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Who_Am_I wrote:
nessa238 wrote:
Who_Am_I wrote:
nessa238 wrote:
Who_Am_I wrote:
aspiesandra27 wrote:
B3dsage Nessa was *not* being rude!! !! !! !!
Just because some of us don't concur with saying "I'm flattered", it doesn't mean that we would go to the extreme of being rude! There is such a thing as middle ground. I know my manners thank you very much!
And Who_Am_I what's up with CAPS? Hello?
Getting a little too flustered?
Like Boo said, you can be polite and tell them you have a partner for example, so it gives them the "right" message that you are not interested by not beating around the bush.
Unfortunately some men might get the message with "I'm flattered", but others might not. And I stand my ground that I would *not* say I am flattered if I wasn't. It would actually annoy me.
Just because some of us don't concur with saying "I'm flattered", it doesn't mean that we would go to the extreme of being rude! There is such a thing as middle ground. I know my manners thank you very much!
And Who_Am_I what's up with CAPS? Hello?
Getting a little too flustered?
Like Boo said, you can be polite and tell them you have a partner for example, so it gives them the "right" message that you are not interested by not beating around the bush.
Unfortunately some men might get the message with "I'm flattered", but others might not. And I stand my ground that I would *not* say I am flattered if I wasn't. It would actually annoy me.
The caps were because people were completely missing the point. Get it yet?
(And unlike Nessa, I actually have some experience with being asked out. I've actually seen what works and what doesn't, but I guess that counts for nothing?)
Do you actually read my posts at all?
I have plenty of experience of being asked out, just not by loads of sleazy chancers in public places
looking for the easiest option in the vicinity!
and I gave an example of how it did happen to me in the past anyway, which you appear to have conveniently ignored
It's certainly nothing to be boasting about that's for sure!
I hope you aren't insinuating that I'm "easy".
Well done on being asked out.
Take from it what you will!
Men suss out what they think will be an easy option - they don't like to work hard for it if they can help it
so if someone's giving off 'come and get me' vibes they'll be right there
No, come on, Miss "I'm So Aspie And Direct"- explain yourself, or I'll presume that you did just insult me.
I'm not sure how showing no cleavage or leg whatsoever (oh, sorry, the lower halves of my shins have been showing lately. It is slu*ty Summer after all), and only looking at people to make sure I don't walk into them is giving off "come and get me" vibes, but I'm sure you'll be able to tell me how it is.
I thought you already knew it all, you're the world's expert on men after all
Also your 'mind is in the gutter' according to your profile
hmmmm
I wonder if you project that vibe?
20 Feb 2013, 7:35 pm
nessa238 wrote:
Who_Am_I wrote:
nessa238 wrote:
Who_Am_I wrote:
nessa238 wrote:
Who_Am_I wrote:
aspiesandra27 wrote:
B3dsage Nessa was *not* being rude!! !! !! !!
Just because some of us don't concur with saying "I'm flattered", it doesn't mean that we would go to the extreme of being rude! There is such a thing as middle ground. I know my manners thank you very much!
And Who_Am_I what's up with CAPS? Hello?
Getting a little too flustered?
Like Boo said, you can be polite and tell them you have a partner for example, so it gives them the "right" message that you are not interested by not beating around the bush.
Unfortunately some men might get the message with "I'm flattered", but others might not. And I stand my ground that I would *not* say I am flattered if I wasn't. It would actually annoy me.
Just because some of us don't concur with saying "I'm flattered", it doesn't mean that we would go to the extreme of being rude! There is such a thing as middle ground. I know my manners thank you very much!
And Who_Am_I what's up with CAPS? Hello?
Getting a little too flustered?
Like Boo said, you can be polite and tell them you have a partner for example, so it gives them the "right" message that you are not interested by not beating around the bush.
Unfortunately some men might get the message with "I'm flattered", but others might not. And I stand my ground that I would *not* say I am flattered if I wasn't. It would actually annoy me.
The caps were because people were completely missing the point. Get it yet?
(And unlike Nessa, I actually have some experience with being asked out. I've actually seen what works and what doesn't, but I guess that counts for nothing?)
Do you actually read my posts at all?
I have plenty of experience of being asked out, just not by loads of sleazy chancers in public places
looking for the easiest option in the vicinity!
and I gave an example of how it did happen to me in the past anyway, which you appear to have conveniently ignored
It's certainly nothing to be boasting about that's for sure!
I hope you aren't insinuating that I'm "easy".
Well done on being asked out.
Take from it what you will!
