What is the AS trait you have that people find sexy?

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-I stand OUT. I'm not afraid to speak up, to speak my mind. I'm not shy at all as long as I'm talking to an entire crowd or class rather than an individual.
-I'm brutally honest and don't sugar coat things much and people find that funny and refreshing.
-If I'm obsessed with something I know oodles of information about it. People often ask me, "Do you know EVERYTHING?" and I'm always like, "Hell no, ask me about geography or math or sports or something and I won't know anything!"

My inability to lie.

I have been told I am very kind, I listen, and that I don't play mind games.

There have been a lot of things people have complimented me for, but nobody ever said they were sexy.

I agree with u. my bf says a lot of things about me are "sexy" but I dont know if theres one "aspie trait" he thinks is sexy.

my sense of humor and frankness (dry and conversational, not much schtick). also, because i have to evaluate my emotions i also have to evaluate my character traits so i'm rather confident in my abilities but not overly confident. girls seem to respond to that.

also i'm classified as "cute" rather than "hot" which in my opinion is MUCH more flexible. if you're "cute" you can be witty, dress how you like, not even be in that great of shape. not all girls will dig you but the ones that do will be more fun in the long run.

if you're a hot guy, you're pretty much just a hot guy and not much else. sorry.

Thats a good point. I've had people comment on my 'genuineness'. However nobody ever found it (or any AS trait or indeed any trait of mine) to be sexy. My belief is that most people are so familiar living a charade, they actually get put off by this genuiness. Or maybe it's just my appalling dress sense.....


You really need to fix that typo. Do you mean 'crying', 'dying' or perhaps 'cycling'

This question is illogical. A "sexy AS trait"... that's an oxymoron.

No one has ever called me "sexy" except as a joke. I've been referred to as "handsome" a few times, but only by people who weren't attracted to me.

The closest thing would be that people have called me "smart," which is a trait that NT's often associate with AS... and some people think that being smart is "sexy." But I don't think of myself as smart.

my hairy chest

Well, I've been referred to as a "handsome young man" every single time the answerer has been a woman. In addition to that, my honesty and politeness have been highly acclaimed.

But since I'm always an outsider, those benefits never help.

People seem to find my spazzims cute. My friends and ex's have all said this. Many people find it werid though. So it is eaither LOVE or HATED.

what do you mean by spazzims?

My involentary movements. My hands do random things depending on my moves. I used to know realize it. Now I do but I am still unable to stop it.

Example: When I am happy I scrunch up and my fingers will hit one another very quickly.

Moods*

For some reason, guys find my clumsiness cute. If I'm walking in high heels [rare occurrence] and I stumble, they will usually steady me and say something sweet to cheer me up.

I was once described by an ex as "adorkable", which I thought was a charming label.

"I'm cute, funny, and really nice, but sometimes I think that you have to be a prick to get any women...you know, the whole confidence thing."

My eyes, honesty, directness- being genuine. I can turn on my confidence on whim, yet prefer to pursue only those who interest me. It ain't no thang.

We appear confident because we do not require positive social stimulus to be amongst the NT's. Our inability to receive this signal transmitted by NT's is a filter (or force field) they do not comprehend.
They see we are unaffected or swayed by the critical looks we receive on arrival, that is very noticeable, above the norm. We are merely unaware. They see the detachment as superior, they do not see we have no need for the frivolous lies they speak to each other endlessly, we are unfazed by this pointlessness.
Our detachment from the endless hidden social expressions and wordless actions is to be taken as naivety by some, elitism by others. And also confidence
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And the eyes- I have noticed the blank undecipherable looks from untold numbers and I have yet to have a clue what it is I see yet do not have a physiological emotive response for. I feel empty, an emotional void nearly 90% I look into the eye's of a woman whom has expressed any interest in me. I don't date because I can't handle the misconstrued emotions and crying. It's too emotionally draining, and I'm almost always blindsided by these events.
Sorry about the venting.