poopylungstuffing
Veteran
Joined: 8 Mar 2007
Age: 50
Gender: Female
Posts: 6,714
Location: Snapdragon Ridge
04 May 2007, 1:01 pm
04 May 2007, 1:44 pm
Well I did say you were cuter... 
poopylungstuffing
Veteran
Joined: 8 Mar 2007
Age: 50
Gender: Female
Posts: 6,714
Location: Snapdragon Ridge
05 May 2007, 12:54 am
techstepgenr8tion
Veteran
Joined: 6 Feb 2005
Age: 46
Gender: Male
Posts: 24,692
Location: 28th Path of Tzaddi
05 May 2007, 9:31 am
08 May 2007, 12:05 am
Sounds like you've got yourself sorted, yo 
Probably to your benefit being comfortable well-dressed.
Speaking of which! Looks like someone's had a change of heart. Out of the blue, my man and I have been out to dinner three nights in a row. On top of that, he's also mentioned he wants to take me to one of the nicest restaurants in Auckland...I'm still all 
over that! Never thought we'd get past sushi bars 
And to go with it, he's decided to scrape up a little more classy clothing than shorts and t-shirts...a day or two after he said it, he got two job interviews...both of which would require a semi-casual (read: casual shirt, proper pants, non-sneaker shoes) dress code. If he can pull it off...one of the jobs would land him in a managerial position. AT SWEET 17!
I'm so feckin' impressed with him He's really doing well for himself all of a sudden, kicking some serious arse out there in the big wide world out there...
Suddenly it's not all teenage attitudes/image/pursuits...it's like he's had a major change of heart overnight. Let's say I was NOT expecting him to actually go out and buy pants since he hates them, or shirts for that matter. And to think I haven't mentioned any of it at all for AGES.
[/offtopic]
08 May 2007, 1:17 pm
09 May 2007, 1:22 am
15 May 2007, 4:03 pm
21 May 2007, 8:23 pm
Man, been there done that. I was all about comfort too...and frumpy, old-school sort of stuff to hide the chubbiness... 
It's a good feeling when you get beyond it, isn't it? Not worrying about whether you're being you or whether someone is judging you...just going with comfort, expressing your style, and at the same time giving people a decent first impression of you 
02 Jun 2007, 6:11 am
This thread has good advice. I never really thought about clothes as saying too much about me, I know they are important and usually try to at least look clean. But all the ins and outs of clothes saying you belong to this group, or thats too casual I never really follow.
Comfort is my number one consideration with clothes, if its not comfortable it doesn't matter if it makes everyone think I am a king I am not going to bother. And comfort for me comes down to: no extremely tight clothing only one layer(no undershirts ever), no material that is scratchy or textured (no sweats or sweaters for me), no accessories (watches or rings or whatever, which is pretty standard since I am a guy).
Outside of comfort the biggest secondary concern is not wearing clothing that advertises anything, unless I really really enjoy it (band t-shirts and what have you) and this will never be a clothing label. So I didn't like to buy t-shirts with the name of the brand on the front, or shirts that really show off anything. It makes me paranoid and neurotic for some reason.
What I normally wear, is Hawaiian shirts with some khaki parts or sometimes blue jeans if they aren't tight and the material is soft enough. I also throw in some short sleeved button shirts of basic patterns or solid colors and some solid color t-shirts.
Everything I think is formal enough for most things I would be a part in, and I am comfortable in everything I own.
The only issue I think is shoes, I don't understand whats everyones obsession with shoes. To me this is the least important part of the whole get up, and don't understand the specialized footware that goes with every type of social event. I just wear a black or brown normal shoe, preferably loafers so I don't have to bother to tie em. I also wear sandals, because I don't like to wear socks but this is only when I am at my most casual.
I am really not sure what my style says to people, Hawaiian shirts are casual but they do have buttons and are just fun to look at with all the colors. I especially don't know what a Hawaiian shirt says to all the gals out there... hopefully nothing terrible. 
As for deodorant, I am extremely paranoid about smells. Giving off no smell is the goal, but I usually just use a mild roll on deodorant (never antiperspirant something about not sweating seems unnatural). I actually hate it when women put on insane amounts of perfume, and actually prefer nothing on women too... perhaps something mild that just tames the natural smell they have. I think this is a sensory thing for me.
02 Jun 2007, 6:16 am
09 Aug 2007, 10:33 am
Comfort is my number one consideration with clothes, if its not comfortable it doesn't matter if it makes everyone think I am a king I am not going to bother. And comfort for me comes down to: no extremely tight clothing only one layer(no undershirts ever), no material that is scratchy or textured (no sweats or sweaters for me), no accessories (watches or rings or whatever, which is pretty standard since I am a guy).
