"We met at the supermarket."

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Ok so how do I chat up girls at th supermarket? Without looking like a creep.

I'm at the shops right now and there's this gorgeously tall blond. What should I say to her?

It's' not creepy/harassment when an alpha male approaches a woman. But since most of us aspie men aren't alphas and never will be (it's hard-coded into DNA), your statement very much holds true.

I refuse to believe my DNA determines who I am! Screw destiny! How to I become an alpha male?

You drive to the supermarket in your expensive convertible. Gold diggers will notice that.

have lots and lots of money

You can't! You'd be fighting against an evolutionary mechanism that's hundreds of millions years old, dating back to reptiles. (Fish, which evolved even earlier, don't have as robust of a sexual selection process.) You can, however, emulate an alpha male, enough to get women to believe you are one. How to emulate? By learning PUA. However, PUA gets a lot of controversy here on WP, and I had vitriol thrown my way by mods and other posters for talking about it. But always trying to be liked only leads to resentment. So...

Google is your friend. Search around on the internet for PUA information. Just don't go near Roosh V. His material is too damn radical, and may confuse you at this point. Also forget about David DeAngelo. He gives you generic, good-sounding theories, but never any specific examples, not even in his $200 CD series. (Yes, I paid, back in 2002 or 2003.) Many other PUA sites are way better, although some require a paid subscription.

just don't

Ask the lady where the baking soda is.

I've heard that for a long time, but don't know if its an Urban Rumor or not. It was supposedly a place to find women in numbers and in a non threatening situation. Also looking at certain items provides fodder for casual conversation starters. (ie. I've never tried that brand is it any good?') But I think its not so much for the younger folks.

I have got into conversations in the pet aisle a few times. But with anyone. Thats a subject I enjoy talking about. Meat, Beans, Cereals, not so much.

Good idea. I noticed that since I got a higher paying job women have shown a lot more interest in me.

Considering just how subjective and diverse women's taste can be, there is no possible situation in existence where it's appropriate to cold approach women, or even mutual friends for that matter.

Not at the gym - they want to focus on their workout.
Not at the bar or nightclub - they just want to have fun with their friends.

At an anime/cosplay convention? Ha, get real. The cosplaying woman doesn't want creepy neckbeards or awkward skinny guys cold approaching her. She just wants to have fun at the convention.

At the beach? Of course not. She's already in a bikini and has more than half of her body showing off, of course the guy approaching her only wants to get laid and this will make her uncomfortable.

My advice is to simply disregard what some women say and just approach anytime, anywhere so long as it's decently approrpiate.

Obviously, not at night or at the women's clothes section or in alleyways or anything.

I feel aside from the grocery store, gyms, public transportation, hallways/alleyways, most stores except for bookstores, at night, etc. approach almost ANYTIME, ANYWHERE you see fit in open, public spaces in broad daylight or at bars or social groups.

If a woman cries for help, it's very likely every healthy man, woman and child in the vicinity will rush to her aid.

Watch this video for a good example. Don't worry, the example I am referring to is the very first one in the video, though there's a few others to show people are quick to save a woman from an aggressive male.



Just approach anywhere where you know you could never get away with anything even if you tried, and leave her alone if she becomes uncomfortable anyway.

The beach is not a good idea but it can be done. Obviously try to quickly see if she has a bra on or not. If not you're really pushing into 'creep' territory if you were to cold approach her.

It's still better to be introduced.

Cold-approaching has never worked for me....ever.

It can be fun, though.....and some women really are good sports.

But as far as a chance to get a date--very minimal.

Nothing was ex-communicated to me in this way, and I briefly had my eye on someone(future bf) who decided to turn up at my chequeout at the time, to scan some items. (Also taking an interest).
Later on, after a long shift, I decided to meet up with him, and I guess we got together not long after that.
It's a good job one of us already had the incentive to drive things forwards, but the job didn't last long and the training was poor anyway. Customers were ok, apart from some rude ones and conditions were poor.
I doubt with my condition things would have improved and I wasn't then diagnosed, so going back some years.
BF, is still manning the ropes btw ten years later.

That does seem to be the usual case in which someone actually did a study--one of the partners worked at the supermarket. What most of us agree on it that it is useless to approach another customer at a supermarket.

These days it would be useless approaching anyone in a supermarket, especially if it's seen carrying an I-Pad or other estranged technology that older people like me wouldn't want, as the overall added distraction in a public place.

It's also a myth that women aren't responsive to the male 'take on' approach. If you're not going to be subtle about it, you hardly want to wave a can opener in the air and yell for someone to help you.

A dazzling compliment is usually all it takes.. or usual common chat, and if that fails to amuse then there are always other public places. We can't all pretend to be lucrative house-wives.

Of course, I avoid peer pressure groups and public social networks like exposing flesh to experimental freaks and regular out-patients.

I'd rather bask in a take out and bump into someone per chance, than try to humiliate myself over and over again.

the dazzling compliment only works if one is dazzling oneself. if one is in the creepzone then it is usually considered harassment.