15 Sep 2015, 9:22 am
The_Face_of_Boo
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15 Sep 2015, 9:28 am
15 Sep 2015, 7:48 pm
nurseangela wrote:
SilverStar wrote:
Kinme wrote:
I think what happens is women don't know how to say no directly, and will constantly find ways to avoid rather than resolve. Women are like this toward other women--trust me. I deal with this garbage on a daily basis with my female friends. They are faaaaaaar from direct and forward about things; this is why women gossip instead of saying something to each others' face: they fear conflict, yet love causing trouble. It's something I think a lot of men don't understand about women, and will continually ask these same questions and question their own sanity. No, it isn't you. It's definitely the women you're choosing to message. Not ALL of us are like this, but the majority of women I've met tend to be.
I think you are right. I have known many girls IRL (probably all NT), and I have come to the conclusion that most of them are masters at shifting the blame away from themselves (they manipulate the conversation to make it sound like everything was your idea, in case of future conflict), and weasling their way out of sticky situations.
Can't we just say "girls" instead of saying "probably all NT"? Actually I've had problems with Aspie men - and I don't even know that many. One I talked to for two months every day and he just stopped saying anything and I still don't know why. I had no clue that was even coming. And you all know about my Aspie friend - he even said he wished we could go out and we might have if it wasn't for my pesky zodiac sign not matching his (guess that's my fault). Never heard that before from an NT guy. Can't change my zodiac sign so I guess there's no hope, but I'm not going to hold that against all Aspie men. NT's and Aspies shouldn't be grouped as "all having a problem" because everyone is different and there can be problems with certain people from each group. Singling out a group with "all" just makes people want to dislike that group even more and anyone associated with that group. I call it "groupism".
I haven't met too many Aspie girls IRL, in order to form an opinion of them (that I know of, anyways), and if I just said "girls", that would imply that I am talking about them too. Anyways, I have also known guys to be flaky as well. There is this guy at work that has stood me up numerous times. When you ask him to do something with you, he will always say yes (even though he has other plans, and/or don't really want to), then when the time comes, he is nowhere to be found, with no phone call, nothing. He's a nice guy and all, but if you want someone you can rely on, you had better ask someone else.
About the zodiac signs, I believe that there is some merit to them, but I wouldn't rely on them solely to judge compatibility. People are complex creatures, and their personality traits don't always line up with those signs.
16 Sep 2015, 1:11 pm
