How to recognize when a girl is flirting with you?

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03 Jun 2012, 2:50 pm

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03 Jun 2012, 3:46 pm

ZX_SpectrumDisorder wrote:

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It took my Aspie 9 months, 9 months I tell ya to realize I was interested in him. I brought him food, baked cookies, wrote love poems, visited, texted and emailed him every day. I smiled at him a lot, batted my eyes, touched him on his arm or back whenever I could. So one day he tells me it "seemed" I was interested him. I'm like "uh ya think"! ! At that time he told me he had AS. It all made sense. Maybe he started thinking about it earlier than that but at 9 months I guess he was convinced. I "turned up the volume" on the flirting during the 9 months. Not because I wanted to get laid ( although at some point it would have been nice! lol) but because he just wasn't "getting it". I know some people would have given up because it would seem the person wasn't interested. But for some reason I didn't. I usually don't give up on what I want so quickly.

Why didn't you put a move on him?

Before I decided to try and "woo" him, I considered myself a forward kind of person. I realized however that I'm actually on the shy side. I was used to guys coming up to me. I never went after a guy until now. I always thought I would be able to say "hey, I think we should go out" but I couldn't! So many times he would say something and I would want to follow up with some sort of sexual innuendo but I'd chicken out. One time I did and he looked clueless-now I know he really was!!
There was such a strong chemical attraction with him. I found myself acting like a fool for him. Sometimes I would think to myself "what are you doing? He doesn't seem to be interested". But the way he would look at me told me something was there. I started to pay attention to the little things he would do. Maybe that's what kept me chasing him, those little things. I knew there was something special about him, I just couldn't put my finger on it. And so I started writing him letters and poems to slowly reveal my intentions. That was my way of putting move on him.

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03 Jun 2012, 3:50 pm

smudge wrote:

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Why didn't you put a move on him?

Aspies are sometimes VERY sensitive and get taken aback so much that there's no going back. And yet it's only obvious signs that they notice. Very hard, and I've never succeeded with a sensitive aspie yet, even if at first they had feelings for me.

So you're saying that they were interested at first but then something happened and they either lost interested or were so paralyzed they couldn't act on it?

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03 Jun 2012, 11:38 pm

You guys need to learn how to not double post. Seriously, just edit your previous posts.

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04 Jun 2012, 12:20 am

Samual wrote:

You guys need to learn how to not double post. Seriously, just edit your previous posts.

And you need to learn how to get over it. Seriously, it happens sometimes. I don't see what the big deal is. Sometimes its an error.

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04 Jun 2012, 12:32 am

We should get rid of a lot of unnecessary forum guidelines throughout the world. On this forum, they're actually pretty lenient - most other forums I've visited so far would lock any thread you revived if it was last used over seven days ago.

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04 Jun 2012, 12:52 am

HisDivineMajesty wrote:

Wow! And that happens all the time here. I've seen threads revived after months. I just joined in March. I don't know all the rules and I'm sure a lot of new folks don't either. This this the first forum I've ever been on so I'm learning as I go.

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04 Jun 2012, 12:54 am

IlovemyAspie wrote:

And you need to learn how to get over it. Seriously, it happens sometimes. I don't see what the big deal is. Sometimes its an error.

Yeah, sometimes. Just pay attention to how your posting, init.

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04 Jun 2012, 1:00 am

IlovemyAspie wrote:

So you're saying that they were interested at first but then something happened and they either lost interested or were so paralyzed they couldn't act on it?

I get paralyzed sometimes, doesn't necessarily mean loss of feeling. Just excessively defensive about my emotional and physical space, hard to let those barriers down, hard to act. But I'm guessing if it's the same sort of thing going on, he'll answer a direct question about how he feels or what he's comfortable with, honestly (though the body language might not reflect it). That's the emotional space. The physical space is harder but light touch is bad, just increases discomfort, firm touch and firm hugs are good and lots of that over a period of time will probably increase his physical comfort level. That's me, but here direct questions might be good too e.g. do you like hugs etc

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04 Jun 2012, 2:53 am

IlovemyAspie wrote:

Samual wrote:

You guys need to learn how to not double post. Seriously, just edit your previous posts.

And you need to learn how to get over it. Seriously, it happens sometimes. I don't see what the big deal is. Sometimes its an error.

Editing a post can be quite complicated here(certain time limits/server can give you an error message several times... alex claims that he is working on migrating to a more suitable design) so we try to be as understanding as possible with this sort of things provided that no one is doing it to the point of spamming/boosting their post count.

As for reviving old threads there isnt a policy against that but some members dont like that sort of thing.

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04 Jun 2012, 2:58 am

spongy wrote:

As for reviving old threads there isnt a policy against that but some members dont like that sort of thing.

Actually I think there is a guideline or a policy for it; "Don't revive threads older than 6 months, start a new one."

..but I'm not 100% sure.

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04 Jun 2012, 3:21 am

Blownmind wrote:

spongy wrote:

As for reviving old threads there isnt a policy against that but some members dont like that sort of thing.

Actually I think there is a guideline or a policy for it; "Don't revive threads older than 6 months, start a new one."

..but I'm not 100% sure.

Its not covered by the rules http://www.wrongplanet.net/postt73835.html
And its not on the tos http://www.wrongplanet.net/tos.txt
So theres no official policy against reviving old threads and hopefully we wont need to stablish one any time soon.

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04 Jun 2012, 8:29 am

Samual wrote:

You guys need to learn how to not double post. Seriously, just edit your previous posts.

To what double posts are you referring? I don't see any double posts in this thread, and usually if someone is double posting it's a computer/server side glitch.

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04 Jun 2012, 9:27 am

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04 Jun 2012, 10:51 am

spongy wrote:

Blownmind wrote:

Actually I think there is a guideline or a policy for it; "Don't revive threads older than 6 months, start a new one."
..but I'm not 100% sure.

My bad.

Must have been on another forum.

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