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12 May 2017, 9:35 am

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He practically generalized us as rapists.


Actually, you are a rapist if you know a woman is asexual, yet don't accept that and still require sex with her in a relationship.

You are a rapist if you force someone to have sex with you, not if you would only date people who are not asexual. Besides, where did cberg say anything about asexuals. As far as I can see, you're the only one here who brought this topic up.


I think cberg accused me of calling young people "rapists" based on my argument of asexual women. He has failed to quote what he refers to, but AFAIK that has to be the background.

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Also, most older men are not asexual and want sex in a relationship. Al right, sex drive goes down with age but still, I don't see your point.


But that is a very valid point given that ND women, on average, dislike regular sex more than ND men. If ND women select older partners, they are more likely to have a better match in the sex area.

Still, I think the reason is mainly that men are expected to like sex, which probably explains this difference. Which means that if ND men don't follow the herd so much, but go by their real preferences, they would be better matched with ND women.



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12 May 2017, 9:39 am

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Still, I think the reason is mainly that men are expected to like sex, which probably explains this difference. Which means that if ND men don't follow the herd so much, but go by their real preferences, they would be better matched with ND women.


What is this "herd" you speak of?



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12 May 2017, 9:42 am

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Still, I think the reason is mainly that men are expected to like sex, which probably explains this difference. Which means that if ND men don't follow the herd so much, but go by their real preferences, they would be better matched with ND women.


What is this "herd" you speak of?


Typical men, and their desire to have sex with everything and anything. The hookup culture. The idea that quantity is everything. The idea that sex and relationships are the same things.



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12 May 2017, 9:47 am

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Still, I think the reason is mainly that men are expected to like sex, which probably explains this difference. Which means that if ND men don't follow the herd so much, but go by their real preferences, they would be better matched with ND women.


What is this "herd" you speak of?


Typical men, and their desire to have sex with everything and anything. The hookup culture. The idea that quantity is everything. The idea that sex and relationships are the same things.


Maybe some of the ND men actually do like the hookup culture. What makes you so sure they're just following trends? All I've ever wanted is one good relationship in my life, not an endless torrent of one-night-stands. But that's just me.



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12 May 2017, 9:58 am

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"being treated like a person" doesn't have an age.

people go on tinder to find hookups. i'm not looking for hookups so i am not on tinder.
there is no need to escape from something i have the choice to avoid in the first place.

i'd rather date whomever i click with than specifically seek out older men under the impression that they will treat me better.


I'm on there to date. Slim chance I'd admit but better to increase my chance then have 0.



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12 May 2017, 12:04 pm

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Don't worry about us, and that's your own opinion, and if you want to date older men you can. I think if it suits you best it will. Don't worry about us younger guys. In the face of things I wish I was older than the women I wanted in college, like ten years or five years with the mind that's twenty years ahead, and I can completely understand why someone would think like this. You don't have an issue, and I do agree that this generation could use some maturing, and I admit I should too, and if this comment bothers you I'll make sure that it is deleted as soon as possible, or edited, or perhaps even make another comment apologizing about it. Don't take my comment wrong, and some of us guys are burned out or bummed out for the day.

Go change your Eharmony age audience to the age you like, and go talk to some older men.


Howdy. I'm not really worried about the men because they seem to be getting what they want (sex) and using these young women then throwing them away - they don't seem to see a reason to change. This article helps young women know exactly what these men are doing and some young women are finally coming to their senses. They need to actually get away from places like Tinder. The reason I chose Eharmony is that it isn't cheap to join, so any guy on there is paying quite a bit to try and find someone. You don't have to pay on Tinder. Those guys don't want to put much out - they just want one night stands. I'm a trusting person, so articles like this one really open my eyes to what is out there.


So what, if we're not giving all our money to some corporate fatcats on the mere hope we might meet somebody that means that we'd make crappy partners? Way to make young lonely people feel even worse about themselves.


Then there is Okcupid, it's free....and that is where I met my boyfriend. Met a few other guys before him that things did not work out with but eventually it paid off having an account there.


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12 May 2017, 12:13 pm

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Don't worry about us, and that's your own opinion, and if you want to date older men you can. I think if it suits you best it will. Don't worry about us younger guys. In the face of things I wish I was older than the women I wanted in college, like ten years or five years with the mind that's twenty years ahead, and I can completely understand why someone would think like this. You don't have an issue, and I do agree that this generation could use some maturing, and I admit I should too, and if this comment bothers you I'll make sure that it is deleted as soon as possible, or edited, or perhaps even make another comment apologizing about it. Don't take my comment wrong, and some of us guys are burned out or bummed out for the day.

