Platonic love / friendzone *queerish hippie edition*

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I would tend to agree but there's too much backstory to really tell anyone else man. Life & death stuff in our past & present I'd be beyond reproach if I ignored.

I get that you're advocating for running away from such problems because I'm inferior in your social Darwinist context & there's no social norm I fit anyway. It's pretty simple, I just want to do good things for someone who did the same for me.

FWIW my OP from hacker pick up lines got through to her. One thing that's needed around here is levity.

I really doubt that she is really interested in your complete, utter devotion that sounds like a willing slavery. Stop trying to give her something she did ask and probably doesn't want, you are 4000 years late to build pyramids.
Also stop trying to be so wanna-be poetical and melodramatic please, I don't mean to insult you but take it as an advice. We all have a dick here and it doesn't impress us because we understand the situation instantaneously. One can be a good friend and help them in difficulty without making melodrama or proclaming himself their unrequested servant. Do you really think you can find happiness in such things?
By the way this was my question:

I certainly tend to find happiness in strange ways. As I keep saying, I'm not terribly particular about how we arrange things as long as we're in each other's lives. We're all living by trial & error here. I'm here for advice but I can't fully consider it when you say you understand something instantly.

I'd say we're pretty compartmentalized regarding our many quirks & kinks, the advice is appreciated (a coder loves a sanity check) though in my circles none of us are really the types to discourage creativity. I told her I know she has the more creative ideas on these topics as I spend all my time on computers, which isn't fair to a lot of people in my life.

For lack of any clearer terms we're just in the same hippie tribe & thus believe in simply accepting each other. I'd be lying about myself if I weren't so clear about how loyal I am so as far as I'm concerned I made that promise & this thread is about how I can be of help whenever she takes me up on it.

I want you two to get together and hike together.

It would be a bonus if you both had exquisite sex.

Well hopefully we can eventually, I don't want to rush either of us but I do hope I can build that much trust.

lol yeah, it's happened to many of my friends. guys letting a woman/women walk over them while proclaiming an unending love....happens too often.

but you still haven't answered the question - what are you always forgiving her? is she forgiving you as well?

maybe some cynicism would do you good in this case.

You don't really seem happy and won't be this way. I understand it instantly because your case isn't really as special and unique as you seem to believe, deal with it. And what are you saying about creativitiy? I don't get it. You forgot to answer my question again. You talk about acceptance but you can't seem to accept the fact that she doesn't feel the same for you nor wants you as her personal servant.

Oh kraftie, did you confuse againt the lunch pills with viagra?

^^^^^^^

Seriously if I were dwelling on the negatives would I have started this thread anyway? I've said over & over that I'm not that caught up in the details. This is only about better ways to spend some time together.

Do you need advices about activities one can do with a friend or what? Then you're in the wrong section.

There's love in the picture & that's not easy for anybody to navigate. I said we're forgiving of each other because it's the truth, I guess if anybody were perfect that wouldn't be necessary.

I mean you all think I should go away but what else is new? I don't recall gaining anything from listening to those telling me what's impossible, thanks.

Come on, Sir. Nobody wants you to "go away."

I certainly, don't.

Don't think that way, man. Because it isn't the truth.

It is mature to accept that we can't always get all we want, and even if you wanted to perseverate in your pursuit of her acting like a servant is ABSOLUTELY the wrong way to go about it, everyone here will tell you.