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03 Oct 2020, 7:23 am

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Do men typically scrutinize the moral character of women they sleep with? I think not. If a woman was hot, but had a history of bad behavior, I doubt she'd lack for suitors.

When I was in the military, plenty of guys I knew married dumpster fire women in order to get out of the dorms and receive the raise in their paychecks. Men are just statistically, more likely to be physically violent.

Also, internet dating sites are sh_t. Most women I know IRL don't date violent psychopaths. Maybe place the blame on stupid PEOPLE as opposed to women.



Can you explain why the Fifty Shades of Grey (And Twilight!) was so phenomenally popular among women; and not among men?

Surely not all of these fans are “Internet dating” women.

Besides, the Tinder became so mainstream - like facebook - is the first dating app that became that mainstream.
It has 50 Millions users base while the 2nd in place Okc has only 1 million.


Can you explain why I knew plenty of guys in the military who were in relationships with dumpster fire women?



I dunno, service people attract each others?



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03 Oct 2020, 7:25 am

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
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Do men typically scrutinize the moral character of women they sleep with? I think not. If a woman was hot, but had a history of bad behavior, I doubt she'd lack for suitors.

When I was in the military, plenty of guys I knew married dumpster fire women in order to get out of the dorms and receive the raise in their paychecks. Men are just statistically, more likely to be physically violent.

Also, internet dating sites are sh_t. Most women I know IRL don't date violent psychopaths. Maybe place the blame on stupid PEOPLE as opposed to women.



Can you explain why the Fifty Shades of Grey (And Twilight!) was so phenomenally popular among women; and not among men?

Surely not all of these fans are “Internet dating” women.

Besides, the Tinder became so mainstream - like facebook - is the first dating app that became that mainstream.
It has 50 Millions users base while the 2nd in place Okc has only 1 million.


Can you explain why I knew plenty of guys in the military who were in relationships with dumpster fire women?



I dunno, service people attract each others?


These women were civilians.


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03 Oct 2020, 7:36 am

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Can you explain why I knew plenty of guys in the military who were in relationships with dumpster fire women?


Can you explain what a dumpster fire woman is?



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03 Oct 2020, 9:12 am

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Do men typically scrutinize the moral character of women they sleep with? I think not. If a woman was hot, but had a history of bad behavior, I doubt she'd lack for suitors.

When I was in the military, plenty of guys I knew married dumpster fire women in order to get out of the dorms and receive the raise in their paychecks. Men are just statistically, more likely to be physically violent.

Also, internet dating sites are sh_t. Most women I know IRL don't date violent psychopaths. Maybe place the blame on stupid PEOPLE as opposed to women.


Quote:
Evolutionary biologists would call "bad boys" hypermasculine, explains Michael R. Cunningham, Ph.D., professor and psychologist at the University of Louisville. “These men ooze testosterone, which leads to boldness and is associated with exaggerated sexuality,” he says. They may also be rebellious or emotionally unavailable, says Madeleine A. Fugère, Ph.D., professor of psychology at Eastern Connecticut State University and author, Social Psychology of Attraction and Romantic Relationships. https://www.goodhousekeeping.com/life/r ... -bad-boys/


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Apparently, we want their sperm — but not necessarily their partnership.

Science, in particular evolutionary biology, partially explains why bad boys can be so compelling. Dr. Fugère says research shows women are more attracted to masculine men during the middle of their menstrual cycle, when they’re most fertile. “Men with very masculine traits may have better quality genes, so it could be attractive to women on an unconscious evolutionary level,” she notes. https://www.goodhousekeeping.com/life/r ... -bad-boys/


8)


I don't give a damn about either "evolutionary psychology" pseudoscience, or that bastion of scientific truth "Good Housekeeping."


You are entitled to your opinion.
As am I. 8)



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03 Oct 2020, 9:25 am

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Can you explain why I knew plenty of guys in the military who were in relationships with dumpster fire women?


Can you explain what a dumpster fire woman is?


Someone who constantly has self-serving drama surrounding them, it's always everyone else's fault and they're just a poor victim of circumstance. The sort of person even our most desperate L&D troopers wouldn't get involved with.


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03 Oct 2020, 9:37 am

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Autist is a label.
I am on the spectrum.
I accept that label. :thumright:

I am an Autistic Omega Man.
And I am special.
My mum said so. 8)


:roll: Provided this complacency is not on our behalf, OK whatever.


Do you mean "complaisance"?
If so, why would you think I need to be false?
To what end?
I am The Oracle of Truth, not The Deity of Deception. 8)
And an honest opinion is not a punishable offence.

If I understand you correctly, you still don't get me. :wink:



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03 Oct 2020, 11:12 am

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Can you explain why I knew plenty of guys in the military who were in relationships with dumpster fire women?


Can you explain what a dumpster fire woman is?


I thought she meant female firefighters.



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03 Oct 2020, 2:47 pm

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Can you explain why I knew plenty of guys in the military who were in relationships with dumpster fire women?


Can you explain what a dumpster fire woman is?


Based on personal experience....

Women who are morbidly obese, drug addicts, women who have not only never worked a day in their life, but who also won't do house chores, women who want to crap out as many kids as possible for the military benefit, women with zero sense of financial responsibility, women who will cheat at the drop of a hat......the list goes on.

Knew one guy who was an MMA fighter, but turned up to work everyday with black eyes due to his wife beating on him.