Men suss out what they think will be an easy option - they don't like to work hard for it if they can help it
so if someone's giving off 'come and get me' vibes they'll be right there
No, come on, Miss "I'm So Aspie And Direct"- explain yourself, or I'll presume that you did just insult me.
I'm not sure how showing no cleavage or leg whatsoever (oh, sorry, the lower halves of my shins have been showing lately. It is slu*ty Summer after all), and only looking at people to make sure I don't walk into them is giving off "come and get me" vibes, but I'm sure you'll be able to tell me how it is.
I thought you already knew it all, you're the world's expert on men after all
Also your 'mind is in the gutter' according to your profile
hmmmm
I wonder if you project that vibe?
I never said I was, just that I have a little (not much, really) experience in fending them off.
Fantasising about it and doing it are 2 different things. I also fantasise about punching people who annoy me in the supermarket, but in reality I'm completely non-violent (and known as harmless).
In public I'm normally too overloaded to think about it, so your theory about "projecting vibes" is a failure, I'm sorry to say.
(It seems like ever since you've been here you've been going off and making all kinds of assumptions about people, really. I don't know why I'm bothering to argue with you.)
20 Feb 2013, 7:39 pm
Who_Am_I wrote:
nessa238 wrote:
Who_Am_I wrote:
nessa238 wrote:
Who_Am_I wrote:
nessa238 wrote:
Who_Am_I wrote:
aspiesandra27 wrote:
B3dsage Nessa was *not* being rude!! !! !! !!
Just because some of us don't concur with saying "I'm flattered", it doesn't mean that we would go to the extreme of being rude! There is such a thing as middle ground. I know my manners thank you very much!
And Who_Am_I what's up with CAPS? Hello?
Getting a little too flustered?
Like Boo said, you can be polite and tell them you have a partner for example, so it gives them the "right" message that you are not interested by not beating around the bush.
Unfortunately some men might get the message with "I'm flattered", but others might not. And I stand my ground that I would *not* say I am flattered if I wasn't. It would actually annoy me.
Just because some of us don't concur with saying "I'm flattered", it doesn't mean that we would go to the extreme of being rude! There is such a thing as middle ground. I know my manners thank you very much!
And Who_Am_I what's up with CAPS? Hello?
Getting a little too flustered?
Like Boo said, you can be polite and tell them you have a partner for example, so it gives them the "right" message that you are not interested by not beating around the bush.
Unfortunately some men might get the message with "I'm flattered", but others might not. And I stand my ground that I would *not* say I am flattered if I wasn't. It would actually annoy me.
The caps were because people were completely missing the point. Get it yet?
(And unlike Nessa, I actually have some experience with being asked out. I've actually seen what works and what doesn't, but I guess that counts for nothing?)
Do you actually read my posts at all?
I have plenty of experience of being asked out, just not by loads of sleazy chancers in public places
looking for the easiest option in the vicinity!
and I gave an example of how it did happen to me in the past anyway, which you appear to have conveniently ignored
It's certainly nothing to be boasting about that's for sure!
I hope you aren't insinuating that I'm "easy".
Well done on being asked out.
Take from it what you will!
Men suss out what they think will be an easy option - they don't like to work hard for it if they can help it
so if someone's giving off 'come and get me' vibes they'll be right there
No, come on, Miss "I'm So Aspie And Direct"- explain yourself, or I'll presume that you did just insult me.
I'm not sure how showing no cleavage or leg whatsoever (oh, sorry, the lower halves of my shins have been showing lately. It is slu*ty Summer after all), and only looking at people to make sure I don't walk into them is giving off "come and get me" vibes, but I'm sure you'll be able to tell me how it is.
I thought you already knew it all, you're the world's expert on men after all
Also your 'mind is in the gutter' according to your profile
hmmmm
I wonder if you project that vibe?
I never said I was, just that I have a little (not much, really) experience in fending them off.
Fantasising about it and doing it are 2 different things. I also fantasise about punching people who annoy me in the supermarket, but in reality I'm completely non-violent (and known as harmless).
In public I'm normally too overloaded to think about it, so your theory about "projecting vibes" is a failure, I'm sorry to say.
You were quick enough to make a catty remark about me hardly ever being asked out in that overly blatant, pushy manner though weren't you, as if it signified I was some kind of loser of the female species
Am I because I don't have to fend men off?
Is that a signifier of the peak of female achievement in life - being hit on all the time?
