Why are women on dating sites such hippocrites

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LVBen
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11 Jan 2008, 7:15 pm

LVBen wrote:

Topher wrote:

Sent her that last night.

Hmm. Too long. Too apologetic. Too many compliments. Too much "I hope".

You may have scared her away.

But that is just my opinion! I might be completely wrong.

OH! 1 more thing! Way too many emoticons!! !!

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11 Jan 2008, 7:51 pm

LVBen wrote:

OH! 1 more thing! Way too many emoticons!! !!

So? She used loads of smilies, i complimented her twice, i understood she was busy so i said sorry if the post was too long in case it took up a lot of time. I was considering how she felt. Your point?

LVBen
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11 Jan 2008, 8:03 pm

Topher wrote:

Your point?

LVBen wrote:

You may have scared her away.

Topher
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11 Jan 2008, 8:09 pm

<insert rant here> F**king Bloody Hell!! ! <rant inserted>

Maybe your wrong though, she said she was busy. Perhaps she will reply. It did mean a lot to her to get my initial message.

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11 Jan 2008, 8:31 pm

Topher wrote:

<insert rant here> F**king Bloody Hell!! !

<rant inserted>

Maybe your wrong though, she said she was busy. Perhaps she will reply. It did mean a lot to her to get my initial message.

Topher, rule of the game:

"I'm busy" = "I'm not interested".

She didn't seem to hint at a rescheduling, so yup, messed up.

As for that convo, you were finished right after that first sentence was over.

Like I said, that's stuff you save for the coffee date bro. Now, it's game over, and if you try again later, it's a desperation attempt.

We're gonna have to work to get a new one bro. Sorry man. Numbers game. A Brutal arena.

Mark198423
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11 Jan 2008, 8:44 pm

LVBen wrote:

OH! 1 more thing! Way too many emoticons!! !!

He may be right about this bit. Mirroring her style of writing might not be the way to go, maybe put 1 or 2 in but try to use your own way of writing - best to start off as yourself right from the begining!

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11 Jan 2008, 8:57 pm

BlackBull wrote:

"I'm busy" = "I'm not interested".

Not necessarily. When I tell a guy I'm busy, it means I'm busy.

BlackBull wrote:

She didn't seem to hint at a rescheduling

I don't hint at rescheduling. I figure if they are really interested, they will ask again. Generally they do.

Try asking using a broad expanse of time ("sometime this week"). That gives her the opportunity to say "Sure, I'm free Tuesday."

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12 Jan 2008, 12:27 am

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sinsboldly wrote:

maybe the women don't think they are fat.

The individual in question described her body type as being "a few pounds extra" (it was, horrifically, far more than that), but she was well aware.

sinsboldly wrote:

maybe the wierd old people don't think they are weird, or old.

When a profile states that the user is seeking someone who is younger than themselves, people who are way older should respect that and leave us alone.

sinsboldly wrote:

maybe the homosexual men think you are desparate?

If they mistakenly believed that, then they might be dangerous individuals, trying to take advantage of those who they think are "desperate." In any case, it is rude to solicit someone for sex when you know they are not interested. I would never do that to a lesbian, for example.

I concurr, the mere fact that others might not appreciate the deal breakers in ones life gets frustrating when they are the majority of replies.

Merle

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12 Jan 2008, 11:03 am

LVBen wrote:

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BlackBull wrote:

Looked good bro. She seems interested, and is one of those who's actually looking for someone to have a meaningful relationship with.

Now, dont tell her things on the internet right away. Find a place to meet up (Coffee shop man. Trust me. No restrauants. Saves money, and neither of you need to get dressed up and put on you're best behavior. At the coffee shop, you two can be totally relaxed and have a fun convo, and coffee's only 3$. Everyone wins)

When you two meet up in person, talk about what was said in the message. In person, this works 100x better, because you'd be able to show body language, and get your messages across much faster.

Tell me how it goes Topher. Look forward to hearing the outcome.

Yeah,that's what I told the person I contacted....I suggested meeting at Starbucks(I'm a frappuchino addict LOL) would be a good location for a first date.

Starbucks is a great place for a first date. It gives you a chance to get to know the basics about each other in a casual and comfortable environment. It is cheap, which is important for a few reasons. For many NT women, the more money you spend on them, the less respect they have for you, and if it turns out that you two aren't compatible, then you are only out $10 instead of wasting $50+ on a typical date with a girl you will never see again.

Yeah,well I logged in this morning & checked my messages only to find that this girl now has a different city listing in her profile than she did yesterday when I first contacted her.It looks like POF is no different than the other sites I've looked at so I'm not gonna waste my time with it & am just going to accept the fact that in all likelyhood nobody wants to be with me & that I'll just end up being alone for the rest of my life.

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12 Jan 2008, 3:47 pm

Mark198423 wrote:

LVBen wrote:

OH! 1 more thing! Way too many emoticons!! !!

Then i sadly have to say "Bollocks, not again!"

Mark198423
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12 Jan 2008, 3:54 pm

Topher wrote:

Mark198423 wrote:

LVBen wrote:

OH! 1 more thing! Way too many emoticons!! !!

Then i sadly have to say "Bollocks, not again!"

It's just my thoughts, I'm certainly no expert - I often struggle with what to talk/write to someone I don't know so find it hard to send the opener, nevermind the response to a reply!

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