What's the point for Aspie men to date?

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There's no point.

Carry on.

I’ve only ever seen boo tell women to improve and i dont know if he’s ever serious with any of his posts.
I’ve seen people here who tell men and me to get better jobs and hit the gym tell women in similar situations they’re perfect how they are.
There’s a double standard in western civilization.
A woman working retail won’t be told to get a better job if she wants a relationship cause society still says men provide so women can work low paid jobs and marry a guy who works a well paid one. But it doesn’t work that way for men. Low paid men trying to date a well paid woman are called moochers or bums etc

We’ve all Ben told that as kids due to our Aspergers. That’s bit different the. Being told to get a better job if you want to be loved. Certain sets the standard of job/income= worth
Which I all thinks comes down to who makes media which is rich people who need people to make money to buy stuff from them to stay rich. So of course they say low paid men shouldn’t be dated so men will work harder to make more money to spend on stuff to make rich richer.

It is sexist but it’s easier for you to avoid the me and other men. Just like the idea of women needing to be thin and naive is probably easier for men to ignore then women but feminst has done a lot to remove female sexist stereotypes but nothing been done toward men’s

Most women want Prince Charming not the peasant pig farmer. Well off middle class men are the prince charming of it day. I’ve seen parents tell their daughters “not to date poor men they aren’t good enough for you” they say.

I’m 30. Most people my age have multiple kids two cars and are buying a house.
Paying for a 1 bedroom apartment is easy for them. That’s often the reason I’m rejected and called or a real mans and reason women here use. I can’t provide the lifestyle they want. I can’t help pay for a house or cars etc.
there’s a lot of kids who parents pay for stuff here too. But they’re in their early 20s. I dont know if their parents will still do so when they’re in their 30s. They are all also going to college or university. I suspect their be dropped by their parents when they graduate. It bothers me they drive new cars and buy lots of expensive stuff and ask why I can’t buy such stuff or have a car.

It’s most women here. I don’t even read women’s profiles anymore I just swipe right on all women, I’ve gotten zero matches. Back when I did get some I’d read their profiles and see they don’t want poor men and wonder why they liked me 0.o I do occasionally read some and it’s usually posted on their profiles. I’m on tinder, OkCupid, pof and bumble . Most have he list, and I’ve found those who don’t usually still care.
Last ones I messaged said they didn’t only to say they did and end it month later.
Most the women where I live are 20-30 olds, thin, gorgeous and going to university.
But even the bigger unemployment college drop outs have rejected me for not having a real job.
None have even been told I’m on disability which I’m sure would be worse for my chances.
On OkCupid I’d did hide them all for while but then there was only 15 women left on that site in county. So I unhid them.
I tend to message outliers. Women most guys wouldn’t want to date, they still think they too good for me. I’m really bottom of the barrel
I think all or most of the women who don’t care are in relationships. There’s 2,000 more men here and we have a lot of lownpaid men so women that don’t care have loads of options.
And most women if not all find my ugly sonwhyd women who don’t care about men’s income date ugly men?im Sure they can fine a handsome low paid guy. I’ve been rejected by big women who profile says yes I’m big,whys there no good men who can love me for who I am. Probably cause you reject them cause their job then at bottom have don’t message me unless you have a job, car, own place and are physically fit and handsom

Make a profile for springfield Oregon on any dating site and see the women here.

Hit the gym.

I like hitting punching bags myself

Acknowledge the way it is and comfort them?
I can’t improve. Society won’t change so I’m screwed. I hate being told to change or being told I’m making it all up.
I’d love help with editing my profiles and maybe trying to send messages to some women.
Being told to just find a better job isn’t helpful. I can’t its like telling a fish to just breath air or telling someone with cancer well have you tried just not having cancer

Sure. First step: hit the gym, get fitter and then change your pics.

Maybe change the pictures a little bit. Maybe smile a bit more.

Otherwise, Sly is not really atrocious-looking. Honest he isn't.

He has a bit of youth still in his looks----that DOES appeal to at least some women.

Only "hit the gym" if you want to "hit the gym." I haven't stepped foot in a gym in over a decade.

Keep deluding him then I couldn't care less.

I feel it's more a matter of his confidence, and of his ideology.....than of his looks.

I think he's actually been going to a gym, actually. I believe he's lost about 40 pounds recently.

He keeps losing some weight then gaining it back I think. Let him bulding some damn confidence and improve his looks instead of giving advices like "smile more", f*****g hell. He is not a Teletubbie.

Smiles really do help in photographs. No kidding.

Not a really big grin....but a subtle smile.

F**k smiles.

Every woman I dated looked much better in pictures when she was smiling.

You're Italian.....Italians are exuberant folks, in my experience. Both in Italy and in the United States. They like to smile. Why do you get so upset at smiling?

I am not upset at smiling, I am upset at your simplistic views.

I actually don't care if you're upset. I just like smiling. It enhances a person.

I suppose Sly should dress a little better. I suppose Sly should lose a little weight.

But I really believe it's what in Sly's head that's preventing him from meeting someone. And that's the way I feel. It's my opinion.

You probably have other opinions. C'est la vie.

Oh. I don't do comforting (or being comforted). So I avoid The Haven, where comforting belongs. I assume if someone posts in this section, they are actually open to hearing ideas/advice/problem-solving.