13 Dec 2007, 11:48 am
Wabbits wrote:
Hey people who've never been kissed and people who are passively wishing for someone to date and possibly kiss..... Do you realize that dating someone requires a little bit of luck, a realistic dose of determination, and being in the right place at the right time? Ask yourself this question, where would a woman or man, whom I might have something in common with hang out? In other words, what are your interests, and hobbies? Photography?Take a class/Art?Go to the museum or take a class Cooking?/take a cooking class...
See where I'm going with this? If you aren't "out there" no one can find you, and you can't find or meet them. It's important to meet someone who shares some of your interests; sexual attraction isn't enough in the long run...but it's a hell of a lot of fun at the time...(ahhhh, the good old days,ha)
Another good place to meet people? Places like Borders, and Barnes and Noble, swap meets, smaller venue concerts,antiquing; the list is endless, and it all depends on what YOUR interests are.
Bars aren't a good place to meet people because alcohol changes the whole dynamic, but that's just my opinion, the rest of this is just advice. A bar scene is ok for a date with someone you are already dating, someone you already know...point here being, alcohol changes everyones personality.
Also, ask every couple you know, even the unhappy ones, where they met, and how they met, etc.-sometimes info like this can help put that search for that certain someone, in the proper perspective.
See where I'm going with this? If you aren't "out there" no one can find you, and you can't find or meet them. It's important to meet someone who shares some of your interests; sexual attraction isn't enough in the long run...but it's a hell of a lot of fun at the time...(ahhhh, the good old days,ha)
Another good place to meet people? Places like Borders, and Barnes and Noble, swap meets, smaller venue concerts,antiquing; the list is endless, and it all depends on what YOUR interests are.
Bars aren't a good place to meet people because alcohol changes the whole dynamic, but that's just my opinion, the rest of this is just advice. A bar scene is ok for a date with someone you are already dating, someone you already know...point here being, alcohol changes everyones personality.
Also, ask every couple you know, even the unhappy ones, where they met, and how they met, etc.-sometimes info like this can help put that search for that certain someone, in the proper perspective.
That's good advice. But the real question (for me anyway) isn't where to meet them, it's how to meet them...If you see someone browsing at Borders you think you might like, for instance, what do you do or say? I can get out there, I just can't open my mouth, LOL. Hmm...
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13 Dec 2007, 1:57 pm
13 Dec 2007, 4:27 pm
ToadOfSteel wrote:
BlueMax wrote:
...you guys saying you will never be kissed... GET COUNSELING!! That kind of depression and/or negative self-image is incredibly destructive, and your own worst enemy! (I can speak from experience there...)
It won't happen if you think like that!
It won't happen if you think like that!
Feel whatever you want from that... I, for one, take comfort in the fact that a definite fact about my life even exists. There's too many variables in life to keep track of, and that fact eliminates one from the equation.
Would I like to kiss a woman? As long as she's in my age range and not taken or anything... of course. I just know that such things just don't happen with the skill level I possess...
I'm the same, relationships don't happen with my social skills and lack of experience. But it's been an epiphany for me that I no longer want a girlfriend - I want to be single.
13 Dec 2007, 6:28 pm
13 Dec 2007, 11:57 pm