Outside of comfort the biggest secondary concern is not wearing clothing that advertises anything, unless I really really enjoy it (band t-shirts and what have you) and this will never be a clothing label. So I didn't like to buy t-shirts with the name of the brand on the front, or shirts that really show off anything. It makes me paranoid and neurotic for some reason.
What I normally wear, is Hawaiian shirts with some khaki parts or sometimes blue jeans if they aren't tight and the material is soft enough. I also throw in some short sleeved button shirts of basic patterns or solid colors and some solid color t-shirts.
Everything I think is formal enough for most things I would be a part in, and I am comfortable in everything I own.
The only issue I think is shoes, I don't understand whats everyones obsession with shoes. To me this is the least important part of the whole get up, and don't understand the specialized footware that goes with every type of social event. I just wear a black or brown normal shoe, preferably loafers so I don't have to bother to tie em. I also wear sandals, because I don't like to wear socks but this is only when I am at my most casual.
I am really not sure what my style says to people, Hawaiian shirts are casual but they do have buttons and are just fun to look at with all the colors. I especially don't know what a Hawaiian shirt says to all the gals out there... hopefully nothing terrible.
As for deodorant, I am extremely paranoid about smells. Giving off no smell is the goal, but I usually just use a mild roll on deodorant (never antiperspirant something about not sweating seems unnatural). I actually hate it when women put on insane amounts of perfume, and actually prefer nothing on women too... perhaps something mild that just tames the natural smell they have. I think this is a sensory thing for me.
Wow same here, except that I wear all black. No colours since they always look weird to me.
Unfortunetly all of this makes me extremely picky and I hardly ever find a piece of clothing I like.
09 Aug 2007, 11:23 am
It's back to that restaurant food thing. If you want to dine out (rather than perform the one-handed mambo there...lol...) you get what you pay for generally speaking. Go to McDonald's and expect a meal that looks like utter crap, and depending on your taste, will range from alright to absolutely abysmal. Go to a cheap diner, go to a 5-star hotel restaurant. There is no comparison. But look at the meals. Baked beans slopped over a slice of toast and all over the rest of the plate, and alternatively a neatly arranged meal in the middle of the plate and garnished lovingly. The nutritional value and the flavour of the latter is likely to be far higher...unless bangers and mash is your ideal meal out.
I decided that I didn't want to look like McDonald's...so yeah, started to take more into account than comfort
But at the end of the day, you get what you give. Give your preferred gender nothing, they'll give you nothing back. Give them a little more, they'll give a little back.
BAITED HOOKS PEOPLE!
Go fishing WITH BAIT ON YOUR HOOK.You keep saying that we can wear whatever we want but then you come back to this same old attitude that you have to give your preffered gender something with "quality", as if you can compare food to clothing! But you can't, a guy can dress like a complete slob and still get interest from a girl or "Prefered gender" if you're feeling politically correct, although it isn't all that likely, but really wouldn't you rather meet someone who likes you for the way you are, not the way you dress? Or is attracted to the way you dress? You can say "Well why would anyone dress like a complete slob?" but that would be stupid, much like someone saying "Why would someone wear all black all day long, even in summer?! THAT WOULD BE FREAKING HOT!" and you know, it is pretty hot, unless you plan ahead and get an air conditioner, which is basically a requirement if you live in Australia. The moral of this story? If you wear lots of black get an Air Conditioner otherwise you might learn the hard way how bad Heat Stroke can be, like I once did when I was a little kid who liked Power Rangers, and again in High School when they thought I was on Drugs but it was actually just too much sun. Ahhhhh memories.
09 Aug 2007, 11:40 am
I have been thinking about this. And in terms of attraction... it's about presenting something that someone else wants.
There are two types of doing what you want... there is really doing whatever you want. With no regard for any social expectations. Which is actually what I usually do... which thankfully the way I really want to look... isn't that strange.
But then there is knowing what people expect... and wearing what you want inside that range. Going with a food analogy, it's like if someone is expecting a poultry... there are many ways to prepare and make a poultry dish and personalize it... but in the end you can't give them a steak.
Clothes is so bizarre... since ideally it should just be about what a person wants to wear. But I am learning that clothes aren't that way at all... clothes are really for the other people around you... so that you convey the information about yourself in a way that they can interpret.
I really am starting to despise that the world works this way... but what are ya going to do...
09 Aug 2007, 1:47 pm
09 Aug 2007, 2:30 pm
