Do racial preferences make you a racist?

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Wow....

I am agreeing with lidsmichelle.

Someone at last is in my camp on this topic.

Wanting to police other people’s preferences is totalitarian.

But society would mock those men for being ultra-superficially picky.

But for some f**** reason, society glorifies the White man who says "I would never date black women" - or the Asian girl who says "I am only attracted to White guys" - or the Brit girl who says "No indian men please".... etc.
and society is like "this is not superficial, this is not racism, this is just attraction thing....bla bla."

Like seriously, if you for example say that you never find black women atttactive, so it's all black women? Among the millions of them, no one of them can make you horny?
If it's really the case, then it's like you see them as a different species.

Wouldn’t it be a lot of fun if there were more than one human-like species, meaning they all have human-like mental abilities, you can interact with them in a human-like way and they can turn you on if they’re the right gender, but there’s no possibility of interbreeding? The ultimate contraceptive. Just be sure to choose someone of the right species for the right kind of relationship

I don't think society would mock those men. I also don't see the problem with people exercising their own preferences and standards.

And I don't see society glorifying people excluding certain races from their dating pool. Society doesn't care, because, like I said, we are allowed to have our own ideals with regards to our partners.

And what if the reason a guy doesn't want to date black women is because that guy is not attracted to darker skin? If that was the case, you would think that he would be attracted to very few, or no black girls, based on that preference.

How would it be any different to a guy saying he's not attractive to morbidly obese people? He hasn't met every morbidly obese person on the planet, but it is a turn-off for him, and he very much doubts he could ever be attracted to anyone who was obese.

Furthermore, it may be worth noting that people of Caucasian decent are more varied in terms of what colour hair and eyes they can have, whereas members of most other races will tend to only have brown/black hair and brown eyes.

If someone was really into the blonde hair/blue eyes look, what are the chances that that person will find somebody attractive who deviates from that as much as some races do?

No, "racial preferences" are not based on racism. Western society tends to feature a lot of white people, because - News Flash - white people are the largest demographic within it. But you're making it sound as if people of other races aren't featured anywhere. In this day and age, there are plenty of celebrities of all races. Where exactly are we being told that lighter skin is preference?

Lighter skinned black women are seen as more attractive when compared to darker skinned women. Obviously because lighter skinned women are closer to white women, and most white people prefer other white people. This is actually a natural phenomenon for people to prefer members of their own race. What's likely happening is people of other races are being influenced by a largely white media, and coming into contact with and therefore becoming comfortable around mainly white people. If Western countries had relatively equal numbers of each race, you might have a case, but in mostly white countries, you can't be surprised when white beauty standards are being promoted the loudest.

As for racial fetishisation, it isn't healthy to be with someone PURELY because you're attracted to their distinctive racial features, but if you do have a particular attraction or fetishisation of a certain race, and you meet someone of that race that you find yourself being compatible with, that isn't a problem.

They are, but I wouldn't expect your Who looking ass to understand.

When will people understand that race is a social construct not biological and that the idea that people are biologically attracted to their "own race" makes no sense. Especially considering humans actually look for biological differences to strengthen their gene pool.

Race is a social construct, but without the formulation of it as a construct, we'd still be able to identify people who originate from different areas just by looking at them. Statistics I've seen say that people are more likely to be attracted to people of their own race. Even if that's true, I don't see how that's necessarily a good or bad thing, and either way, I very much doubt that most white people can't be attracted to anyone of any other race, but I also doubt most (or any will find all races equally attractive. People are attracted to different things. Why is that a problem?

If somebody refused to have friends of a certain race, I'd see where you were coming from, but love and attraction is a completely different ballgame. We have very little control over what features we find attractive and what features we don't find attractive.

Why it is considered racism if one refuses to be friends with people of certain race yet it becomes suddenly acceptable to exclude at face value an entire race when it comes to dating?

Why?

My brain can't compute this logic.

I think skin tone and morbid obesity are entirely different things, not really comparable.

