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no one can be forced into being nice

what I am saying is-be thankful your not on the streets addicted to crack
or in africa being shot at by militants

just because you think your so hard done by, shouldn't make it that everyone has to bend overbackwards to sympathize for you-when many of you, refuse to take the advice or do anything about it
people have limits
we're only human

and yeah i am a bit of a dick-doesn't bother me-not everyone with AS is all "nice" and crap

Oh no! The girls are now starting to stereotype the guys as violent and bitter. Well, I guess we started it so good job on the revenge. You go girls.

But one thing that should make you girls happy is my take on this.

1. People are stupid, especially in groups
2. Therefore the thoughts of the majority are wrong
3. So if most guys are bitter towards women
4. This proves that it is wrong for guys to be bitter toward women

Always look on the bright side, even if you have to be really cynical to do it.

I don't make as many serious posts as I used to. It's hard to be a voice of reason here. For those of you who continue to try to be a voice of reason and don't give up and just mock the status quo like I do, I salute you. I do think this place needs an injection of levity at times.

you don't know what pain is-go try living in a third world country or something

Aspie males think too much? Of course. Consider the aspie mind: all logic, even when dissecting emotion. Aspies like things they can figure out. The best analogy an aspie male can come up with for trying to figure out women is that they are an unusually complex machine. Since we're devoid of the intuitive empathetic and emotional "feel" for social stuff, we must decipher women by trial and error, with each possible comment or gesture being a single button or lever that, on a machine, would get a consistent and replicable result: insert 75 cents here, press A4 on the keypad, and one Snickers bar is dispensed. The typical aspie male experience - especially among the virgins on here, of which I was one until very recently - is making attempts to understand how women work and coming up empty after many tries. Until my recent breakthrough, at age 38, I was 0 for 300 or so in attempts to get laid and/or into a relationship. This kind of long-term wall of failure, for a group that tends to value and/or possess intelligence, is frustrating to a degree impossible for any woman to imagine.
I know a woman is not a candy machine. We all do, all the frustrated male aspies. With perhaps just a few exceptions, the anti-female rants on here are born of this frustration, and are not indicative of violent tendencies - remember, the aspie male's goal is still to get to know women better. I have never slagged women as a group. I think that the worst of the hostility is not directed at women overall, but at hearing the bad advice and mixed messages that women often give on here (dress nice/money's not important, be confident/be yourself [it's one or the other], etc). It's like the Snickers bar telling me "Just insert 75 cents and press A4 and I'm yours!" and I follow the instructions and it doesn't work...on that machine, or the next 299 machines that I try.
I understand if women on here are turned off by the rants, and perhaps I missed the most inflammatory examples. But again, the aspie male's goal at the end of all the anger and perplexity is still to get into a satisfying sexual and/or emotional relationship. Many of us are capable of being good partners, but it's an exceptionally trying process and that is showing up loud and clear on this forum.

So, let me ask you this. ^

Do you meditate? Do you think aspies, by nature, can't meditate?

My point is - with all that superhuman brain power do you not also have the ability to turn it off at will and just let the universe guide you? At the very least, if you knew it scared women away to think of them as 'fembots' - could you turn it off?

And why is it that female aspies don't try to reverse-engineer guys? (Assuming WP represents a decent sample of the female aspie experience.)

In my entire life, I don't remember ever trying to figure out guys. Well, I take that back. If I set my sites on a particular guy, I'd try to figure out where he hangs out...what interests he has...where he works...what kind of car does he drive - that kind of stuff. Very individual...

Maybe its because I have brothers? I dunno - maybe its the way my mom raised me. Maybe its because aspie women have more testosterone (didn't I hear that somewhere?) and our brains are kind of wired like guys' - therefore is not really a mystery?

And anyway - when you keep telling yourself you lack empathy - don't you think after awhile you've totally convinced yourself? I wasn't dxed until recently and only now do I see where I have been quite cruel and unfeeling. But I didn't have that soundtrack running through my head my every waking moment therefore, I don't let that "rule", rule me.

PS: We are not machines. Humans are not machines. We are all completely different and as long as you think of us as machines, you'll recieve machine-like love in return. (Which doesn't exist...get it?)