What is "creepy"?

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Mack27
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24 Jan 2011, 12:39 am

People have built-in "creepometers" and tragically, aspies set them off. Probably because most people don't have built-in "aspie-meters." You can be an actor and "fool" the creepometer into not going off, but it will probably go off eventually, the trick is to let them know who you are before it happens. You can accept that it will go off and demonstrate your non-creepiness over time, but this will probably get you stuck in the "friend" zone with anyone willing to let you convince them.

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24 Jan 2011, 8:24 am

BlueMage wrote:

Looking at that picture and avatar picture you Grisha seem very tightly wound and unrelaxed, he looks like he's thinking very hard.

But I am always thinking really hard, I can't help it...

Probably about geology... :wink:

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24 Jan 2011, 8:30 am

Grisha wrote:

BlueMage wrote:

Looking at that picture and avatar picture you Grisha seem very tightly wound and unrelaxed, he looks like he's thinking very hard.

But I am always thinking really hard, I can't help it...

Probably about geology... :wink:

You a geologist? Just curious.

BlueMage wrote:

Looking at that picture and avatar picture you Grisha seem very tightly wound and unrelaxed, he looks like he's thinking very hard.

I think this describes aspies in general. We all think about something intensely.

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24 Jan 2011, 9:22 am

Biokinetica wrote:

Grisha wrote:

BlueMage wrote:

Looking at that picture and avatar picture you Grisha seem very tightly wound and unrelaxed, he looks like he's thinking very hard.

But I am always thinking really hard, I can't help it...

Probably about geology... :wink:

You a geologist? Just curious.

BlueMage wrote:

Looking at that picture and avatar picture you Grisha seem very tightly wound and unrelaxed, he looks like he's thinking very hard.

I think this describes aspies in general. We all think about something intensely.

No, not a geologist, I do have to make a living...

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24 Jan 2011, 10:38 pm

zen_mistress wrote:

I do like Oscar Wilde.

But, yeah, Ive always seemed creepy, and Im not even a male.

Oscar Wilde rocks. Too bad his contemporary Englishmen villianized him! His plays and entire canon , for that matter, are timeless!

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27 Jan 2011, 8:02 am

Biokinetica wrote:

Grisha wrote:

BlueMage wrote:

Looking at that picture and avatar picture you Grisha seem very tightly wound and unrelaxed, he looks like he's thinking very hard.

But I am always thinking really hard, I can't help it...

Probably about geology... :wink:

You a geologist? Just curious.

BlueMage wrote:

Looking at that picture and avatar picture you Grisha seem very tightly wound and unrelaxed, he looks like he's thinking very hard.

I think this describes aspies in general. We all think about something intensely.

I thought the "aspie stare" is supposed to all blank and faraway, shrug.

I'm not trying to pick on you Grisha, just sayin'. Overall you're pretty photogenic for a guy your age, and you just look like a thoughtful and sensitive guy in my opinion, not especially "creepy".

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27 Jan 2011, 9:23 am

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You're right about that photo, but it is an accurate representation of what you're likely to see across the dinner table, better to get it out early, I think. I've actually got a pretty full dating agenda so I guess it's not that bad...

What do you mean my age?!

If I didn't have a shuffleboard tournament to go to I'd... ;-)

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30 Jul 2012, 2:30 am

ToadOfSteel wrote:

:salut:

Super creep reporting in...

You need to add a type for people like me (and a lot of aspies out there): People who want to experience a full relationship, but have been hurt too much to really get out there anymore. I'd call it the Gollum type, the otherwise-good folks who have been corrupted over time through pain and suffering and an unfulfilled desire to become monsters...

This guys right. some people have been hurt so bad that all they want is to be back in the loving relationship they were previously in. when doing this, the guy can seem creepy because he wants to skip all of the normal courting activities and go right to being seriously in love. Unfortunately, i feel the only cure to this form of creepy (in which i include myself) is to get a piece of p**** that you dont care about, or to get serious therapy. hopefully im wrong.

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30 Jul 2012, 2:48 am

Creep: Any individual who is not me.

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30 Jul 2012, 8:29 am

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What I find funny is I have seen guys go up to girls they know and ask them out, the girl is not interested and says "get away from me, creep.". But if a guy that the girl likes goes up to her, does the excect same thing and says the same thing the creep did, and that's ok.

Well, here's the thing.....it's usually applied to people who are found unattractive. I can give you an example from my own life. I once told a girl I liked that she was beautiful. That's all I said to her. Didn't touch her, look at her funny, or anything. She avoided me from then on. However, a few days later, I saw this guy go up to her and say something completely out of line (to the point where I can't even post it here!) and then the next day I found out they were going out.

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30 Jul 2012, 8:46 am

DialAForAwesome wrote:

Unfortunately, that's very true. There are no attractive creeps - by definition, it's a word applied to people, usually men, who are deemed unattractive.
The different categories for creep and friend, or friend and potential partner, have been set up long before you open your mouth.

Before you approached her, she probably already had a set of rules set.
"If he says anything I might construe as a romantic gesture, he's a creep."
"If he says anything about his professional career, I will talk to him."

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30 Jul 2012, 8:54 am

Got to love those double standards. So if a guy that is good looking says something to a girl that thinks he is good looking, its ok. But if a non good looking guy says the same thing to the girl, that's being a creep.

So when did it start when we judged people on how they looked instead of how they acted?

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30 Jul 2012, 9:11 am

KenM wrote:

So when did it start when we judged people on how they looked instead of how they acted?

That's a natural part of our species - not just looked, but appeared. Your clothes, your social status, implications of material wealth - those also play a large role in determining whether or not a gesture you make will be deemed creepy or great. It sucks immensely for men who are unattractive and whose friendly gestures are often even misconstrued as creepy behaviour.

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30 Jul 2012, 9:14 am

KenM wrote:

i remember someone telling me once a story which was educational to me. it was about how if an attractive and swarthy male opens a door for a female, the female will think "how chivalrous! what a nice gesture", but if someone who is ugly and deformed opens a door for a female, they will think "what the hell does that guy want? he gives me the creeps! i wish he would stop paying attention to me", but i do not think what he said was true.

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30 Jul 2012, 9:33 am

I can answer the title of this thread with one single image...

[img][800:755]http://sonichu.com/w/images/b/ba/1240785819569.jpg[/img]

Chris Chan, is, in my opinion, the epitome of a "creepy" person.

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30 Jul 2012, 9:42 am

KenM wrote:

Meh its just the male version of guys like funny girls but only if they are attractive. And it has just as much truth.
To be honest I havent seen much evidence of this one offline though one could argue that its not something that they talk about/they do so in a sneaky way and most people dont see that I guess

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