Disappointed in women my age :(

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I'm not so hung up on this.

Younger people around 20 can be immature. I was also pretty clueless back then.

What is needed is to find those that are not into the whole marriage and kids thing.

Instead of setting yourselves age ranges you can date why not just talk and get to know people regardless of their age. This way you may meet a fun 30 year old or a mature 20 year old.

Alot of girls like men slightly older. My boyfriends friend is 34 and is going out with a girl of 23 which he met when he was shout 30. When you meet them you don't notice the difference

People in different age groups tend to have different expectations of their partners. I wouldn't limit yourself to just your age range if you feel disappointed.

Well, apparently, younger women come with their own set of disappointments. Well, more like weirdnesses. I recently had a second date, with the same Tinder girl I met earlier. She was really nice and sweet, but there's a "but". When I met her at a billiards place for our second date, she was there with a friend (!). I composed myself very quickly, without showing how flabbergasted I was. The friend stayed there for about 10 minutes, then excused herself and left. But while she was there, I made sure she didn't feel excluded. I talked to my date a day or so later, even jokingly asked about her bringing a bodyguard; she said that her friend thought highly of me.

As weird as it was to end up on a borderline-threesome date (*naughty thoughts a-brewin'*), feeling at a loss of what to do, I much prefer that over women who think I'm Peter Pan for liking beer, trains, and Slurpees from 7-11. Still, is bringing a friend on a date normal nowadays? At least amongst 20-somethings.

The "bodyguard" comment was in jest, especially since the friend had a smaller build than my date. It was also meant to call her out on the behavior. But maybe I'm just old. In my experience, all my online dates have always been one-on-one; friends weren't brought into the equation until many weeks into dating. But I guess it's the way things are done amongst young Millennials nowadays. Might as well get used to it if I want to date younger . I mean, polyamory seems to be all the rage. (*There come those naughty thoughts again.*)

I don't think she's ND. She's too bubbly and outgoing to be on the autistic spectrum. Then again, I'm an aspie, and I've started group conversations with strangers on trains and on cruises. Heck, even during the train ride to see my date, I ended up talking to a 40-something businessman in a shirt and tie. He gave me a few pointers on impressing my date. What's ironic is that when I was 22, I'd be getting heckled and hassled on trains, not receiving helpful date suggestions from well-dressed older men.

Oh, and if she brought a guy to check me out, I'd walk away after just a few minutes, not unlike my date's friend did. I'm discontent with women my age for a reason (they seem to think I'm "Peter Pan" for being fun-loving), but I have my limits.

I dunno.

It's possible that the woman wanted "protection" in case Aspie 1 "went off" on her. I don't know.

It's also possible that the woman was nervous, in general, about dating--so she bought a friend.

Who knows?

I would take your lady to a railroad crossing. If she starts talking about how much she likes trains, then you have your soulmate.

In my experience, they don't do this for protection. They want second opinions about the guy. A more radical variant of this is to let a friend flirt with the guy and try to get his attention to check if he is sincere in his interest. The latter variant is more common among NDs.

As I wrote before, if a girl is worried about her safety, she will pick places with a lot of people, or bring a guy.

I think it was for some sort of protection, or maybe a way to "get out of the date," should she seek to escape the date.

I don't believe this person thought that Aspie 1 would commit a criminal offense on her, though.

Idk. The beer and trains gig just doesn't sound like it is going to draw in many enthusiasts. Maybe try some changing up. Like trains and travel.