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Would you rather have sexual compatibility or share common interests?
Sexual compatibility 49%  49%  [ 18 ]
Common interests 51%  51%  [ 19 ]
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05 Apr 2016, 4:58 am

For me, sexual compatibility is slightly more important of the two. I'd like a girl who respects me and my body whether I'm ready or not ready for sex, and doesn't pressurise me into doing anything. I'd like to feel comfortable with my partner, and be together for love, not just sex. Then again, since I'm a lesbian, sex probably won't be too important for me.

Common interests also help spark the relationship as well!


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05 Apr 2016, 7:59 am

I've known some pretty libidinous lesbians :wink:



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05 Apr 2016, 8:02 am

^ With all due respect for you, no one cares.



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05 Apr 2016, 8:07 am

Hey buddy, what was that all about?

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05 Apr 2016, 9:12 am

^ You are always too horny, what do you eat?



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05 Apr 2016, 9:18 am

Lots and lots of pasta and chicken.



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05 Apr 2016, 12:18 pm

For the record, the term "neurodiverse" means "having a mental or neurological disorder". This includes not only people on the autism spectrum, but people on the schizophrenia spectrum, people with mood disorders, people with personality disorders, anxiety disorders, eating disorders, drug addiction, epilepsy, etc. Some mental conditions, like mania, actually make a person more extroverted. Framing the neurodiverse community in terms of an aspie trait like introversion is a pretty egocentric thing to do.



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05 Apr 2016, 1:28 pm

CryptoNerd wrote:
For the record, the term "neurodiverse" means "having a mental or neurological disorder". This includes not only people on the autism spectrum, but people on the schizophrenia spectrum, people with mood disorders, people with personality disorders, anxiety disorders, eating disorders, drug addiction, epilepsy, etc. Some mental conditions, like mania, actually make a person more extroverted. Framing the neurodiverse community in terms of an aspie trait like introversion is a pretty egocentric thing to do.



I know, right? I use the term *autistic* as an overarching term for people on the autistic spectrum. I wasn't aware that "neurodiverse" referred mainly to autistic people. It's some new movement and I'm not sure who coined the term and precisely how it's defined.



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05 Apr 2016, 1:42 pm

CryptoNerd wrote:
For the record, the term "neurodiverse" means "having a mental or neurological disorder". This includes not only people on the autism spectrum, but people on the schizophrenia spectrum, people with mood disorders, people with personality disorders, anxiety disorders, eating disorders, drug addiction, epilepsy, etc. Some mental conditions, like mania, actually make a person more extroverted. Framing the neurodiverse community in terms of an aspie trait like introversion is a pretty egocentric thing to do.


You're mostly right...however not so sure on mood disorders and anxiety per say. I was under the impression neurotypicals can have anxiety and mood disorders as well as neurodiverse individuals.


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05 Apr 2016, 1:52 pm

Sweetleaf wrote:
CryptoNerd wrote:
For the record, the term "neurodiverse" means "having a mental or neurological disorder". This includes not only people on the autism spectrum, but people on the schizophrenia spectrum, people with mood disorders, people with personality disorders, anxiety disorders, eating disorders, drug addiction, epilepsy, etc. Some mental conditions, like mania, actually make a person more extroverted. Framing the neurodiverse community in terms of an aspie trait like introversion is a pretty egocentric thing to do.


You're mostly right...however not so sure on mood disorders and anxiety per say. I was under the impression neurotypicals can have anxiety and mood disorders as well as neurodiverse individuals.


Neurotypicals can have anxiety and depression that is mild and/or situational. What they don't experience is chronic, severe anxiety and depression to the point where they would qualify for a diagnosis of GAD or major depression. What separates a neurotypical from someone with a mental illness is not the presence or absence of anxiety or depression, but rather the severity relative to the situation.



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05 Apr 2016, 2:13 pm

No, NT and neurodiverse are both personality-types. :roll:



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05 Apr 2016, 2:34 pm

I prefer having common interests, for the simple reason that I couldn't even feel attracted to someone who has an incompatible personality with mine, so the first selection is already done at that level. The question of sexual compatibility is only at the second level of selection. Friendship is super important in my relationship and I could never be with someone I'm not best friends with in the first place.