Racial preferences aren’t racist. You can’t control those preferences and are attracted to whom you are attracted to. Chemistry and pheromones are real things.
Plus, what we see as aesthetically pleasing differs from person to person.

I am a white guy with blond hair, blue eyes, extremely fair skin and I find myself attracted to whites, especially those who are about as light as me.
I’ve also been attracted to East Asians (Japanese people and Koreans) who were rather fair-skinned.
However, I’ve never once in my life seen a black guy and found myself attracted to him. There was no chemistry at all.
I don’t think their features (lips, skull-shape, colour etc.) are attractive and they don’t match my sense of aesthetics. It’s just honest and the truth to say that I am not attracted to blacks.

I have been told I am a racist for not being attracted to and therefore not wanting to date black people before. How dare a white guy say he doesn’t want to date coloured people?
I don’t give a damn anymore. Why should I lie about this or force myself to date someone I think isn’t attractive? If someone gets off by calling me a racist so be it.

I just did. I won’t date sub-Saharan Africans. Apparently I am a racist now even though I haven’t said any race is inferior to another race.
Not wanting to date or have sex with someone isn’t racism! I think that everyone is entitled to decide whom they want or don’t want to be intimate with.
If I refused to talk to or be friends with blacks because they are black, then that would be racist. But I don't. I'd be friends with every race.

“Feminist article” says it all. It’s an insane cult and a cancerous ideology.
I still read the ridiculous article though and I had a good laugh. It’s full of rubbish.
Of course society is to blame. With feminists it’s always society isn’t it?
This whole "society brainwashes us into our preferences and attraction isn’t a biochemical thing" would imply that attraction and preferences aren’t real.
That most people aren’t attracted to chicks/guys who weigh as much as a VW Golf comes from society brainwashing them into a preference for people with normal weight as well. If it weren’t for society people would find humans who weigh as much as cars totally aesthetic and attractive.
It’s not because weighing as much as a VW Golf is unhealthy and healthy is what is attractive to most people for evolutionary reasons. No, it is society and not wanting to date someone morbidly obese is discrimination too.
My, my that’s bollocks.




Pardon me but what is wrong with “negro” ? It simply refers to a person of negroid heritage.

I don't know about that where are you getting that most white people prefer other white people is there a statistic you can link or anything. I think preference to prefer members of ones own race would come more from social pressure derived from racist beliefs about not mixing with 'inferior' groups, and that if you're mostly surrounded by your own race it's most likely you will end up dating someone from it. people can't control what they find attractive, brain chemicals and what not that cause that are likely quite blind to race/ethnicity they don't shut down depending on what ethnicity a person is...which leads me to believe the idea of biological racial preference is b.s.

I actually agree with you for once. It literally makes no sense. They're literally also saying that all people of certain races look the same to them... Which is in fact racism.

Oh. Also to address their other point. Humans are actually incredibly suggesible. People say there's like an ideal body type too, but that's not true. Over the years and through various places what is considered "attractive" in terms of the body have changed. There's been times like the 20s where because media told us that thin "washboard" silutettes were attractive bodies for women and men found that attractive.

So no, it's not particularly biological or innate that certain people are only attracted to people of the same race. It's being bombarded with messages that show us that certain types of people are more beautiful and desirable.

It seems rather moot anyway. Noöne has any business telling anyone else whom to be friends with and whom not to.

Old topic I know but responding anyway for everyone to read if they are wondering the same thing as the OP.


No it does not make you racist if you only want to date people of a certain race. It's about sexual attraction and some people might prefer to keep their own race than having it die out from mixed races when they have kids so they pass their race down to that kid. Relationships are different than friendship and acquaintances and strangers. I see everyone as the same and don't really care what they do or what they look like, or what illness they have, or what personality they have, etc. but when it comes to romance, it becomes a different ballgame. Its about compatibility.

Because you don't need to be physically attracted to your friends. Who people choose to hang out with as friends is almost always based on personality, whereas relationships demand physical attraction also. Some people just can't be attracted to some races. And there's nothing wrong with that.