What body shape do you find more attractive?

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No one can be forced to see someone as attractive if they don't.
The idea is absurd.
While society (nurture) does influence the way a person perceives "beauty" or generally desirable, I believe nature has a greater influence.



It is absolutely unfair, and not just for women.
But I have accepted, decades ago, that the life system is rather obscene.
We just have to make the best of a bad situation.



If you point this out, be prepared to be vilified by the poster, for pointing this out. EEP!

Actually, according to statics I eat about 1/3 the meat of the average American, 1/2 the carbs, and twice as much fresh fruits and vegetables. I tried to go vegan once, but my system can't take it. To be fair, the vegan I was dating at the time had a LOT more body fat than I did, and I'm even leaner now than I was back then. Without animal protein, I just can't maintain muscle mass. I wouldn't mind going seafood/ovo/lacto, but it's impossible to get lots of affordable seafood this far inland. I have lost somewhere between 70-75 lbs in the past seven years [mostly since I got off of psychotropic meds] and it's easier to float now than it was when I was at my max weight. Still a head scratcher for me too.

Define "normal". We are much heavier now than we were in the 1950's or even the earlier part of the 1900's. I actually like men with a little weight on them. I really don't like skinny men. Ugh! Especially ones wearing spandex bike pants biking around. A small beer belly is perfectly fine. I like guys who look like they can protect me even if they are Aspie's and nerdy and can't and they are the ones who will run in danger and I'm the one who is doing the protecting. I still want my guy to look like he can. I think you Aspie guys sometimes need to learn to develop confidence in who you are for who you are....and the relationships will follow.

I am curvy and a size 2. Butt and boobs. I have the body. And have been hit on my entire life. It was really uncomfortable when I was young and the old pig men would hit on me. Now, I'm old and the young guys look at me...I'm flattered. : )

But guys, quit being so hard on yourselves.....there is someone for everyone. Dress nice, look nice, talk nice and flatter a girl. It goes a long way.

Adult BMI Calculator:
https://www.cdc.gov/healthyweight/asses ... lator.html

What about "the old pig men" now?
Aren't they interested in you any longer?

I have a BMI about 28, with 23% body fat.

I’m 5 foot 5, and weigh 173 lbs. I was 182 about 3 months ago, with a 30 BMI, and 30% body fat. My avatar shows me at the heavier weight. My mother and my wife don’t want me to lose any weight.

I like “normal” to “zaftig/curvaceous.” I’ve liked women more overweight than that, though. I don’t dig thin women at all, though a nice, cure personality always makes all sorts of women much more attractive.

Some women think I’m too short; others don’t mind my short height.

She's not wrong, it totally does. I'm nice to everybody, and when everybody happens to be a straight female, she usually misinterprets it as flirtatious. I wouldn't mind and asexual partner or an "open" relationship, just not into the main reason most people "hook up" in the first place. It's a definite relationship killer when you're not into someone that way, I don't like making women feel bad about themselves [not to generalize, but in my experience, that's what happens to me every time].

Look on the bright side, If you were a woman, your height would be cute.

As "The Oracle of Truth", I have to step in here.

That comment you both proffered is very romantic,
But it is fictitious.
It is an emotional salve.
This is *not* the way reality works, unfortunately.
There are winners and losers.

But on the bright side,
People make too much about significant other relationships.
It is not the be-all and end-all in life.
Just look through the "divorce registry" to keep things in perspective.

Not untrue, to be perfectly honest. There have been several ladies whom I was infatuated with when I was younger who just had ZERO interest in a romantic relationship with me.



Well said. For someone who never wanted kids, didn't like the idea of marriage [from both a legal and personal philosophal context], and doesn't even enjoy intercourse... the idea of dating just seems a total exercise in futility. I'd much rather have a best friend than a romantic partner at this point in my life.

You and I are the same here.
Intercourse isn't my "thing" either.




Haven't you experienced being in love in either a romantic or platonic relationship?

Last edited by Pepe on 30 Aug 2020, 6:18 am, edited 2 times in total.

no get up and go, in multiple senses.

i am about 30# heavier than i oughta be but that weight is more stubborn by the day. i also have a weak leg and it is a challenge to make it cooperate on my daily walks.

Love? No. Crushes, definitely. Full disclosure, I've never had a best friend either.