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05 Apr 2016, 3:05 pm

CryptoNerd wrote:
Sweetleaf wrote:
CryptoNerd wrote:
For the record, the term "neurodiverse" means "having a mental or neurological disorder". This includes not only people on the autism spectrum, but people on the schizophrenia spectrum, people with mood disorders, people with personality disorders, anxiety disorders, eating disorders, drug addiction, epilepsy, etc. Some mental conditions, like mania, actually make a person more extroverted. Framing the neurodiverse community in terms of an aspie trait like introversion is a pretty egocentric thing to do.


You're mostly right...however not so sure on mood disorders and anxiety per say. I was under the impression neurotypicals can have anxiety and mood disorders as well as neurodiverse individuals.


Neurotypicals can have anxiety and depression that is mild and/or situational. What they don't experience is chronic, severe anxiety and depression to the point where they would qualify for a diagnosis of GAD or major depression. What separates a neurotypical from someone with a mental illness is not the presence or absence of anxiety or depression, but rather the severity relative to the situation.


^This is true. Also, bipolar disorder is a mood disorder and people with it are not considered neurotypical.


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05 Apr 2016, 3:20 pm

wilburforce wrote:
CryptoNerd wrote:
Sweetleaf wrote:
CryptoNerd wrote:
For the record, the term "neurodiverse" means "having a mental or neurological disorder". This includes not only people on the autism spectrum, but people on the schizophrenia spectrum, people with mood disorders, people with personality disorders, anxiety disorders, eating disorders, drug addiction, epilepsy, etc. Some mental conditions, like mania, actually make a person more extroverted. Framing the neurodiverse community in terms of an aspie trait like introversion is a pretty egocentric thing to do.


You're mostly right...however not so sure on mood disorders and anxiety per say. I was under the impression neurotypicals can have anxiety and mood disorders as well as neurodiverse individuals.


Neurotypicals can have anxiety and depression that is mild and/or situational. What they don't experience is chronic, severe anxiety and depression to the point where they would qualify for a diagnosis of GAD or major depression. What separates a neurotypical from someone with a mental illness is not the presence or absence of anxiety or depression, but rather the severity relative to the situation.


^This is true. Also, bipolar disorder is a mood disorder and people with it are not considered neurotypical.


Considering depression and anxiety as part of neurodiversity is just crazy. It's also not very smart because people need to understand that depression and anxiety are not inherited traits, rather symptoms of a bad environment. An environment that could get fixed if there is a willingness to do so.



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05 Apr 2016, 3:46 pm

rdos wrote:
wilburforce wrote:
CryptoNerd wrote:
Sweetleaf wrote:
CryptoNerd wrote:
For the record, the term "neurodiverse" means "having a mental or neurological disorder". This includes not only people on the autism spectrum, but people on the schizophrenia spectrum, people with mood disorders, people with personality disorders, anxiety disorders, eating disorders, drug addiction, epilepsy, etc. Some mental conditions, like mania, actually make a person more extroverted. Framing the neurodiverse community in terms of an aspie trait like introversion is a pretty egocentric thing to do.


You're mostly right...however not so sure on mood disorders and anxiety per say. I was under the impression neurotypicals can have anxiety and mood disorders as well as neurodiverse individuals.


Neurotypicals can have anxiety and depression that is mild and/or situational. What they don't experience is chronic, severe anxiety and depression to the point where they would qualify for a diagnosis of GAD or major depression. What separates a neurotypical from someone with a mental illness is not the presence or absence of anxiety or depression, but rather the severity relative to the situation.


^This is true. Also, bipolar disorder is a mood disorder and people with it are not considered neurotypical.


Considering depression and anxiety as part of neurodiversity is just crazy. It's also not very smart because people need to understand that depression and anxiety are not inherited traits, rather symptoms of a bad environment. An environment that could get fixed if there is a willingness to do so.


What we know scientifically about neurology and genetics completely contradicts your assertion about the origin of mood disorders and whether they qualify as neurodiverse, but sure, whatever you say. :roll:


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05 Apr 2016, 3:56 pm

wilburforce wrote:
What we know scientifically about neurology and genetics completely contradicts your assertion about the origin of mood disorders and whether they qualify as neurodiverse, but sure, whatever you say. :roll:


How is that? Do you seriously believe that depression and anxiety can be found in DNA? What would the function of that be? These assertions are completely incompatible with what we know about depression and anxiety in NTs and animals alike.