Go change your Eharmony age audience to the age you like, and go talk to some older men.


Howdy. I'm not really worried about the men because they seem to be getting what they want (sex) and using these young women then throwing them away - they don't seem to see a reason to change. This article helps young women know exactly what these men are doing and some young women are finally coming to their senses. They need to actually get away from places like Tinder. The reason I chose Eharmony is that it isn't cheap to join, so any guy on there is paying quite a bit to try and find someone. You don't have to pay on Tinder. Those guys don't want to put much out - they just want one night stands. I'm a trusting person, so articles like this one really open my eyes to what is out there.


Howdy, I will tell you a secret:

Very very few men who are getting sex from these sites because it's populated by 90% of men.



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12 May 2017, 12:14 pm

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But that is a very valid point given that ND women, on average, dislike regular sex more than ND men. If ND women select older partners, they are more likely to have a better match in the sex area.

Still, I think the reason is mainly that men are expected to like sex, which probably explains this difference. Which means that if ND men don't follow the herd so much, but go by their real preferences, they would be better matched with ND women.


I don't dislike regular sex, me and my boyfriend do it more than once a week...I would probably dislike it if we didn't have sex for over a week or something. So I am certainly an ND that does not apply to.


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12 May 2017, 12:17 pm

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Don't worry about us, and that's your own opinion, and if you want to date older men you can. I think if it suits you best it will. Don't worry about us younger guys. In the face of things I wish I was older than the women I wanted in college, like ten years or five years with the mind that's twenty years ahead, and I can completely understand why someone would think like this. You don't have an issue, and I do agree that this generation could use some maturing, and I admit I should too, and if this comment bothers you I'll make sure that it is deleted as soon as possible, or edited, or perhaps even make another comment apologizing about it. Don't take my comment wrong, and some of us guys are burned out or bummed out for the day.

Go change your Eharmony age audience to the age you like, and go talk to some older men.


Howdy. I'm not really worried about the men because they seem to be getting what they want (sex) and using these young women then throwing them away - they don't seem to see a reason to change. This article helps young women know exactly what these men are doing and some young women are finally coming to their senses. They need to actually get away from places like Tinder. The reason I chose Eharmony is that it isn't cheap to join, so any guy on there is paying quite a bit to try and find someone. You don't have to pay on Tinder. Those guys don't want to put much out - they just want one night stands. I'm a trusting person, so articles like this one really open my eyes to what is out there.


Howdy, I will tell you a secret:

Very very few men who are getting sex from these sites because it's populated by 90% of men.


Source? I want a link to a source that actually proves all dating sites have 90% men and 5% woman, in all regions they are used...otherwise I am going to have to call B.S. Not to mention I certainly did not get the impression there were only 5% of women on okcupid(a dating site). Also during my time on okcupid I saw plenty of profiles of actual women whilst browsing profiles of people close enough to meet up, before I figured out how to set the filter to only show me guys, as I wasn't looking to date other women.

Maybe this is where you live that there are only 5% women using the sites? But its certainly not the entire world.


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12 May 2017, 12:21 pm

Generalisations are good as mental short cuts, like trends, labelling and pigeon holing.

I don't know, being respectful isn't an age thing, anyone can learn it.
Learning it from birth in an environment where it was a social norm, or actively learning it as an adult in a world where it's not... does it matter as long as it's there in the persons skill set?

IMO any person who has a specific romance checklist thats laden with mental shortcuts is dehumanising potential lovers and is best avoided.



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12 May 2017, 12:49 pm

@rdos: So now I'm a failure of a herd animal because little birdies told you I'm a sex predator? Those girls must feel so 'respected' if this is how you make all your character judgements. (double blind! :lol: ) Of course, obviously, anyone is capable of loving as many people as they want, I'm here to say you're falling short man. Honest guys don't just take breaks from being respectful when it suits us, you really think you've nothing to learn from me?


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12 May 2017, 12:53 pm

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Don't worry about us, and that's your own opinion, and if you want to date older men you can. I think if it suits you best it will. Don't worry about us younger guys. In the face of things I wish I was older than the women I wanted in college, like ten years or five years with the mind that's twenty years ahead, and I can completely understand why someone would think like this. You don't have an issue, and I do agree that this generation could use some maturing, and I admit I should too, and if this comment bothers you I'll make sure that it is deleted as soon as possible, or edited, or perhaps even make another comment apologizing about it. Don't take my comment wrong, and some of us guys are burned out or bummed out for the day.

