What kind of woman would think Asperger's is sexy?

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So then,there is a magical treasure island of women that can be actually communicated with?

Where is this lovely place you speak of?
WHERE IS IT! WHERE IS IT!! !
GIVE UP THE MAP, YOU LITTLE SHPRITZEL!! !!*

*ref Robert Newton, Treasure Island, 1950. A fine film, great score, quite violent for a Disney film.

Unless they have some fetish for people on the autism spectrum probably none. Asperger's is a mental disorder not a thing to find sexy. It would be no different than one saying "What woman finds Bi-Polar sexy?" or "What woman finds Depression sexy?"

If you are looking for a person with Aspergers that is intelligent, honest, have special interest, [insert other usually positive trait here], then you don't think Asperger's is sexy you think an idealized version of Asperger's is sexy.

I find it annoying that people make Asperger's this great and wonderful thing that should be "sexy" or "awesome" yet no other mental disorder or personality disorder is thought of this way!

Autism is not a mental disorder though, it's a neurological disorder.

Still a disorder. Certain disorders may be fetishized. There are women who go for psychopaths for example, but most will not be attracted to a disorder.

People on the spectrum will have a built in connection, but the numbers are not in the favor of male autistics.

Don't define yourself by your disorder. The number of women who will date someone with autism is a lot larger than the number that will fetishize autism.

I realized I said mental instead of neurological, I have been around people who called it Mental instead of Neurological and now I make that mistake as well.

But my point stands that if you look for certain traits then it's still an idealized version of Aspergers. We have no way of knowing what exactly is Asperger's. Second it's still considered a disorder and no other disorder I know of is considered "sexy".

But I guess my view of Autism and others view on it is different. Honestly I hear so much about people on the spectrum that's really smart, like computers, trustworthy, etc and they get praised so much. I just don't want more expectations placed on me that I might not be able to achieve. And when people hear Autism they start listing all these positive things that I or future people might not have.

All 3 girlfriends I had thought I was sexy but ladder two are both on the spectrum. My 2nd wanted to train service dogs for disableds & was interested in supports & services stuff for disableds. I suspect she saw me as kinda a special project. My current girlfriend has a lot of various issues & disabilities but I do too & she appreciates that I'm accepting & can relate & understand her better than anyone else. Me & my 1st girlfriend had some other similar disorders, we were both dyslexic, had AD[H]D & some OCD. We also had a lot on common interests. She was a lot younger than me too & I think she saw me as kinda a father figure since she never knew her dad & I was trying to help her work on issues she was dealing with.

Aren't they all effectively neurological disorders? Disorders like depression are caused by a chemical imbalance in your brain, and that's technically physical since it has to do with how neurons are firing.

Not to mention slot of aspie women don’t want to date aspie men. I wouldn’t recommend aspie ,en limit themselves or seek out aspiemwomen, if one comes along go for it though.

A woman who has a burger fetish and into butts.

OP, I do not know.
I wish strenuously to find out.

Autistic people tend to be very passionate and easier to talk to then NTs and more likely to be direct and honest. NT guys are not inherently better than autistic guys, autism isn't an unattractive thing.

For anybody with a reddit account; these 25 accounts from girls who had dated men with Aspergers/autism is very enlightening.
https://www.reddit.com/r/AskWomen/comme ... istic_guy/

Short version, try not to be overly obsessive about it, let things go, and listen to your partner and you should be mostly good to go.

I'm a little too old for this stuff but I would have thought that when you get into a long term relationship that you want your partner to "be themselves" rather than a persona that "girls want"?

Many autistic/apsie men can manage to subdue their obsessive/compulsive tendencies/habits on a date. However the person you eventually spend time with will want to relax and be themselves around their partner. This is reality.,

So getting back to view of girls (mostly NTs) on Reddit about dating autistic guys - the take home message for other NT girls is;
You need to be patient
You need to be open minded
You need to tolerant

Conversely the above qualities should be what autistic guys should be looking for in a girl....whether NT or autistic

My comments that follow are basically in regard to women (especially NT women) and ASD men. I'm sorry to be pessimistic, but I don't read the thread the way you do, Aranger. Except for the few women on the spectrum on that thread (and not even all of them), the general trend I see in the responses is no, or only if he's pretty high functioning and empathetic or very special in some other ways. I mean to be totally fair and honest, thinking about being a (usually NT) woman and having to deal w/a dude on the spectrum, it's asking alot. Especially if she already has kids or thinks she might want to in the future. Women have enough problems in US society already without having to deal w/a childish robot, as alot of ASD men present themselves (either up front or after a short period of time into a relationship/dating). I know I'm being harsh and probably ableist in saying this, but I can honestly can see why the responses come across this way.

I'm not sure if the person who started this WP thread was coming at it from a pessimistic or other sort of mindset, but the Reddit thread simply feeds my pessimism b/c I'm pretty sure I wanna date an NT some day. I know others on this WP thread have posted about being happily in such a relationship or others where basically things are going well for the most part. And that's great and it should probably give even very anxious guys like me some hope (if and when we get our issues under control). But atm, I just don't see it, at least in my own case, but also that of alot of ASD people of whatever gender. I mean if I don't wanna be around ASD people most of the time and I'm on the spectrum, why would an NT woman wanna be around someone like me? Or most other ASD men or women or queer people?

This sounds fairly honest, there's also plenty of NT men who are in the same boat.