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That's really a pain in the butt when there's a plane to catch.....

But you see it does matter what people think. Because dating someone against their will is very illegal.

Where did "against her will" come in?

It's perfectly legal, if both parties consent, for an 18-year-old person to date anybody older than him/her. I don't know of any place where 18 is still below the "age of consent."

No offense taken, or even implied that I can see.
That's the thing, really. I've got some real social issues, that I wasn't really aware of until recently. It's been really frustrating. I am a relatively good looking guy, been hearing that for a while. Smart, funny, caring, open minded, let's say a few things going for me.
I'm also an aspie.
Can't do conversation, usually make things worse once I start talking. Don't usually leave the house. Don't really have any desire to. Don't really know where to go to meet people, or how to meet them once I'm there. Can't really tell if a woman is interested. Don't do subtlety at all, either giving it or receiving.

Finally starting to feel comfortable alone though. Starting to accept it. Honestly, not sure if it's really healthy or reasonable to want a girlfriend at this point, and really my concept of what I think the ideal relationship is has changed recently. I wasn't aware of Asperger's at all until fairly recently, or that it's something that I "have". And, thinking back on the complaints of my last two girlfriends, and anyone else I've ever spent time with, the problems and issues that I've brought into every relationship of any kind that I've been in seem to stem from that. My lack of awareness of and inability to deal with the real social and emotional issues I have that seem to be rooted in an autistic spectrum disorder.
Hopefully that doesn't sound like I'm just blaming everything on Asperger's or something, that's not what I'm trying to do.
I'm not really awake yet today. I just saw this post and had to say something, because I've been hearing "you're a good looking guy..." forever, and never had anything like an adequate response before.

You may want to look for another Aspie who can deal with the way you interact with other people. It is also possible to improve social interaction with practice, but I'm guessing that it would be easier to find Aspie women where you live.

I didn’t imply he should forcefully date someone. The general message was that if you want to message a 19 year old, nothing is stopping you except yourself. If people on wrong planet don’t think you should they really need to mind their own business. 19 years old is legal.

Although wonder how you would date someone against their will? Tie them to a chair in a restaurant?

19-year-old women have been going out with 35-year-old men for years.

It's rarer for a 19-year-old man to go out with a 35-year-old woman.

But it's still legal.

Having met people who care about the environment a/c s big no no, it tears up the ozone. I dated one lady who even on a 110 degree day wouldn’t use the ac in her car for the environment.

I’d drive in a second if I could afford it. But then aren’t you building a relationship on lies which is like a house of cards, as soon as she find out you lied she be horrified and have a huge fight and she’ll just leave me.

How do I do so why still avoiding superficial successful women and only attracting loser women?
I’m tired of getting emotional envolved only to have my heart ripped out when she finds out I’m a complete loser.

I don’t understand then, do you mean my status in life with disability and work?
I can’t work over part time, I barely handle part time, it’s exhausting and takes up 8-10 hours a day of my time. Working full time would have me getting up at 6am to get home by 8-9 pm 5 days a week. Makes me want to die just thinking of it. I work 5 hours a day 4 days a week. In this type of work which is the only work a loser like me can get. That’s all I can handle. And some days I just wanna quit. The nt at work don’t like it and they normals. So if they barely stand it there’s no way I’d be able to. I also did work full time at first and it was so freaking horrible. I don’t want to have a meltdown. I don’t want to end up in a crazy hospital I don’t want to lose my rights. So no full time for sly. It’s not worthy the above and then I’d be homeless, unemployed and kicked off social security.
No thanks. I’ll keep my mental health and rights. I dont know if there’s a job I could handl full time out there , but I wouldn’t qualify for it if there was. I barely got this one and only keep it because I’m on ssi they had to make accommodations for me.without those they’d had fired me already. I don’t meet their quota.

So it’s hopeless I’ll never work full time, I’ll never have a good job, I’ll never have status.

You might look for laid back women who don't dress up and use makeup. On POF you can use the advanced search to avoid women who are ambitious by selecting "not ambitious."

Dresses are cute though on occasion.

I don’t think there are any, I’ve never seen any in my area who don’t list ambitious even the unemployed living off her mom college drop out said she was ambitious.

This is precisely why you should learn how to use the advanced search.

If you used the advanced search it is likely that instead of hundreds of profiles to choose from, you will narrow it down to just a dozen of women who are "not ambitious." Saving you lots of time compared to any other way of finding such women. I doubt that a "not ambitous" women will go through the trouble of posting a really good profile pic.

You may also want to do a search for tall women. Just like short men, tall women don't do well when it comes to online dating.

I saw this woman the other day. She was over 6 feet tall. She was hot! I mean...really hot!

Elbowgreese, you are a good looking guy. I'm not sugarcoating it at all. I can imagine you in a suit leading an entire office team.

Thank you.
I'm still not sure how I feel about leadership. It's quite a bit of responsibility.

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I love chicks like that!