Go change your Eharmony age audience to the age you like, and go talk to some older men.


Howdy. I'm not really worried about the men because they seem to be getting what they want (sex) and using these young women then throwing them away - they don't seem to see a reason to change. This article helps young women know exactly what these men are doing and some young women are finally coming to their senses. They need to actually get away from places like Tinder. The reason I chose Eharmony is that it isn't cheap to join, so any guy on there is paying quite a bit to try and find someone. You don't have to pay on Tinder. Those guys don't want to put much out - they just want one night stands. I'm a trusting person, so articles like this one really open my eyes to what is out there.


So what, if we're not giving all our money to some corporate fatcats on the mere hope we might meet somebody that means that we'd make crappy partners? Way to make young lonely people feel even worse about themselves.


If someone puts money out on a dating site, they are more likely to be marriage minded. They are also more likely to have a decent paying job which is what I'm looking for. I'm paying out quite a bit because I'm interested in marriage - not just dating. Eharmony is known for people wanting to get married. I picked that website because several people I know have went on there and are now married.

This is info about Eharmony. The demographics show that there are more women on the site than men, but almost the same. I chose the premier plan.

https://www.10bestonline.com/top_10_bes ... ny_review/


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12 May 2017, 4:34 pm

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Don't worry about us, and that's your own opinion, and if you want to date older men you can. I think if it suits you best it will. Don't worry about us younger guys. In the face of things I wish I was older than the women I wanted in college, like ten years or five years with the mind that's twenty years ahead, and I can completely understand why someone would think like this. You don't have an issue, and I do agree that this generation could use some maturing, and I admit I should too, and if this comment bothers you I'll make sure that it is deleted as soon as possible, or edited, or perhaps even make another comment apologizing about it. Don't take my comment wrong, and some of us guys are burned out or bummed out for the day.

Go change your Eharmony age audience to the age you like, and go talk to some older men.


Howdy. I'm not really worried about the men because they seem to be getting what they want (sex) and using these young women then throwing them away - they don't seem to see a reason to change. This article helps young women know exactly what these men are doing and some young women are finally coming to their senses. They need to actually get away from places like Tinder. The reason I chose Eharmony is that it isn't cheap to join, so any guy on there is paying quite a bit to try and find someone. You don't have to pay on Tinder. Those guys don't want to put much out - they just want one night stands. I'm a trusting person, so articles like this one really open my eyes to what is out there.


Howdy, I will tell you a secret:

Very very few men who are getting sex from these sites because it's populated by 90% of men.


Source? I want a link to a source that actually proves all dating sites have 90% men and 5% woman, in all regions they are used...otherwise I am going to have to call B.S. Not to mention I certainly did not get the impression there were only 5% of women on okcupid(a dating site). Also during my time on okcupid I saw plenty of profiles of actual women whilst browsing profiles of people close enough to meet up, before I figured out how to set the filter to only show me guys, as I wasn't looking to date other women.



Try it yourself:

viewtopic.php?t=342818


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Maybe this is where you live that there are only 5% women using the sites? But its certainly not the entire world.


Again with this assumption about "maybe it's where you live".

NO it's the case everywhere, the search settings in the other thread are set to the entire world. It's also the case in YOUR country.



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13 May 2017, 8:26 pm

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
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The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
nurseangela wrote:
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Don't worry about us, and that's your own opinion, and if you want to date older men you can. I think if it suits you best it will. Don't worry about us younger guys. In the face of things I wish I was older than the women I wanted in college, like ten years or five years with the mind that's twenty years ahead, and I can completely understand why someone would think like this. You don't have an issue, and I do agree that this generation could use some maturing, and I admit I should too, and if this comment bothers you I'll make sure that it is deleted as soon as possible, or edited, or perhaps even make another comment apologizing about it. Don't take my comment wrong, and some of us guys are burned out or bummed out for the day.

Go change your Eharmony age audience to the age you like, and go talk to some older men.


Howdy. I'm not really worried about the men because they seem to be getting what they want (sex) and using these young women then throwing them away - they don't seem to see a reason to change. This article helps young women know exactly what these men are doing and some young women are finally coming to their senses. They need to actually get away from places like Tinder. The reason I chose Eharmony is that it isn't cheap to join, so any guy on there is paying quite a bit to try and find someone. You don't have to pay on Tinder. Those guys don't want to put much out - they just want one night stands. I'm a trusting person, so articles like this one really open my eyes to what is out there.


