Would You Date This Man? (Either Sex)

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yes!
i have some obscure phone you've probably never ever heard of.

(jk, i have an iPhone too)

I'm wearing Uggs right now. With my blue eyes, auburn hair, children, and zero time to be in a relationship because I am on WP.

Sorry. Just kidding.

Not really, I don't mind people wearing them but why all of the time???
If I'm not wearing my work shoes it's my Airwalk trainers, K-Swiss trainers or Diesel (Converse style) predominantly. It all depends what else I'm wearing!

Yes.

because they're comfortable and unless i'm on a night out i don't wear anything but them.


edit; oh okay, i'm starting to see what part of your problem is now.
judging people for being too mainstream.

Woah! ASPiXiE suggested I come up with this list and as I'm at a loss as to any other way forward I did. It's only a preference, all I actually have in my profile is 'A little individuality would be welcome' or something like that. I know many people who wear them and I don't bother about it, I just don't particularly like them!

edit. I wouldn't be suprised if I'd messaged people who wear them on the site, it's really not that big of an issue for me. Didn't help me get any responses though.

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emilon would date me in an non-Stephan dimension.

I think you'd be fun.
I reckon we'd have one of those love-hate-passion relationships.

and you'd write about me a lot on WP.

depends on how you treated me.

Oh jeez, looks like I need to clarify >.< I definitely didn't mean to put it on your profile! Unless it's one of the essentials and you absolutely couldn't compromise on it - for example, some people will only date within their religion. It's fair enough for them to state that they'd only like to date within their religion.

As for the preferences, they definitely shouldn't go on there - I never told my boyfriend that I always liked blue and green eyes! Because it didn't matter enough for me to decide not to date him because of it. I'll show you what I meant:

So from here you can imagine a girl who has all of these points. This is the girl he's trying to attract! Now you think about what's likely to get her attention. If you don't want a girl who's really serious all the time, it's good to have some humour in your profile. If you don't want a girl who's got her own children, it's up to you whether or not you mention it but you could always say something like 'I'm not sure I could handle kids yet, but I'd definitely like to have them in future.' From this, a girl with kids will probably decide to go find someone who she's sure will get along with her kids, and girl without them who knows she wants kids in future is more likely to take an interest. I just mean it's good to have an idea of what kind of person you want to attract, otherwise you end up trying to be attractive to everyone, which isn't doable =

The point many of you have been trying to make is that a girl who doesn't fit all of these might see them on your profile and think you're being too picky. Personally I don't think it's good for ANYONE to be this picky in terms of using them as must-haves for their potential dates. But again, it just helps you visualise the kind of girl you're going for. Physical appearances tend not to be good things to mention on a profile at all - for some reason people get more annoyed by this than most other stuff. I'm one of them, but I still don't know why, lol. But with the rest of it, you can appeal to a girl who likes spicy foods, console gaming, guitar-led music, geeky days out etc by mentioning all of those things! Say that you like spicy food, console gaming, guitar-led music and geeky days out, and if a girl reads it and doesn't like those things she may either ignore them and decide she likes the sound of you anyway, or realise you're not a good match because she hates all of those things and can't stand to be around anyone else who doesn't, lol. But if a girl likes all of those things, she'll read through your profile going 'I love that too! And I love that... and that... this guy is perfect!!' and she'll be much more likely to make herself known to you by messaging you!

It's true, if a guy said on his profile that he liked blondes, I'd be unlikely to message him. But if he says he likes brunettes, I'm in there. It depends on how much you value that. If you absolutely won't date a blonde (not that I understand that, but to carry on my point) then you could say that you like brunettes. Otherwise it's pointless to put it on your profile. The point of those lists is to help you figure out what you DO want to put on your profile, because then you know what kind of girl you want to attract. It's like a marketing team trying to figure out who their target audience is before they write the adverts

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And some of you wonder why your alone

Thanks ASPiXiE, I thought it was something like that but everyone was acting like I was asking if it was good to just post that in the 'Message Me If:' section. I definitely don't discount any hair/eye colour, having some differing interests or anything like that, I was just trying to visualise the type that I'm generally attracted to.

From a marketing standpoint...

The second half of the answers to the profile questions seems much more engaged and interesting than your answer to the Self Summary.

If I were you, I'd rewrite/ add information to the Self Summary that more definitively shares what you're into rather than focussing on what you're not into (as your profile answer currently seems to do).

The Self Summary is the very first thing a potential partner will learn about you, so it's important to make it as engaging (yet truthful) as possible in a way that would encourage them to want to learn more about you / imagine a future relationship together.

I didn't realise what Uggs were until i read this. That's how down with the kids i am!

lol, i got well angry about that Uggs thing!
sorry, i was on a man-hating moment.