If you are an guy and have flaws - mission impossible?

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You won’t fall in love with someone you never get to know, and it takes some effort to know new people, especially if you’re quite isolated. According to what you’ve said so far, any such effort would count as being “desperate” and there’s absolutely no reason to make it, which leaves staying single for life as the only option.



Then there must be a way to meet them and still not count as “desperate”, because, you know, people do get relationships, even if there are some of us who can’t.



Doesn’t mean anything to whom? I bet it does mean something to those happy couples for which it is like being in heaven. Why give up, rather than try your chances, however slim?



I’m not using it against anyone. You are the one who made a statement about what people in general should do, and that argument shows most people are not obeying it.

When someone is always rejected he will become desperate/depressed, which will lead him to see any woman he comes across as a potential love interest and he will try to know her for romantic purposes. This is what I mean when I say desperate, not simply getting to know new people in a non-romantic way.

Again, I am not talking about people in general here, but about those who are not able to get a relationship and get depressed/desperate because of it. Regular people approach love interests in a different manner, I am not talking about them at all.

Yes but it's like buying a lottery ticket and expecting to win. They must realize that being a relationship doesn't necessarily mean that you will be happy, even if there is a chance of it.

Yes but as I already told you, I was not referring to people in general.

So how many times can you be rejected before you give up for life?

I still have a hard time understanding that concept of "desperation". It seems to be defined only in terms of how many times you've been rejected or what fraction of all women you see as potential love interests. Might as well roll dice each time you're attracted to one, to decide whether to try to approach her or not, if it's all about reducing the numbers. Of course, if you already hardly ever meet a remotely potential love interest, this is effectively giving up.

By the way, what does it mean to get to get to know someone in a non-romantic way? Do you have to decide in advance never to approach them that way? Why can't you just get to know them and see what happens?



You don't seem to leave any room between being perfectly happy without a relationship, so you have no reason to ever do anything to get into one, and being desperate because you don't have one. So who exactly is exempt from giving up for life? Those who are already in a relationship, or, at most, those who haven't spent a long time without one, I suppose. But even they weren't born in a relationship, so they'd have had to give up, too, if they hadn't broken your rule at some point in the past. I want to break it, too.



So why can't we approach them that way, too?



Winning the lottery doesn't depend on what you do as long as you buy the ticket. I don't think it's the same with relationships at all. And I don't see how trying and possibly failing is worse than giving up and having no chance at all.

This. All of this.

Enjoy your solitude. You're alone, anyways, so you may as well make the most of it vs. be miserable. Get yourself healthy and happy, and once you're truly content and happy with your life and yourself, you'll become more attractive to others AND feel like you have something to offer another in a relationship vs. feeling like you'd bring them down like an anchor in their life. I know because I've made these changes in myself over the last few years.

I'm still single, but infinitely happier, and I'm single by choice until I meet the right person.. I've had plenty of interest from people I'm not particularly interested in. My combination of being happy + not interested in most others has made me even more desirable to more people - so the whole people can smell desperation thing holds true, as well as the classic "people always want what they can't have."

Yeah, relationships aren't perfect and like my friend says they can be a lot of work.. but nothing worth doing is easy, and I look forward to those sorts of challenges someday.

^ So the lesson is: Get yourself into better physical shape, as it makes you more attractive to others.

The only ones who are saying that I look decent are guys. And is also only guys that think that I have a decent personality. Girls always avoid me and think that im ugly and boring.

How is it possible that womens hate me when guys finds me okay?

The problem is, im not gay, not biseuxell either. I dont find men attractive at all. And I will not test being gay. Its also against my religion (christianity).

WHY are women so complicated when it comes to men? WHY so much demands? I will live alony my entire life, what a joke.

Don't worry, even if you were a perfect 10/10(or close to it), you'd still probably receive zero compliments from females on here.

Chick pics are the main ones that get the compliments on here, as long as she's not a burn-victim or something.

I'll back this question as well. Always wondered about it.

Is there such a big mental difference between men and women?

it seems like that. Odd. IMO, its tougher for guys.

Its just not here, its in every site + in real life!

Its like all the women in the world like the same type of men.

I wish I was gay.

Maybe you're just more of a guy's guy vs. someone girls like chatting with? Although I doubt girls hate you.

So don't be with guys, simple as that. But just had to chime in and point out that homosexuality is not "against your religion." As a baptized Roman Catholic, Godfather, and a gay man, I can tell you there's nothing but love & acceptance in the bible. It's only hateful people who interpret scripture as anti-gay in order to justify their own bigoted hatred.

Woman are complicated. Simple as that. As for forever alone.. just because you're single now doesn't mean you will be forever. Things change.

Right. Being gay is not a sin. It's who one IS.

It's almost like having blond hair as opposed to brown hair.

I'm a straight man. You're probably a straight man, too.

You look like a regular guy. As you get older, you'll have better success with women.

Hmm... In Roman Catholic Church being gay is ok only if you don't engage in a sexual relationship with people of your gender, I think.

Brain structures show significant differences.

Differences which are even more obvious than the differences between AS and NT brains of the same gender.

Whether this is inborn or due to brain elasticity? it doesn't really matter - there are differences still.




http://www.webmd.com/balance/features/h ... ins-differ

Man is not the woman with penis version and vise versa, the differences are much more profound than just difference of genitalia.

If some asexual aliens autopsy our brains, they may think we are two closely related species.

I got few compliments on my pics before.

And no, some would compliment a 10/10.