Howdy, I will tell you a secret:

Very very few men who are getting sex from these sites because it's populated by 90% of men.


Source? I want a link to a source that actually proves all dating sites have 90% men and 5% woman, in all regions they are used...otherwise I am going to have to call B.S. Not to mention I certainly did not get the impression there were only 5% of women on okcupid(a dating site). Also during my time on okcupid I saw plenty of profiles of actual women whilst browsing profiles of people close enough to meet up, before I figured out how to set the filter to only show me guys, as I wasn't looking to date other women.



Try it yourself:

viewtopic.php?t=342818


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Maybe this is where you live that there are only 5% women using the sites? But its certainly not the entire world.


Again with this assumption about "maybe it's where you live".

NO it's the case everywhere, the search settings in the other thread are set to the entire world. It's also the case in YOUR country.


Searching the entire world at once will certainly skew things I'd imagine dating sites will bring up the most active profiles if you do a search that vast as they assume you don't litterally want to go through millions of profiles. But either way for now I am done debating it, I will do my own research later and see what I find. I did just try and make a okcupid just so I can get on and see how many males and females are using it in my area...so I will get back to this with some stats of my own at a later point. Really though I don't think there are only 5 females to every 90 males on every dating site everywhere at all times...but I will research, if it proves you right than you win lol.


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15 May 2017, 1:19 am

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I implied that young people are NOT equal. Just like the article says (and another article I posted in regards to dating web sites), most younger men only want notches in their belt with no commitments. A couple of threads on this website are currently talking about only finding a blonde with blue eyes or someone who is younger than them - its all about looks first.

Most men (old and young) date younger women. That's because most women (old and young) date older men. Why do you complain about men following your own advice?



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Don't worry about us, and that's your own opinion, and if you want to date older men you can. I think if it suits you best it will. Don't worry about us younger guys. In the face of things I wish I was older than the women I wanted in college, like ten years or five years with the mind that's twenty years ahead, and I can completely understand why someone would think like this. You don't have an issue, and I do agree that this generation could use some maturing, and I admit I should too, and if this comment bothers you I'll make sure that it is deleted as soon as possible, or edited, or perhaps even make another comment apologizing about it. Don't take my comment wrong, and some of us guys are burned out or bummed out for the day.

Go change your Eharmony age audience to the age you like, and go talk to some older men.


Howdy. I'm not really worried about the men because they seem to be getting what they want (sex) and using these young women then throwing them away - they don't seem to see a reason to change. This article helps young women know exactly what these men are doing and some young women are finally coming to their senses. They need to actually get away from places like Tinder. The reason I chose Eharmony is that it isn't cheap to join, so any guy on there is paying quite a bit to try and find someone. You don't have to pay on Tinder. Those guys don't want to put much out - they just want one night stands. I'm a trusting person, so articles like this one really open my eyes to what is out there.


Howdy, I will tell you a secret:

Very very few men who are getting sex from these sites because it's populated by 90% of men.


Source? I want a link to a source that actually proves all dating sites have 90% men and 5% woman, in all regions they are used...otherwise I am going to have to call B.S. Not to mention I certainly did not get the impression there were only 5% of women on okcupid(a dating site). Also during my time on okcupid I saw plenty of profiles of actual women whilst browsing profiles of people close enough to meet up, before I figured out how to set the filter to only show me guys, as I wasn't looking to date other women.



Try it yourself:

viewtopic.php?t=342818


Quote:
Maybe this is where you live that there are only 5% women using the sites? But its certainly not the entire world.


Again with this assumption about "maybe it's where you live".

NO it's the case everywhere, the search settings in the other thread are set to the entire world. It's also the case in YOUR country.


Searching the entire world at once will certainly skew things I'd imagine dating sites will bring up the most active profiles if you do a search that vast as they assume you don't litterally want to go through millions of profiles. But either way for now I am done debating it, I will do my own research later and see what I find. I did just try and make a okcupid just so I can get on and see how many males and females are using it in my area...so I will get back to this with some stats of my own at a later point. Really though I don't think there are only 5 females to every 90 males on every dating site everywhere at all times...but I will research, if it proves you right than you win lol.


To get it accurate on okc, you should create a fake bisexual account and then you do the search, because okc takes the initial orientation to prioritize search results (meaning if you register as a straight man then you change search setting to both, it won't work, it will keep showing you women first).