The UCSB shooter--an Aspie with a rant against women

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01 Aug 2014, 11:38 am

I balk at the word emptiness. That makes me think of a big empty box. My life is more like a bookcase filled with nicknacks with just one shelf that has nothing on it.

Tarentella is right. Nothing good comes of comparing our own lives to those of other people. We are all individuals on our own personal journeys. Thankfully these days we have the internet and can find people we relate to and communicate across continents and feel less like we are the only ones.

Yes, my friends ask men out. Not very often though, only when they meet one they really think they click with and enjoy being around. In retrospect, I was being overly dramatic, it's not as though no one has ever asked any of us out for coffee. It just never seems to go anywhere for the handful of us who are still on our own.

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01 Aug 2014, 11:51 am

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Some of us realise that we are not going to have families though. That doesn't bother me personally, but I feel sad for my friends who did want children. They tell me that men aren't really interested in asking them out. So it would seem from our perspective that men don't ask women out. So I think that proves the hypothesis that it is all a matter of perspective. Just because no one asks me out doesn't mean that men don't ask women out.

If men don't ask you out, ask them out.

It's not something I would prefer to do but I've generally had to do it.

I have done in the past, but I've lost my confidence as I've got older, especially since they all knocked me back, which is hardly surprising because my social skills were a bit off when I was younger. I have problems connecting with people and it takes me a long time to feel comfortable with someone and I slowly realise that I like them, just when I think that there might be something there they start going out with someone else or move abroad. I'm like the Disney version of good luck chuck.

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01 Aug 2014, 3:43 pm

it gets annoying when people say there is someone for everyone

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01 Aug 2014, 4:03 pm

^^Well, truly, there probably is. The trick is FINDING that someone.

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01 Aug 2014, 4:19 pm

WantToHaveALife wrote:

it gets annoying when people say there is someone for everyone

Eureka13 wrote:

^^Well, truly, there probably is. The trick is FINDING that someone.

I'm with WTHAL on this . . . I think the "there is someone for everyone" meme is complete mythology. Fantasy to give hope for meaning and purpose. And also a good tool for marketing. But even if you find someone and it works for a while, it won't work forever. Happily ever after is like a good death - it just doesn't happen.

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01 Aug 2014, 4:30 pm

hurtloam wrote:

I balk at the word emptiness. That makes me think of a big empty box. My life is more like a bookcase filled with nicknacks with just one shelf that has nothing on it.

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That's an emptiness in a significant part of life; that what I've really meant.

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01 Aug 2014, 4:31 pm

WantToHaveALife wrote:

it gets annoying when people say there is someone for everyone

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I am troll.

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01 Aug 2014, 4:32 pm

There are times when I fee empty, even though I'm married to someone.

I still believe there is someone out there for me. Whether I will find her, remains to be seen.

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01 Aug 2014, 4:34 pm

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There are times when I fee empty, even though I'm married to someone.

I still believe there is someone out there for me. Whether I will find her, remains to be seen.

Can I leech your positive energy? Careful, you might end up as a dry corpse.

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01 Aug 2014, 4:37 pm

My positive energy is regenerative--leech all you want.

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01 Aug 2014, 4:39 pm

Ann2011 wrote:

WantToHaveALife wrote:

it gets annoying when people say there is someone for everyone

Eureka13 wrote:

^^Well, truly, there probably is. The trick is FINDING that someone.

I'm not sure the "someone" part necessarily implies "someone perfect for me." Personally, I've had my "someone perfect for me" (at least while he was alive), and I don't expect to find another, so I'm unlikely to settle for "someone less perfect."

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01 Aug 2014, 4:42 pm

I think of it as: "as perfect as possible." Obviously, no one is "perfect" for anybody.

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01 Aug 2014, 4:43 pm

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My positive energy is regenerative--leech all you want.

I'll lock you in a cage then, like how Gargamel does to the smurfs.

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01 Aug 2014, 4:44 pm

kraftiekortie wrote:

There are times when I feel empty, even though I'm married to someone.

I still believe there is someone out there for me. Whether I will find her, remains to be seen.

The whole thing is mythology, kraftie, There being someone for you is time sensitive as everyone is constantly changing. If you can spend just a few moments with someone with whom you "connect," you're lucky. I think true love is transient. The rest is obligation.

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01 Aug 2014, 4:51 pm

Ann2011 wrote:

kraftiekortie wrote:

There are times when I feel empty, even though I'm married to someone.

I still believe there is someone out there for me. Whether I will find her, remains to be seen.

I am going to bed, good night.

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01 Aug 2014, 4:59 pm

Pleasant dreams.

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