Is "You'll find love one day" BS?

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You are looking for a mermaid!

Being in an unpaid relationship that works for you means you being the boss not the servant. Of course your status as boss will be constantly "tested" in ways that we aspies will have trouble picking up on. Read Frank Kermit's book "Everything out of her mouth is a test".

You are putting yourself down way too much. You have to be happy with yourself before someone will be happy with you.

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I'm not really sure. I don't see why that's relevant; I'm just saying that I don't rule 'em out.[/quote]

If you are not sure if they are interested, then they are not interested.

It is relevant because it is YOUR enjoyment that matters most. Read Overcoming the Nice Guy Syndrome. Very helpful book.

I don't see why it's relevant because I can imagine a girl who is anti-prostitution also being interested in me. My desire to keep those prospects open takes precedence over my desire to have sex now by whatever means.

Who says you can't do both?

Male attractiveness is not about being a girl's servant. It's about being her boss.

I know women who broke up with their boyfriends for flying into their principles, and I think they're more common than you make them out to be. For example, my mother broke up with a boyfriend she had in graduate school for voting for a political party that she was against. It may be of relevant interest to ask people in the Women's Discussion forum if they would tolerate finding out that their boyfriend had slept with a prostitute pre-relationship - some would, but I doubt they all would.

There's someone for everyone=A lie people tell Aspies and similar people to keep them happy.

Yeah, I'm 14, but I think once you've known something for so long it has to be true... There is not someone for me. I'll move out of my parent's house single, I'll get a job single, I'll gain status and influence in society single, I will die, though wealthy and famous, single. It's destiny. You can't change that.

If/when you become wealthy and famous, solving the single problem should become very easy.

Yeah, but I want someone who loves me for me, not my garageful of pre-1950 cars.

You guys are reading too much into the comment: "You'll find love one day." It isn't an attempt to deceive, or anything devious like that. It's just that the person saying it doesn't exactly have a magic eight ball in their pocket. That's one of those things you tell someone hoping it turns out to be true.

Unless you're intent on living in the middle of nowhere for all eternity, as long as you make a point of not giving up, and applying a bit of intelligence, the comment will be perfectly accurate.

Although, expectations are a big factor. If you're looking for Ms. Perfect, or someone who will satisfy every fantasy you've ever had, you have no business dating. If you're looking for someone reasonably similar to yourself, for a long-term stable relationship, as long as you're reasonably intelligent about things, it'll all go fine.

Look at me. I'm incompatible with 99.5% of women out there. I have to really trawl to find someone I stand a chance with, but when I find someone cute, awkward, and do well on the approach, I find that things go well. Just don't expect someone to fall in your lap, or to be compatible with every girl you meet.

Then you have the problem of being loved only for your money and/or celebrity.

You can't make such a judgment at a young age. How many people do you see stay with their partners they had when they were teenagers anyway? Hardly anyone, NTs included.

Give yourself time.

Lots of people have that love & it seems to be a love that will never die. When lots of people talk about love; this is the kind of love they are talking about. Someone who will wisk em away from poverty like in sappy Romance & Disney movies.

Yes, Disney (and the media in general) does have a lot to answer for in giving a lot of people a lot of unrealistic ideas about love.

Indeed, I have still yet to see two dogs eating spaghetti on a date!

Yeah, for starters.

Well there are ALOT of awkward women out there so you either find it very hard to approach or your very picky about what is cute for that to come to 0.5% left