How to recognize when a girl is flirting with you?

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If they seek privacy with you, or hint at it, it's usually serious I think.

Otherwise I think it's a matter of counting up the signs........I suspect that the non-serious flirt doesn't keep chipping away at anybody, it's a gesture or two at most. It doesn't develop.

It doesn't help that the NT mating ritual is often full of deliberate obfuscation. Not many women would be pleased if they seriously fancied a guy and somebody spilled the beans to the object of their desires.

This one time, at band camp, i was getting pretty friendly with this lovely girl whom i really enjoyed spending time with. During an after work party we were drinking and talking, then someone suggested getting in the pool for a swim. We did so and there was quite a bit of body contact. There was quite a lot of body contact. Just a bit of poolside fun i thought, oblivious.
Later that night a few of us decided to go back to her flat and we eventually crashed on the floor. The girl lay beside me on her side. We we face to face looking deep into eachothers eyes. She held my hand and squeezed it every couple of minutes or so, which i of course returned. She moved her arm and i felt a touch near my nether regions, to which in suprise i said "whoops, a bit low there" and her hand withdrew. A few minutes later her her breathing became heavier and she started to 'vibrate'. She soon ran off to the bathroom and i took that opportunity to close my eyes and fake sleeping. When she returned, she picked up my hand and began squeezing again, then when i wouldnt return it (in sleep), she started sqeezing like my hand was a dead animal and she was trying to revive it.
The next day she wouldnt look at me. I was confused.
It was only 2 years later that i realised what happened that night and what she was doing.

Just two days ago I had one of this odd events happen.

I was meeting quite a few friends that are a bit older so I wasnt expecting anything to happen. It was just a friday night meetup to avoid staying at home doing nothing.

I arrived a bit early because I had no idea where the place we were supposed to meet was. L arrived a few minutes afterwards so we went inside to order something and wait for others.

She ordered an ice coffee with cream and it seemed nice so I asked for the same.
We got talking and at some point she thought itd be ok to just put her straw on my drink and take the cream.
I was unsure of what to do but she had cream on hers so I did the opposite thing.
We smiled at each other and she pretended to be offended by what I did.

It took half an hour and several friends to arrive to realize that something odd had happened.

As I previously suggested Im just going to lookout for other signs and try to forget obsessing about it

It took my Aspie 9 months, 9 months I tell ya to realize I was interested in him. I brought him food, baked cookies, wrote love poems, visited, texted and emailed him every day. I smiled at him a lot, batted my eyes, touched him on his arm or back whenever I could. So one day he tells me it "seemed" I was interested him. I'm like "uh ya think"! ! At that time he told me he had AS. It all made sense. Maybe he started thinking about it earlier than that but at 9 months I guess he was convinced. I "turned up the volume" on the flirting during the 9 months. Not because I wanted to get laid ( although at some point it would have been nice! lol) but because he just wasn't "getting it". I know some people would have given up because it would seem the person wasn't interested. But for some reason I didn't. I usually don't give up on what I want so quickly.

Ilovemyaspie; where only there more in the world like you.

I usually miss the first few flirts; and that is usually enough for the girl to loose interest.

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