It seems like it is to most people and I find that incredibly sad
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20 Feb 2013, 7:45 pm
nessa238 wrote:
Who_Am_I wrote:
nessa238 wrote:
Who_Am_I wrote:
nessa238 wrote:
Who_Am_I wrote:
nessa238 wrote:
Who_Am_I wrote:
aspiesandra27 wrote:
B3dsage Nessa was *not* being rude!! !! !! !!
Just because some of us don't concur with saying "I'm flattered", it doesn't mean that we would go to the extreme of being rude! There is such a thing as middle ground. I know my manners thank you very much!
And Who_Am_I what's up with CAPS? Hello?
Getting a little too flustered?
Like Boo said, you can be polite and tell them you have a partner for example, so it gives them the "right" message that you are not interested by not beating around the bush.
Unfortunately some men might get the message with "I'm flattered", but others might not. And I stand my ground that I would *not* say I am flattered if I wasn't. It would actually annoy me.
Just because some of us don't concur with saying "I'm flattered", it doesn't mean that we would go to the extreme of being rude! There is such a thing as middle ground. I know my manners thank you very much!
And Who_Am_I what's up with CAPS? Hello?
Getting a little too flustered?
Like Boo said, you can be polite and tell them you have a partner for example, so it gives them the "right" message that you are not interested by not beating around the bush.
Unfortunately some men might get the message with "I'm flattered", but others might not. And I stand my ground that I would *not* say I am flattered if I wasn't. It would actually annoy me.
The caps were because people were completely missing the point. Get it yet?
(And unlike Nessa, I actually have some experience with being asked out. I've actually seen what works and what doesn't, but I guess that counts for nothing?)
Do you actually read my posts at all?
I have plenty of experience of being asked out, just not by loads of sleazy chancers in public places
looking for the easiest option in the vicinity!
and I gave an example of how it did happen to me in the past anyway, which you appear to have conveniently ignored
It's certainly nothing to be boasting about that's for sure!
I hope you aren't insinuating that I'm "easy".
Well done on being asked out.
Take from it what you will!
Men suss out what they think will be an easy option - they don't like to work hard for it if they can help it
so if someone's giving off 'come and get me' vibes they'll be right there
No, come on, Miss "I'm So Aspie And Direct"- explain yourself, or I'll presume that you did just insult me.
I'm not sure how showing no cleavage or leg whatsoever (oh, sorry, the lower halves of my shins have been showing lately. It is slu*ty Summer after all), and only looking at people to make sure I don't walk into them is giving off "come and get me" vibes, but I'm sure you'll be able to tell me how it is.
I thought you already knew it all, you're the world's expert on men after all
Also your 'mind is in the gutter' according to your profile
hmmmm
I wonder if you project that vibe?
I never said I was, just that I have a little (not much, really) experience in fending them off.
Fantasising about it and doing it are 2 different things. I also fantasise about punching people who annoy me in the supermarket, but in reality I'm completely non-violent (and known as harmless).
In public I'm normally too overloaded to think about it, so your theory about "projecting vibes" is a failure, I'm sorry to say.
You were quick enough to make a catty remark about me hardly ever being asked out in that overly blatant, pushy manner though weren't you, as if it signified I was some kind of loser of the female species
Yet you don't want to be 'Queen of the Hit-Upons' when it comes right down to it do you?
Make your mind up is all I'd say!
You're right about the bolded part; it was catty, and I'm sorry.
I wasn't trying to signify that you were a loser, though (wait, isn't inferring things a bit NT, Miss "I Call People Out Daily For Not Coming Across As Aspie Enough"?), I was just saying that I'd had slightly more experience in the cold-approach arena. I might have been able to word it more nicely, though.
Being approached doesn't mean that someone is easy, you know. It might just mean that they're attractive (and no, I'm not saying you're ugly).
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20 Feb 2013, 11:39 pm
B3dsage wrote:
nessa238 wrote:
Men suss out what they think will be an easy option - they don't like to work hard for it if they can help it
so if someone's giving off 'come and get me' vibes they'll be right there
so if someone's giving off 'come and get me' vibes they'll be right there
You recommend that women just walk away when men hit on them so that the men don't feel inclined to pursue women further, and then criticize men because they "don't like to work hard for it"?
It sounds to me like you have some serious negativity toward men in general.
I don't have that experience. In my experience, men like a challenge. A lot. Even one they aren't sure is winnable.
Men will hit on you if they want to hit on you, it's that simple.
There is no need to be rude if you are going to reject or accept them - just be polite and assertive. (by assertive I mean keep your boundaries in a non-defensive way)
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