what is this 'bad boy' stereotype all about?

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not to brag(big hit im bragging ) but i opened the door for a nice looking red head girl at college about a week ago smiled at her and motioned her in and after class she gave me her number

we talked, she not my type and we dont share any of the same interests but it just goes to show u dont hav to be these sterotypes women (and men) often fall for to be attractive

im friends with women who fall head over heels for geeky-nerds, and men who find judgmental crazy women sexy, i also know women who pick men solely based on looks and men who pick solely based on a persons mind

there is no right way this whole relationship thing works

clothing and tattoos do not make a person act a certain way. perhaps they are nice and gentle men who are supportive and kind to women. THOSE are traits to cultivate.

Actually alpha girls are more likely to avoid bad boys. Its the nice girls that seek balance with the bad boy....

from http://www.guardian.co.uk/science/2010/ ... s-bad-boys (thanks Moog)

Irresistible rascals

From a nice girl, aged 37
Dear Carole, Why do girls – even nice girls – fall for bad boys, even when the girls in question are 37 and should know much better? My friends and I don't understand ourselves.


Carole replies:
The "dark triad" of human behaviour consists of narcissism (or self-obsession), psychopathy (including callous, impulsive, thrill-seeking, risk-taking behaviour) and Machiavellianism (exploitative, manipulative and deceitful behaviour). Bad boys exhibit dark triad traits and their behaviour, according to one theory, is genetic, meaning they are unlikely to change their ways.

These types of males tend to favour short-term relationships (including one night stands) over long-term relationships. They also attempt to compete with other males by poaching mates for brief affairs.

Research has shown that a touch of evil can bring fitness benefits: these males tend to have more female partners and thus more reproductive opportunities than other males. The fictional character of James Bond is frequently cited as possessing dark triad traits.

Although the dark triad personality type appears to be universal in human society, having been identified in 57 countries, it does exact real costs – otherwise bad boys would be more common. Those exhibiting dark triad behaviour need to prey on the cooperative and unsuspecting.

If bad boys stay in one place and among the same group of humans for too long their psychopathy will be exposed. It has been predicted that this evolutionary strategy can only succeed if bad boys manage to achieve anonymity or lead an itinerant lifestyle.

Evolutionary-anthropological research on hunter gatherers, such as the !Kung San of the Kalahari, has shown that successful, risk-taking hunters – who "bring home the bacon" for the group – get the most mating opportunities.

As a single trait, successful risk-taking is universally appreciated as a sign of good genes. The combination of brave, risk-taking behaviour is frequently attractive to females in the short-term. But in the long term, although females remain attracted to bravery and risk-taking they also look for the crucial additional trait of altruism.

Thus, if given a choice, a female will apparently favour a brave altruist over an opportunistic risk-taker.

Ironically, "nice girls" may be the only females who tolerate the dark triad male personality, forgiving these naughty boys and inadvertently giving them yet another chance to misbehave.

Are you prepared to be a single mother? A bad boy son who survives all the risk-taking behaviour to reach reproductive age may make you a granny many times over, but are you really looking for quantity over quality?

You need to ask yourself this: "Do I want to be another notch on this man's bedpost, or would it be wiser to hold out for a brave altruist?"

not to brag(big hit im bragging ) but i opened the door for a nice looking red head girl at college about a week ago smiled at her and motioned her in and after class she gave me her number(kinda creepy)

not to brag(big hit im bragging ) but i opened the door for a nice looking red head girl at college about a week ago smiled at her and motioned her in and after class she gave me her number(kinda creepy)

not to brag(big hit im bragging ) but i opened the door for a nice looking red head girl at college about a week ago smiled at her and motioned her in and after class she gave me her number(kinda creepy)

Sometime today, I'm going to open the door for a woman and then slam it in her face.

Sometime today, I'm going to open the door for a woman and then slam it in her face.

Is that the latest PUA technique?

not terribly surprised that you would cross over into actually acting on the bitterness and negativity that you carry around. women are not horrible creatures who deserve bad treatment from anyone - any more than men are such creatures.

there is no excuse for being mean to a random person. it has nothing to do with her.... but it has everything to do with your own internal issues. you're choosing to behave unacceptably. you really can't hide your inner rage from women. they will sense it and act accordingly. women will give you a wider and wider berth and be less and less likely to even be polite to you. they have no reason to be nice to you when clearly you carry around so much nastiness.

therapy is strongly recommended if you actually want to change anything, because at this poijnt you are creating your own problems.