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European? Believe me, you can find such guys anywhere, not just Europeans. They don't understand a word of Japanese, they just repeat from memory some phrases they have heard on those cartoons. And they insist on not watching dubbed cartoons or movies... I mean, I do that when a movie is in a language I understand, as the dubbing process may introduce errors or even censorship sometimes, but they can't understand a word of Japanese, so what does it matter if it's dubbed or not?

And there's other people who do the same not with Japanese stuff but U.S. or some other country's stuff... they are all mindless snobs who like to pretend to be something they aren't. They are equally annoying... which reminds me of an episode of "Belvedere" where he was secretly working for another family and the son was a Germanophile. Which in turn brings me to those Neo-Nazis lying around who have never been able to understand a single word in German and who probably would have been among the first ones the Nazis disposed of...
Or those who repeat the lyrics of some song in English with no idea what it actually means or how to spell it... you get the idea. The world is full of dumb people.

This^^^

There's a woman who is interested in me because I'm assertive however I hate that she wants to constantly put me in a situation where I have to be assertive with her. Plus she's a huge judgmental b***h and she's devoid any sexual desire so that's a huge no-go.

Sounds psycologically deranged, if not, a fetish.



Yeah i'm sure other cultures do it to. Personally I'm proud to be a kiwi and I don't try and think i'm better than others due to apparent "knowledge" of other cultures.

If they actually know about the culture of it has a good purpose in their lives, I respect them, but not japan-o-phile ignorant fan boys. Just some skinny white geek wanting to be what he's not - something interesting.

Yeah its harsh, but i've met and associated with this sort of type enough to say its a rather accurate stereotype.

I don't really have any big turn offs other than bad personal hygiene. I cant stand bad breath or BO. I think I can be attracted to just about anyone.

I knew a woman whom I suspected was like that. Another woman who is a friend also pointed out to me how women test men to see their intentions and read what's going on in their minds. It's very clever, but I think that being continually tested would grow burdensome and I don't want to spend my life walking on eggshells, or having to be someone I'm not. Relationships should be more about enjoyment than challenge or difficulty. I already have enough challenges, and if I needed more, this isn't where I'd look for them.

Whats a good solution to that though, I always make men feel 'p**** beaten', I dont know how to not. It would be ok if I was a man as then people would just think I was a nice dynamic driven guy, but in women the same characteristics are not valued and Im viewed as agrressive and arrogant

Don't go too far - There are a number of guys, like myself, who particularly value strong, willful women. You may have simply been unlucky, and met either guys who like women submissive, or are not themselves strong enough to contend with you.

Beyond that generalized guess, though, we'd need more details to figure out what's going wrong. You might have some behaviors that are fueling the problem. But this probably deserves it's own thread.

I will make a thread

Again it seems the difference is, in whether you're holding ground in unfair territory, not necessarily gender, that differentiates assertiveness from being a jerk.

What if the other person is unwilling to compromise, especially regarding sexual things?

In other words, you're talking about the male version of Miss Hannah Minx (from YouTube).

Then you are not a match, and you should find someone that you are sexually compatible with.

Number 6 on you list, is also a turn off for me

One I forgot to mention: Adult men who live with their parents.

>_>

This is a rare instance where I disagree with you, HopeGrows!
I don't think it's about compatibility so much as it is dependent on experience.

Were I to apply to a new job, and list my 'desired position' a Chief Executive Officer, I probably wont get it. I have very little experience to establish me as CEO material.

Similarly, if you, Tim_Tex, attempt to assert a more advanced stage of a sexual relationship, despite your relatively small amount of sexual experience and variety, you'll have a difficult time attaining your desired outcome. You have very little experience with-which to maneuver into that situation.

The guys that are able to move quickly into a sexual relationship, or are able to go quickly into 'less classic' sexual situations are able to do it because:
1) They are very experienced with interacting with women, and have more situational/empirical knowledge to base their actions on,
2) they're very empathetic toward them, and able to read into their desires easier, allowing them to know when to advance, and when to halt, and
3) building on the prior two points, they know how adeptly illicit a feeling of trust and comfort. Sex requires a big feeling of comfort and trust, and alternative sex requires even more trust. There are few people who are able to easily let go of the trust requirement.

You can look all day for someone with-whom you can skip right over all that, but you'll be looking a very long time. A shorter route would be to get together with whomever, and progress towards more trust and adventurism by following the progression step by step, and not trying to jump-forward prematurely. As a secondary bonus, it gives a basis of experience that can be utilized if you move on to another relationship.

Most people don't wear their minor sexual preferences nor hard inhibitions, on their sleeves. Most people need to walk slowly toward something different, if they've never done it before, even if they're actually interested in it, or would enjoy it. Those who can move fast do so because the interaction between themselves and their partner is so 'in-tune' and empathetic, because at least one of the two people is very very good at guiding the other.

If you have only been with one or two women in your life, then you will probably not be able to move that fast until you have been with more women and understand them better.

In other words, your requirements are too high, and you don't generally meet the qualifications yet. You might get lucky, but that's a bad gamble.