What type of man do you not want?

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08 Mar 2011, 1:33 pm

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Why would it be so important to someone else that i was ambitious? I've never gotten that. I can understand someone being ambitiious, it's foisting their values on someone else that i dont get. I think that it's status and money.


Ambition is a trait that many women look for because they think it equates to being taken care of. It doesn't.


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08 Mar 2011, 1:36 pm

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Why would it be so important to someone else that i was ambitious? I've never gotten that. I can understand someone being ambitiious, it's foisting their values on someone else that i dont get. I think that it's status and money.


I think "ambitious" is code for "financially secure", some people are shy about saying it directly...



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08 Mar 2011, 1:40 pm

Yeah, but it's a bit more than that. Those that say that usually mean "someone that will rise to the top and have lots of money I can spend".

There's nothing wrong with wanting any partner you choose to be financially stable, but requiring them to make lots of money is shallow and quite often unrealistic.


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08 Mar 2011, 1:51 pm

TeaEarlGreyHot wrote:
Yeah, but it's a bit more than that. Those that say that usually mean "someone that will rise to the top and have lots of money I can spend".

There's nothing wrong with wanting any partner you choose to be financially stable, but requiring them to make lots of money is shallow and quite often unrealistic.


There's absolutely nothing wrong with wanting financial stability, it's the "status" part of ambition have a problem with.

I like money, and I do pretty well in that department, but I could care f*ck-all about "status", and I would drop anyone who did like a flaming bag of sh*t.



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08 Mar 2011, 1:52 pm

I have dropped someone for being concerned about status.


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08 Mar 2011, 1:54 pm

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Saying what not to want is easier than saying what to want.

No sane girl would want an abuser , jerk , beater, drunk.... those are granted.

The thread would be more interesting and more parallel to its counterpart if it was "What type of man do you want?"


I agree.

I've been told several times lately that girls tend to want someone a bit rough.

Kind, gentle and honest seem to be in short demand. :(



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08 Mar 2011, 1:54 pm

There's also the part of ambition that's about wanting to *understand* something and do well. The sort of ambition that drives you to write something beautiful or work out some sort of explanation for something, just so you can stand back and feel like you achieved something.

That's the sort of ambition I find attractive.



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08 Mar 2011, 1:56 pm

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jamieboy wrote:
Why would it be so important to someone else that i was ambitious? I've never gotten that. I can understand someone being ambitiious, it's foisting their values on someone else that i dont get. I think that it's status and money.


I think "ambitious" is code for "financially secure", some people are shy about saying it directly...


I think it's an 'alpha-ism'


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08 Mar 2011, 1:56 pm

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There's also the part of ambition that's about wanting to *understand* something and do well. The sort of ambition that drives you to write something beautiful or work out some sort of explanation for something, just so you can stand back and feel like you achieved something.

That's the sort of ambition I find attractive.


I agree. This isn't generally what people mean when they talk about ambition, though.


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08 Mar 2011, 1:58 pm

Niall wrote:
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Saying what not to want is easier than saying what to want.

No sane girl would want an abuser , jerk , beater, drunk.... those are granted.

The thread would be more interesting and more parallel to its counterpart if it was "What type of man do you want?"


I agree.

I've been told several times lately that girls tend to want someone a bit rough.

Kind, gentle and honest seem to be in short demand. :(


Define rough.


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08 Mar 2011, 1:58 pm

TeaEarlGreyHot wrote:
I have dropped someone for being concerned about status.


Good for you!

Do people honestly think that other people look up to them because they flaunt their material success? Other people either don't care, or think you're an assh*le for doing it...



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08 Mar 2011, 1:59 pm

TeaEarlGreyHot wrote:
Niall wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
Saying what not to want is easier than saying what to want.

No sane girl would want an abuser , jerk , beater, drunk.... those are granted.

The thread would be more interesting and more parallel to its counterpart if it was "What type of man do you want?"


I agree.

I've been told several times lately that girls tend to want someone a bit rough.

Kind, gentle and honest seem to be in short demand. :(


Define rough.


I think they mean rough in a sexual way. Whilst still being tender at other times. I can do that Niall! Give them my number.



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08 Mar 2011, 2:01 pm

If it's about sex, then I have to say always gentle is BORING!


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08 Mar 2011, 2:02 pm

TeaEarlGreyHot wrote:
If it's about sex, then I have to always gentle is BORING!


My ambition is to get high and watch tv all day whilst occasionally taking a break for some rough lovin'



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08 Mar 2011, 2:04 pm

LMAO


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08 Mar 2011, 2:12 pm

TeaEarlGreyHot wrote:
If it's about sex, then I have to say always gentle is BORING!


Yeah, I get the idea.

Another way I'll never fit in. Cavemen rule. :(