Does this count as a date?

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Yep.....this was before cable. My first exposure to cable was in 1975-1976. Then I didn't have it until 1990.

Nope...don't mention her weight.

Hey, I'm not stupid.

You're a smart guy. There are "smart" guys who feel compelled to mention weight. She probably dresses pretty well.

I know the feeling well. I once dated a woman whose BMI pushed 50. My wife and I are about 30.

Has it gone up to 45 Celsius yet in Adelaide?

Yes, she does.

I got from BMI 38 to 24 and yet she may not care.

No, it was only in the 30s today.

Wow a BMI of 40 and she is average looking? She must have an incredible face and hair.

I was trying to be kind. I meant average in the euphemistic sense.

It is only called a date if the girl finds you attractive.

if she doesn't, she would call it just outing.

I don't know whether or not she finds me attractive.

I still think it's more dateline that I asked the only girl in our group and not any of my other colleague.

Have you told her about your losing over 100 lbs?

Please let me emphasize: I don't find people of a certain weight necessarily unattractive. I have been attracted to some pretty hefty people in my time. It's really how one "carries oneself." It's also the overall attitude.

If a person, whether looking like a fashion model, or obese as heck, should constantly exhibit negativity, I would be turned off, and tuned out.

I'm not sure. I may have mentioned it to someone else in front of her. Also she may have overheard the supervisor saying that I'd lost of a lot of weight since my driver's license photo was taken. This one time I discussed weight loss techniques with her, (regarding my weight, not hers). She had a few tips which made me think she has some interest in weight loss. Really I was fishing to see if she had any interest in the subject. Also after the first week she refused to eat the catered food because she said it made her gain weight.

All this makes me think she may be trying to lose weight on her own but I think in some ways it would be harder for her than me. Her more active lifestyle means it's not practical for her to go on crash diets like I do every few months. I think if she took phentermine the ice hockey league may consider it a performance enhancing substance.

Hmmm. Maybe. I've seen some fat girls with cute faces but she's more average in the face (yes, I mean average in the literal sense this time).

She generally has a positive and well adjusted attitude. I've never heard her complain about anything but things related to her auditory and gustatory sensory issues.

My feeling is: She'd make a good friend. I wouldn't "try" anything with her just yet. If the attraction isn't there, it isn't there. You might become attracted to her within the course of your friendship.

I've made that mistake: pretending I was attracted to someone when I wasn't. I paid for it.

I think she'd be good for you, actually.

But don't "put your eggs in one basket" when it comes to her.

How will I pay for it if I pretend to attracted to her?

Through text I asked her out for coffee again and she was unavailable until after we start work in about three weeks. Maybe she wasn't into me after all.

Next she wrote "I do hope you have a wonderful weekend and holiday and I'll see you in the new year". Sounds kind of formal. Maybe that's her way of telling me to back off. Or she could just be busy.

I don't claim to know this for sure but my instinct (and experience and being a woman) tells me this was her way of telling you to definitely not try again to catch up before then, because she is not interested in you in that way.

There were clues earlier on that you provided that indicated she was not interested. I didn't say anything in case I was wrong but I feel more confident now that I am right. Sounds like she is enjoys being your friend though (as long as you don't make things awkward), seeing each other "as it happens" rather than proactively arranging stuff.