IMHO, men aren't any better judges of "good" mates, and will throw their futures away on any woman willing to flatter them. Looking at the whole of humanity, I highly doubt most people are deciding who to have kids with based on logic.

Obviously, YMMV.


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03 Oct 2020, 3:09 pm

XFilesGeek wrote:
cyberdad wrote:
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Can you explain why I knew plenty of guys in the military who were in relationships with dumpster fire women?


Can you explain what a dumpster fire woman is?


Based on personal experience....

Women who are morbidly obese, drug addicts, women who have not only never worked a day in their life, but who also won't do house chores, women who want to crap out as many kids as possible for the military benefit, women with zero sense of financial responsibility, women who will cheat at the drop of a hat......the list goes on.

Knew one guy who was an MMA fighter, but turned up to work everyday with black eyes due to his wife beating on him.

IMHO, men aren't any better judges of "good" mates, and will throw their futures away on any woman willing to flatter them. Looking at the whole of humanity, I highly doubt most people are deciding who to have kids with based on logic.

Obviously, YMMV.


The problem of feeling one is of low partner value is common no matter where you look, it tends to make people settle for what turn out to be poor choices, or at the very least highly misaligned choices.


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03 Oct 2020, 5:42 pm

Having very little choices would increase the probability of that.
Attractive people don’t stick to failed relationships because they have more options. That’s why divorce rate is higher among good looking people.



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03 Oct 2020, 9:32 pm

XFilesGeek wrote:
Women who are morbidly obese, drug addicts, women who have not only never worked a day in their life, but who also won't do house chores, women who want to crap out as many kids as possible for the military benefit, women with zero sense of financial responsibility, women who will cheat at the drop of a hat......the list goes on.

Knew one guy who was an MMA fighter, but turned up to work everyday with black eyes due to his wife beating on him.

IMHO, men aren't any better judges of "good" mates, and will throw their futures away on any woman willing to flatter them. Looking at the whole of humanity, I highly doubt most people are deciding who to have kids with based on logic.

Obviously, YMMV.


In Australia we call these women "bogans"...we got em here as well.



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03 Oct 2020, 9:34 pm

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
Having very little choices would increase the probability of that.
Attractive people don’t stick to failed relationships because they have more options. That’s why divorce rate is higher among good looking people.


often the attractive individual is responsible for the relationship failing because they have options.



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04 Oct 2020, 8:12 am

I looked him up. He's really attractive. Why are we still surprised that hot people can get away with sh***y personalities?

XFilesGeek wrote:
cyberdad wrote:
XFilesGeek wrote:
Can you explain why I knew plenty of guys in the military who were in relationships with dumpster fire women?


Can you explain what a dumpster fire woman is?


Based on personal experience....

Women who are morbidly obese, drug addicts, women who have not only never worked a day in their life, but who also won't do house chores, women who want to crap out as many kids as possible for the military benefit, women with zero sense of financial responsibility, women who will cheat at the drop of a hat......the list goes on.

Knew one guy who was an MMA fighter, but turned up to work everyday with black eyes due to his wife beating on him.

IMHO, men aren't any better judges of "good" mates, and will throw their futures away on any woman willing to flatter them. Looking at the whole of humanity, I highly doubt most people are deciding who to have kids with based on logic.

Obviously, YMMV.


Dating after early 20's is a pretty unpleasant experience for most men. Some just stick with the partner they have because they have no other options and there's comfort in the familiar. Choosing between long-term loneliness or going back into the shit-show of active dating isn't a very comforting prospect.

Others are desperate to break up but feel like it's too much effort. Breakups can be quite expensive in some circumstances, and throwing kids into the mix really complicates matters both emotionally and financially.

For some they just genuinely love their partner for whatever reason and turn a blind eye to red flags. Sometimes the person they're with used to be completely different and the men cling onto the hope that they'll go back to being that way one day.

There's also a lot of societal pressure to "settle down" as you age. Plenty of people feel like they have to follow the standard pathway of life. Straying from that path can make one feel like an outcast or a failure.



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04 Oct 2020, 8:49 am

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There's also a lot of societal pressure to "settle down" as you age. Plenty of people feel like they have to follow the standard pathway of life. Straying from that path can make one feel like an outcast or a failure.


Or an "Omega Man". 8)



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05 Oct 2020, 11:11 am

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Sometimes the person they're with used to be completely different and the men cling onto the hope that they'll go back to being that way one day.


This is a big reason for staying in an abusive relationship, for both men and women.

A lot of abusers start out very charming and/or caring, but after their partner is hooked/attached/in love, then they start to behave worse and worse.

But the memory of how good things used to be is already planted in their mind, so the hope prevails....

It's important to realize that abusive cycles only get worse, never better, over time. And make a plan to get away safely.


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05 Oct 2020, 7:42 pm

that1weirdgrrrl wrote:
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Sometimes the person they're with used to be completely different and the men cling onto the hope that they'll go back to being that way one day.


This is a big reason for staying in an abusive relationship, for both men and women.

A lot of abusers start out very charming and/or caring, but after their partner is hooked/attached/in love, then they start to behave worse and worse.

But the memory of how good things used to be is already planted in their mind, so the hope prevails....

It's important to realize that abusive cycles only get worse, never better, over time. And make a plan to get away safely.


Being single doesn't sound like such a bad idea, after so many relationship horror stories, recently. 8)