Asexual Aspies

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Nope. I'm asexual and proud of it.

It's amazing how many people "discovered" they were Aspergian via AVEN or some discussion of asexuality.

Such was the case with me.

And right, sexuals in my experience have trouble separating
sexual attraction and romantic attraction
&
sexual attraction and sexual drive.
That gets into Theory of Mind.

For instance, I'm romantically attracted to men (but considering giving dating women a go for reasons I won't discuss)
but I'm still sexually attracted to no one, and that's been the case my entire life.

And I still...entertain myself ( ) once a month due to hormones,
but there's no sexual connotation to it-
anymore than a sexual person would think peeing is sexual.

People proclaiming asexuality to be a result of someone not having had sex the "right" way
are like those who don't understand homosexuality proclaiming that gay men just haven't met the "right" girl.

Either the attraction is there, or it isn't.










Aaand I'd really love to know why my original post about how I came to realize I'm asexual was deleted.

+1 here.

I knew I was Asexual, but I couldn't accept that just as thing in itself. There had to be a deeper reason. AS was the reason.

I can definitely echo the people who wrote in this thread (years ago) that they want a relationship that's close and committed, but doesn't revolve around sex or physical affection.

I don't think I could ever get involved deeply with someone who didn't understand Asexuality or wasn't one themselves.

I thought I was crazy. Apparently I am not the only one who thought I was asexual. It's not that I don't have any sex drive at all, because I do, but I don't really want to be in a sexual relationship with anybody. I just don't like the thought of it. I have been questioning my sexuality for years, and laughed at the thought of being asexual, but I guess I actually am.

Same here.

To me, sexuality seems to be intrinsically connected to human aesthetics (something else I've never understood).
It'd be lovely to be with someone just on the basis of similar values and lifestyle.

Stańczyk was probably an Asexual Aspie.


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I'm asexual because I feel as though I have no choice in the matter. Responsibility beckons me to think of what would happen if I put a woman through dealing with a man with AS. It's not that I don't have attractions, every biological thing does, it's just that rationally it would be unjust to not only put myself in a corner, but someone else with me. It might end before it began, and there would be reprecussions at every turn. How can I know what she feels if I have mind-blindness? How would I be able to help her? Then say the relationship turned into marriage, and speaking of sexuality, what if she wanted children? if AS is genetic, would it be justifiable to procreate and put a death sentence on a child to live with the same confusing affliction that I have? There are questions upon questions.

That's not asexuality though; that's a choice to remain celibate

no sexual desire. hate kissing with a passion. have tried several times to see if it was me or it was the dudes. my mom says my dad hates kissing (maybe that's tmi...) so maybe it's just a quirk or my dad and i have similar feelings. sometimes i'm a perv just for fun--talking, joking, drawing, and artsy fartsy stuff--but i'm also prude as hell and it's confusing for my friends to know whether a comment on their part will have me laughing or hiding and plugging my ears up. i've attempted fooling around and can only stomach it if drunk or on pills. hugs are good. cake is fun. cake is when you and some friends lie around in layers. cuddling is sometimes ok. ass-grabbing is almost always a plus. i am capable of crushes, and become very jealous when dudes i want get other girlfriends, but at the same time i know that if they were mine it wouldn't be fair to them. i'm a tease. i like to dress up sexy. hot body is a concern. that might be a competitive thing; if other women can be attractive, so can i, and maybe i can be better at it. sometimes i feel more like a boy, but i mean a child boy, not a man. that could just be my neoteny and the fact that i really am still a child (at 24...) but i've already done the little girl thing so the next stage of life is obviously the little boy thing. i'm wearing toy story underpants right now. that was definitely tmi. for some reason i'm convinced that that's hot and want to announce it all the time. especially the justice league underpants collection. anyway, my main concern is that i'll be lonely. i want to marry someone like edward gorey, a self-proclaimed asexual, and maybe even have separate bedrooms. we could have sleepovers, though. and could play wii wrestling and watch house together and maybe cuddle and pretend that it's inappropriate. i also want kids. i want a co-parent who lives in the same house. alas. this gets in the way!