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The_Face_of_Boo
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27 Feb 2013, 4:08 am

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Well in that case I'm sorry for you, it's bad enough nature deigned to put you on spectrum but to add something else to it is.. just plain not nice.

You know oddly enough, getting sort of back on the original topic. When I boot up OkCupid or Plenty of Fish.. or whatever other dating site. if I JUST look at their photos I tend to find quite a few women I find aesthetically appealing.. BUT.. that's when the other foot comes down. The rather substantial number I find attractive is whittled down to almost nothing when I see stuff like "Christian and very serious about it" in their profile or "I'm just a good old fashioned country girl who likes mudding and bud light", or worse under favorite books "The Bible" or "I don't like to read... lol! it's boring and puts me to sleep!"

Both of my ex's have been from other states, and both from urban areas, both have liked reading and been intelligent, knowledgeable, and capable of carrying on a conversation on a number of topics... as well as to me attractive.

I really do think my problem is less specifically about me being picky (I know I am) and more cultural.. I don't conform to the cultural norms in my region, and I find women who conform to the cultural norms in my region repulsive. Basically the US as a whole has a seriously anti-intellectual streak, but it's especially pronounced in rural areas and in poor areas.. I Imagine it would be much the same in Idaho or Kansas.. I know it's exactly the same in Oklahoma as it is in Georgia. I'm a non religious bluestate urbanite trapped in a bible-thumping redstate rural hell.. and I really do think that is more limiting to my potential dating pool than simply me being too picky.

You would hang yourself if you live in the middle-east.

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27 Feb 2013, 4:14 am

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:

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You would hang yourself if you live in the middle-east.

Probably yes, I've come very close to it here a few times... The bad thing is I'm not actually very "Liberal" in terms of my politics.. which will no doubt put me at odds with a lot of people in the blue state coastal areas should I manage to get to move there, I don't really give a flying fig for gay rights or abortion.. They simply aren't topics that tend to inter into my head.. but talk to me about regulatory reform and fiscal domestic economic intervention.. oh boy.

I've often been reminded of Alan Rickman's line in "Quigley down under" "Some men were born in the wrong century.. I was born on the wrong continent... "

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27 Feb 2013, 4:29 am

MXH wrote:

why would someone dislike their own creation

You're not a programmer, are you?

Leaving looks aside, i think that being an insecure person reaks of being a child, i have noticed this in my later years. Thats probably why people do not like people who are not self confident.

I had a problem with self confidence which got worse when i were in a period unemployment, but lately my self confidence and esteem has grown to the size of a sports arena and people are actively trying to hold me back. Its not the realisation that i discovered how much i knew, its more how little everybody else knew in comparison to an aspie who have spent his entire life around computers.

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27 Feb 2013, 4:32 am

I'm one of those guys that's apparently got the looks but not the social skills. I don't need someone else to tell me that makes me a cruel joke of Mother Nature, it's practically a slap in my pretty little face.

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27 Feb 2013, 7:19 am

:lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: @Shau. my girl friends would probs just laugh at ya, not bother to slap u or anything. touching a loser is icky to them ya see

The Face of Boo, I'd date a guy or a butch woman with a facial deformity or burns etc. hundred percent nothing to do with my SEXUAL ATTRACTION. in fact, i prefer ugly faces for whatever reason, big noses and strong jaws and bone structure. probs becuz my own bone structure is recessed and underdeveloped.

how im treated by a guy/girl makes up 100% of attraction to me. thats why i currently have a crush on nobody, tho i have had unrequited crushes on ppl whove been nice to me and ppl have tried to date me and see past my looks but it always ended very badly becuz they always ended up wanting some1 else and they just werent into me even tho we got along perfectly.

i could feel their guilt :(

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27 Feb 2013, 8:02 am

If it makes you feel any better, at least Nature didn't set you up for extra disappointment!

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27 Feb 2013, 8:08 am

maybe you should stay with yo mama.

the instrumental very accurately describes what ugly people feel in an anguished way.

if you have a high musical intelligence you will listen to the entirety of this song. if you do not you will opt out early.

zappa was considered ugly and this song shows that ugliness can rule.

[youtube]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KQXUCjKd13Q[/youtube]

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27 Feb 2013, 8:14 am

bluerose wrote:

i have an imbalance in the size and shape of my jaws, and my cheekbones are underdeveloped and my nose is too big, my eyes too small and the shape of my face too long. none of this is medical, or a disease, except the placement of my upper jaw relative to the lower one. orthognatic surgery would help me with that, but its considered cosmetic in my case so insurance wont cover it and its too expensive.

we dont have stuff like extreme makeover or whatever here.

You need to realize that you've got to work with what you have in the best scenario. As Boo said, are you looking for a model partner or would you be willing to go out with someone like MR20?

It was suggested by bluemax that you should date someone like MR20 but when he suggested it, you flipped out. If you aren't willing to give other people with differences a chance, why do you expect people to give your differences a chance?

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27 Feb 2013, 8:40 am

Ah, nothing guts the ego quite like being weighed and measured, eh Ms. Bluerose?

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27 Feb 2013, 8:52 am

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27 Feb 2013, 8:57 am

Wolfheart wrote:

You need to realize that you've got to work with what you have in the best scenario.

what do you have other than your looks that can be a salvation to a lost heart?

here is a song by an unattractive woman that trounces all you can possibly think.

[youtube]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lhFnOAwr96o[/youtube]
your advice is trite and shallow and is not the answer to people who have a hard time.
you are a shallow person with a fit body and you glibly trot out your advice that is useless to people who are not as lucky as you.

here is another song by her that would tear you apart if you loved her. she is so much more intelligent than you. but you probably would never notice her because she is not good looking.

i love her.

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27 Feb 2013, 8:59 am

Shau wrote:

Ah, nothing guts the ego quite like being weighed and measured, eh Ms. Bluerose?

She can't replyuntil next month is about to be over

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27 Feb 2013, 9:04 am

[youtube]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Orqqc11eGBM[/youtube]

i agree with this

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27 Feb 2013, 9:06 am

b9 wrote:

Wolfheart wrote:

You need to realize that you've got to work with what you have in the best scenario.

I have a lot going on actually, I'm a lot more than just looks and athletic abilities. I'm considered as a creative type, people consider me to be artistic and creative. That has certainly impressed people in the past, not to mention lots of the advice I have given on here that people have found helpful.

You just have to look at my Facebook to see the amount of likes and comments on my profile from people who have an appreciation. I have many different types of people on my list, bodybuilders, artists, photographers, actors and models.

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27 Feb 2013, 9:17 am

I have also done runs for charity and helped out in the local community and churches. I'm great with animals and kids as well.

What have you done to help the people around you, B9?

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27 Feb 2013, 9:20 am

bluerose wrote:

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@Shau. my girl friends would probs just laugh at ya, not bother to slap u or anything. touching a loser is icky to them ya see

The Face of Boo, I'd date a guy or a butch woman with a facial deformity or burns etc. hundred percent nothing to do with my SEXUAL ATTRACTION. in fact, i prefer ugly faces for whatever reason, big noses and strong jaws and bone structure. probs becuz my own bone structure is recessed and underdeveloped.

how im treated by a guy/girl makes up 100% of attraction to me. thats why i currently have a crush on nobody, tho i have had unrequited crushes on ppl whove been nice to me and ppl have tried to date me and see past my looks but it always ended very badly becuz they always ended up wanting some1 else and they just werent into me even tho we got along perfectly.

i could feel their guilt

There are dating websites for the unfortunate in looks, ever checked them?

Studies showed that couples often tend to look similar to each other.

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