Toxic femininity

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i get what you mean - but I lack any attachment to clothes whatsoever for me it's not a way I'll express myself, i just don't put any effort into it apart from washing it daily. all my clothes are at least 10 years old, but that's because I hate shopping clothes. I have one pyjama I wore when i was 10, and I can still fit into it.

I don't think the three girls that would date a millionaire were polygamous. More likely they would have dumped their guy for a millionaire. Most gold diggers probably are NT and monogamous.

She can marry the wealthiest man while not necessarily being a gold digger and simply just loves him.

But if he's as old as her grandpa, or if he's extremely ugly and morbidly fat while she's one of the 100 Sexiest Models in the World, or she leaves him once he loses his wealth then ...yeah...chances are high she's a gold digger and I would way be less inclined to believe her love was genuine.

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I read the whole screenshot series of conversations. Wow.

I think the most toxic person/least moral person in that whole thing was the one willing to reconsider her boyfriend. She is willing to hurt somebody else (her boyfriend) for her own gain.

I don't consider either you or the woman who would be girlfriend-on-the-side to be toxic/immoral. Why? Because neither of you would be causing harm. Your prank causes no harm and being one more woman in an already poly relationship doesn't look like harm to me either. It's because it's already a poly relationship. If this woman was willing to be girl-on-the-side to a man whose wife thought she had a monogamous relationship with her husband, then harm is being caused to this wife because she is being cheated on. In poly relationships, the whole idea of "cheating on" seems different and maybe doesn't exist. (Or maybe it does. I don't know.)

I am convinced.

I want 4 wives + n girlfriends, time to build my harem!


But in reality, this not how Sultans and wealthy princes do it, they would marry a new wife or take a new 'cohabitate' - without even taking the opinion of the first wife, for them she simply has no say in the matter. If the wife's family is equally powerful then they might use some power of pressure to prevent this.

The girl is too naive to believe that my fictional 2 wives wouldn't mind .

I can't say I have dealt with golddiggers IRL. What I have dealt with are the types that believe that I as a man should be able to know what a girl wants without them communicating this to me. The vast majority of women I dated had this belief that men should be mind readers and that we shouldn't have to ask them what is wrong when it is very clear that they are bothered by something and need to talk it out.
May have been more immaturity than toxic behavior. Or perhaps it could have been Boo being the other guy in the picture offering himself as a millionaire to these girls.

Boo, you mean there are far worse sexism problems in middle-eastern countries? I would never have guessed!

not so sure about it being worse in mid-eastern countries. i had some friends who'd be interested in men with cars even at pre-teen age. Balkan area here, perhaps it explains things though

It is not immoral to have feelings for someone else. It is immoral to cheat because you have not told the other person.

I guess this is part of the reason why marriage doesn't mesh well with me; people aren't owned, even in the most loving relationships. If you desire someone else besides your partner, it is equally if not more bad for the partner to tell you that you cannot be with that person. One's own happiness can and should never trump someone else's happiness-you are responsible for yourself, and they are responsible for themselves. To tell someone else 'you can't do this thing that will make you happy because it will make me unhappy' is selfish, puts your locus of control of happiness onto someone else, and is attempting to control another person like they must obey you. It also removes the joy of what love is; freely giving of yourself to someone else, because if it is being done because some social expectation that must be fulfilled, how can one be sure it is freely given?

It is, however, also the social norm, which is disturbing to the say the least.

This is kinda off topic; not talking about gold diggers here :-p

Take a general statement about something and then giving a single counter-example does not make the initial general statement wrong though. I said nothing about there not being sexism existing in the even the most unsexist places on earth.

lol and neither did I say that you said anything about there not being sexism existing in the even the most unsexist places on earth.

i've just seen enough of Balkan area toxicity on both sides to disagree...but I'm not particularly well acquainted with mid eastern zone to be a proper judge and compare fully objectively.

Those women I chatted aren't mideastern.

A nice Vietnamese girl I met contracting at Micro$oft had a The Devil Wears Prada wallpaper on her workstation. She was the first to get sacked. Then my team lead. Then me. I know for a fact we all did our jobs exquisitely. The lead who took over was hard to recognize when she changed appearances.

I feel like my dream of serving a strong, 'warrior queen' matriarch, even in the divided states of America, is surprisingly attainable!

Signing up as female on Skout...

Putting a picture of some cute and wealthy-looking girl from the net

Idiots sending me phone numbers already before even setting up the picture - an example of male stupidity.