sex with her in a relationship.

You are a rapist if you force someone to have sex with you, not if you would only date people who are not asexual. Besides, where did cberg say anything about asexuals. As far as I can see, you're the only one here who brought this topic up.

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I've told people here many times that ND women are twice as likely as ND men to not like regular sex (asexual), and if you want to catch those you'd better stop feeling entitled to sex. Exactly what do you want to tell these women? To "hook up" with somebody their age and be forced to have regular sex against their will, or try to find somebody older that don't have such requirements? Actually, it's up to you and your generation to decide how they should act, because most of them would rather have somebody their own age.

No one said girls should not be allowed to date older men. Merely some people said, that not everyone of a certain sex and age is the same and that some generalisations were made about younger men that are true for some but not for all. Also, most older men are not asexual and want sex in a relationship. Al right, sex drive goes down with age but still, I don't see your point.
Some women are indeed more compatible with someone older than them. Others are not.

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12 May 2017, 9:31 am

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So what, if we're not giving all our money to some corporate fatcats on the mere hope we might meet somebody that means that we'd make crappy partners? Way to make young lonely people feel even worse about themselves.

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