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Sounds like you're a hot piece of meat

So is that how you women interpret things? (sorry I am in stereotyping mood today)

It is true then when engaged men claim that women start pursuing them once they get engaged and none when they were singles.

The other day a newly-engaged man showed me texts he's receiving from fans, I thought he was just making stuff up but the evidences i saw where undeniable.


Why you, the women species ( extreme stereotyping mood...sorry again), behave in this illogical s**t way?

No worries, I was just kidding you. I feel like I can't give advice, because it seems like you have may have to choose between the two women, so what you do, my friend, is up to you. So instead I jest.

There is evidence that when a man is already taken, or is surrounded by women, he can seem more desirable to single women.

http://www.overcomingbias.com/2009/08/w ... ching.html

I have noticed the same thing with men- when I am, "taken," suddenly I am much more popular and sought after by the men around me. Goes both ways dudes!

Alright... take it easy...
So your saying that you'd have to be Islam to be married?
Sorry, my bad as I dropped out of Religious Education.

I am saying since she's devout then she would never pursue a relationship if its main goal wasn't marriage and children.

She's the type of girl that would take her brother if I have to go on a 1-to-1 night date with her lol, unless if I get engaged to her.

H: You're coming to the dinner event on sat, right?

Me: Umm.. yea, why not.

H: Make sure to keep a seat for me next to you.

Me: ok

~next day~

D: You're coming Saturday, eh? (cheerful tone)

Me: Umm...yea, most probably.

D: Oh btw, you can bring someone with you, like your girlfriend for example (italic for condensed tone, kinda bit cruel ton).

Me: I have no gf, yet.

D: Ok, I sit next to you, eh eh? (cheerful tone)

Me: umm...well...ok, if there's place.



Oh, boy.


Lesson learned: getting two admirers in the same social circle is a bad....bad idea.

Do you like D? I would worry unless you don't care for H (sorry haven't been following) seems like she will try to sabotage.

I find D physically sexy but confused and emotionally unstable as hell.

H is far more considerate and caring - and knows what she wants.

The grass isakways greener on the other side, I guess...

Back when I was in a relationship, it also seemed like I had more options.

Ah man you entered into world of dating game! Its up to what you like. Remember don't force it. No shallowness allowed. No way to accept someone who is shallow, like you said you find D as sexy women....

I rather have H instead.

D has her advantages too, it's not only about looks as they both are good-looking.


They're of opposite characters lol, H is very introvert and a devout Muslim, but not an intolerant close-minded one (so far that's my impression), she just practices what she was taught but, oddly, she doesn't hold anything against my lack of believe. However, any relationship with her *will* be a sexless one till marriage, in fact I expect there would be no real form of intimacy before engagement and it would be only a matter of months before she demands engagement (typical local case), the whole relationship would be on a soon-marriage basis . She's 25 and has no former relationship experience (not a negative thing in my case).

D is more liberal, very socially extrovert, she doesn't give a s**t about religion and she's already attempting to kiss me lol, she's around 35 and divorced. At times she sounded materialistic which H never sounds to be, I am not sure it's the age and life circumstances, her former husband was a rich hippo-sized man tho (hmmmmm).

and there's that German J (new potential lol).....

My choice is relying on the question whether I am ready for a such committed relationship (RIGHT NOW) or not, the H path means a soon marriage path :S.

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How well do you feel you have to get to know someone before you marry them? You could be ready to marry SOMEONE now, but on the proviso that there is somebody in your life who you know well enough to make that commitment to. Getting into a relationship with someone with the intent of committing to be with them for the rest of your life after having known them for only a tiny speck of that time seems odd to me, but if you are okay with that, then I suppose H is still an option.

That's the Muslim culture, hence why you find it odd. Typically, Muslim couples stay engaged for years while Christians get engaged once they set the marriage date months ahead.

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I understand that, and I'm just saying you need to think carefully about whether you are okay with that. It's a huuuuge thing.

Honest question... do you believe truthfully that you could put up with D in the whole emotional states and confusing as hell?
Also what are you really looking for in a partner... may help with which is better suited and possibly workable.