It's really not as easy as you think

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Which is why few of us (if any) consider him a credible source of information.

You sure it’s not also the the other way?

Also people are being nice to you while mean to me in my thread, be glad you’re female.

No, I'm not fussy. I'm pretty willing to go out with anyone who asks. I don't have a long list. I just don't get asked out.

I'm really just looking for someone I get along well with, who has a similar life outlook ( I dont think a homebody could stand my travelling and i dont want to travel alone), I don't want to spend money on flashy cars and clothes, I want a more down-to-earth man, someone with a similar spiritual outlook (I don't think an atheist could stand me), and i will settle for a man whom I find attractive enough. Everyone has something attractive about them.

That's why the last thing didn't work out. He's looking for looove. I stopped believing in this airy-fairy romance thing a long time ago. He wasn't my ideal lookswise, but he was enough for me, we have loads of things in common and he even said i was fun, boring me "fun", yet... I wasn't lighting fireworks for him and that wasn't enough for him.


I think you'll find my manner of expressing myself is different to yours. I'm not sure how to explain that. Yes, I did have a go at Boo, poor guy presses the wrong buttons for me, so does MaxE and rdos, but I'm not so down on myself as you. That gets tiring for people. I engage other users in conversation rather than just saying the same things over and over. I joke with other users too. I know it's an autistic trait to monologue and obsess over points, but do try and be a bit more conversational. It does help.

Well I suppose I understand you a bit better so I won't try to give you any more "advice", although it's possible somebody else might benefit from my observations.

This is nice, that we can converse enough to understand each other.

Would you date a retail employee or someone on disability?

I don’t go places alone, so I don’t travel. I think if I won lottery I might try to go to Japan, I’ve always been fascinated with japan, recently it was renewed cause this you tuber went there and showed all these cool vending machines. I’d like to go try them. I think it might be fun to live there for while.

Nah it’s not that. They tell me I have to improve as men need to be what society says, but women are just prefect however the currently are. No ones telling you to go to gym, lose weight, get bett job, change what you wear etc. not saying they should just pointing out people on wp are very hypocritical and sexist towards men as society is at large.

We both want relationship, you’re given nice advice and I’m told I need to change 100% and become what society says.

If you want we could discuss travel dreams, for me that’s all it’ll ever be, I’d love to see the world. I’ll never get to leave my city though,

I'm already average weight (I've lost what pushed me over the ideal BMI, but I'd like to lose another 6 pounds) and I have a good job, a car and my own apartment too. So they don't need to give me that advice. I'm doing ok. Maybe my voice is annoying. No one can tell online.

Oooh there's this lovely guy I know who does work as a cashier. I keep thinking, "why didn't he like me?" He's shown no interest in me at all

I know him through my... What do we call him... last guy.

I can't ask him out now. I've just had a messy thing with his friend.

If only he'd been the one to ask me out instead, but then maybe he just doesn't see me like that Maybe the same thing would have happened.

See it's not that easy.

I could say more, but
I feel like this is getting too specific, I'm gonna blow my cover.

Yeah I'd love to visit Japan too.

Do you ever shop at the store he works at? You could go through his line and make conversation, maybe make friends with him apart from the other guy.

Just a silly thought.

If you actually want our input about your voice.

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No, it's no where near my house.

I have his phone number. It would be easier to message him or invite him out with some friends, but I don't want to be obviously jumping from one guy to the next like I'm ticking them off a list.

This comment is in response to the post that started the thread. Why do so many men say such stupid, sexist things so damn often? Including men on the spectrum. I mean, I understand that painful experiences of dating, romantic, sexual or whatever rejection can breed sadness, pain, maybe despair and eventually anger ok. But why the misogyny? The very fact that the original poster felt the need to start this thread shows there's something deeply wrong in the psychology of a fair number of ASD men, like men in general. I mean Christ as a very lonely guy, I won't say always, but usually if a woman is kind enough to offer me advice about dating especially, which I assume is a basic need everyone posting on this board has, why would you lash out at her for the advice? That's just crazy! If you're serious about wanting to improve your dating prospects (and as usual women, even ASD women, usually have more experience and better emotional intuition than men), why would you bite the hand that feeds you? Like WTF?!

And further more, you'd be better off either shutting up, going away or just thanking her for doing you the courtesy of trying to help you. Unless you're one of those men's rights activist psychos, who by the way hate women, that's what MRA's actually believe in and practice.

Op is female not male

Dr. Joy used to say to wait a third the length of the relationship up to one year to make sure 1) you're okay being single and 2) you're not jumping into something new as a reaction to the old thing.

I wasn't in a relationship though. I've been single my whole life.

You may need to re-read what Breaks0 wrote.



It wasn't aimed at me.