Why do a lot of women do this...?

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Actually, she did meet someone, but I have a feeling that she will only stay with him as long as he keeps playing by her rules.

If a guy who is interested in her tries to convince her that her ideas are ridiculous, she will accuse him of trying to manipulate or guilt-trip her.

She will write someone off if he makes even one little mistake, and she is not the forgiving type. She doesn't bother to see the reasoning between other peoples' actions, and that they didn't mean to do certain things, or that they did things without meaning any harm. She will only see that those things happened, and judge that person by said actions, without ever bothering to get the facts straight.

There are men and women with really bad attitudes, who should just remain single for all eternity. Either that, or we could stick them on an island together so they can make themselves miserable, and leave the rest of us alone.

The problem is people like that are in the mentality where they feel everything should be handed to them. They don't want to work, and want a prince/princess to take care of them all day. The bad part is if someone does fall for them, that person is at constant risk of being replaced by anyone hotter/cooler who comes along.

It's much better to just avoid that type, and instead find someone you can trust.

Hades's wife's right(Sorry, flexing my brain, I'm arrogant)
Though...

If you actually roll your eyes at that kind of powerplay, you're allright in my book : )
Alas, a lot of girls I know act like the OP discribes because it's a habit, not evil intent.

But luckily there's even more people who aren't so manipulatey.

Trust me, this is an age-old issue. With my parents, both hate having to clean, but my mother (who grew up fatherless) knew of no other way to live other than a mother being responsible for maintaining the household in the absence of a father. So, when it comes to maintaining the house, my mother gets upset (absolutely hates a cluttered house after growing up in one), but my dad is the only form of income to the family (computer engineer, but fairly stressful at times). So mother complains about the house, both parents hate cleaning, brothers and i hate it . . . the house gets cleaned (doesnt stay so for long given a family of 5 plus pet). It all boils down to how folks deal with stress, and what is considered stressful to the individual. Someone said it earlier, "Who on earth wants to clean a house after dealing with a tiring/stressful day of work?" Granted, this shouldnt keep couples from putting their effort to clean on weekends (or when needed on days off). Hell, there are days when my family swears my father is going through his "period" (come to call it "phases" since that word was taken ). In the end, both sides are guilty of what they dont like to do, and get pissed at the other for having to do it. Thats why its called compromise . . .

Unfortunately, I ended up getting married to exactly the kind of woman the threadstarter refers to.

Everything was "her way or the highway" and nothing was off the table to ensure that - she called 911 on me once when I finally stood up for myself (non-physically of course) and wouldn't back down on some trivial issue (can't even remember what it was). The police came and asked me to leave the house or face arrest - The woman is always innocent, right?

That's the last time I ever dared to stand up to her.

Whenever I would ask her why she does this, she would say that "men need to be told what to do, they can't do anything for themselves", or she would change the subject and say "women are always the b*****s, it's never the man's fault".

She had an affair and divorced me - and called it all my fault. After she came back to me when her BF realized she meant business and took off, she still thinks what she did was perfectly justified. Ironically, she divorced me one month before she would have qualified for alimony, so I won't be donating 40% of my income to her for the rest of my life.

If you're wondering why I didn't simply leave, we have two kids. Finally I became convinced that living in this sort of environment was much worse for my kids than seeing me a little less often, so I moved out.

Now she says she will never forgive me for "leaving her" and "abandoning my children"!

How that for awful?

At this point, I can never see myself getting married again, I will never put myself in a situation where I am so physically/morally/legally helpless. Given the ways the laws are written and how the views of society are completely stacked against men in this regard, I don't see why any man in his right mind would get married unless he were absolutely certain that he had a good woman (and there are millions of them - the vast majority), and I absolutely do not trust my judgement in this regard.

Please understand, I actually love women, I am not a misogynist by any means. But my point is that if you get a bad one, there can be hell to pay beyond just a broken heart - so be careful!