Sucks to be single!

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Very true! I love being able to lose myself entirely...completely out of my brain...while listening (and dancing) at shows. For someone really awkward in social situations, somehow being in a crowd of 75K+ hippies in the Everglades was the most calm and most accepted I've felt in my entire life...

My current complication, though, he gets me in a way that no one ever has. Too bad he's not interested (I think).

There's a lot of self doubt and hopelessness infesting this board.

I can't really blame any potential partner not giving most of you guys and gals the time of day because all you lot seem to offer is putting them on a pedestal.

You want a gf? How about you stop deluding yourself that the cute girl in the tight leggings is going to look your way? She wants someone who could offer her excitment, passion, and low self esteem isn't it.

Also try having reasonable expectations of a girlfriend or boyfriend and you might score with someone on your level.

I dunno, relationships cause problems, at least when you're alone, you don't have to deal with relationship issues.

And as far as I'm concerned, money > love.

It's a subjective matter . . . on one hand, you have people that don't want it, yet may need it; want it and don't need it; then don't want and don't need; then want it and need it. However, one never knows until one tries. It's an odd little aspect of human life, but it's an aspect that even we cannot understand . . . or over intellectualize. At the core, it's a survival mechanic to seek a mate, reproduce, ensure offspring survival, then die happy. However, we've added emotional standards, and sex can now be used for pleasure due to controls available. We're all preprogrammed to seek a soulmate/companion, but because of complexities, it becomes all the harder to achieve. Having not dated, face to face, in about 10 years (in a time I still didn't understand why I would want to), I can honestly say that I'm still nowhere near an answer as to why I would want to, nor what I would be able to offer. Yet, I am still compelled to try, having started up an OKCupid account, sent a message to at least 15 women, only responded by 3, 1 of whom went on longer . . . but to no avail from the look of it (assuming she doesn't respond to the last message I sent). It's because of that emotional barrier that makes any form of relationship difficult for us (ie, seems small talk is a near necessity these days). But, my usual mentality is to never go looking for something . . . what you need usually finds you (learned that from playing with Legos ages ago ).

Yes it sucks. I hate it when at some point in the year, all my friends start relationships with each other and I'm ALWAYS left out. Did I miss a meeting? Then I remember, "Oh, that's right. I'm a fat girl, therefore men my age would never want me." Then I wish I had alcohol. D:


I made an account on OkCupid and I'm in two PM conversations right now. I know one of them will not work out, it's not that he's too smart but he seems smug and hell-bent on proving me wrong. The other guy works at a center for the mentally ret*d and has an autistic brother and referred to Asperger's as "fascinating." The second one might work out but I've never done online dating before and it makes me nervous. I can't drive (and haven't told him yet) so I would either have my mom drop me off for the date (LAME) or have him pick me up (seems awkward for a first date right?). I shouldn't get ahead of myself. He probably doesn't see me that way like the vast majority of men my age.