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10 Nov 2015, 11:54 am

Haku and Chihiro!

I named my Gyarados in Omega Ruby after Haku. :mrgreen:


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10 Nov 2015, 12:14 pm

I don't believe in soulmates. I do believe in compatibility and love, both romantic or not.

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Words and promises must be backed by actions and substance to be of value and merit.

Experience made me suspicious to the point of aversion towards big promises and declamative discourse of any kind. As a matter of personal opinion and observation, I also think extreme sentimentality often goes hand in hand with cruelty and disregard for others.

On the spur of the moment, many promise eternal love and bliss, yet few live up to it. And I've seen too many people who beat and abuse their children and spouses yet wax lyrically about how much they love them.

Sorry if I sound harsh, Kuraudo, you sound like a young and sensitive person and that's a breath of fresh air around these parts. All I can say is that my wife doesn't have a sentimental or "conventionally" romantic bone in her body, yet as far as I'm concerned no poetry in this world can live up to the way her actions, big and small, day by day and along the years reflect her love to me and our children.


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10 Nov 2015, 12:21 pm

Yep, I'm an optimist, and proud of it! I'm also a determinator, so all of my bright and sunny talk aren't just words. :lol:


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10 Nov 2015, 12:25 pm

Kuraudo777 wrote:
Yep, I'm an optimist, and proud of it! I'm also a determinator, so all of my bright and sunny talk aren't just words. :lol:

Bless your heart :) I hope life treats you kindly.


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10 Nov 2015, 12:25 pm

BenderRodriguez wrote:
I don't believe in soulmates. I do believe in compatibility and love, both romantic or not.
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Words and promises must be backed by actions and substance to be of value and merit.

Experience made me suspicious to the point of aversion towards big promises and declamative discourse of any kind. As a matter of personal opinion and observation, I also think extreme sentimentality often goes hand in hand with cruelty and disregard for others.

On the spur of the moment, many promise eternal love and bliss, yet few live up to it. And I've seen too many people who beat and abuse their children and spouses yet wax lyrically about how much they love them.

Sorry if I sound harsh, Kuraudo, you sound like a young and sensitive person and that's a breath of fresh air around these parts. All I can say is that my wife doesn't have a sentimental or "conventionally" romantic bone in her body, yet as far as I'm concerned no poetry in this world can live up to the way her actions, big and small, day by day and along the years reflect her love to me and our children.


Yes, it is the small acts and compromises day by day that truly matter. Small acts of selfless giving, sacrifice and love that make a bond stronger.

You have a great mindset and I am sure you will have many years ahead. Relationships shouldn't be about what we can gain or a vain reflection, they should be giving and caring. No amount of whimsical words can replace that.



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10 Nov 2015, 12:29 pm

Aww, thank you, Bender! :heart: I've also been endeavoring to finally finish my first book after three years, and I'm really getting somewhere [at long last], so I'm quite happy about that right now! Oddly enough, for someone who dislikes romance, there's a fair amount of romance in my book! How peculiar.


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10 Nov 2015, 12:33 pm

Maybe you just don't KNOW that you like romance, Kura. :wink:



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10 Nov 2015, 12:37 pm

Or maybe it's because that romance these days just seems ridiculous to me [unless it's in certain Clamp mangas]. I don't know. 90% of the main cast of my book are in a relationship of some sort, be it romantic, family-related, or close friendships.


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10 Nov 2015, 12:43 pm

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Yes, it is the small acts and compromises day by day that truly matter. Small acts of selfless giving, sacrifice and love that make a bond stronger.

You have a great mindset and I am sure you will have many years ahead. Relationships shouldn't be about what we can gain or a vain reflection, they should be giving and caring. No amount of whimsical words can replace that.


It's fascinating to me how many people ignore the importance of seemingly small things and gestures, both good and bad, in human relationships, they are in my experience one of the key factors in long and happy relationships of any kind.


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10 Nov 2015, 12:50 pm

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Well, you don't need to take it out on us! Is there some way I can help you? Or do you just want to be negative all the time?
Since when has SpiderPig been negative? Did I miss something?


He's always self hating on himself and men in this sub forum. He defends the right of women to abuse , mistreat and hate him and men. He'd likely let them spit on him then attack you for trying to defend him from them. It's sad. It may be the future of all men like him and me and others here :(



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10 Nov 2015, 12:52 pm

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If you believe that that will be your fate, then it likely will. But if you don't and realize that everyone is different and that generalizing does nothing good, then I think you'll be fine.


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10 Nov 2015, 12:54 pm

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sly, you ARE important. though your job doesn't pay as well as you'd like, i'm sure they need you. i bet you also have family who value you.


They could hire a replacement in few months, the job has a high turn over rate, I was hoping to keep with it long enough to transfer to another department. Yes they'd be screwed over the busy holiday without me. We should really have 5 people for our department but only have 4ish(one is waiting for back surgery so only works a little bit.)

I want to be valued and loved by a romantic relationship woman. It's the only thing I'm good at and I won't be given a chance to show it.



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10 Nov 2015, 12:58 pm

^I think there are lots of other things that you're good at, Kitsune-san [do you mind if I nickname you that?] Is there some way Jedi Master Tifa can cheer you up? :jester:
I want to be valued and loved too. I think everyone does. Sometimes I wonder if people often do bad things because they're lonely.


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10 Nov 2015, 1:06 pm

BenderRodriguez wrote:
Nocturnus wrote:

Yes, it is the small acts and compromises day by day that truly matter. Small acts of selfless giving, sacrifice and love that make a bond stronger.

You have a great mindset and I am sure you will have many years ahead. Relationships shouldn't be about what we can gain or a vain reflection, they should be giving and caring. No amount of whimsical words can replace that.


It's fascinating to me how many people ignore the importance of seemingly small things and gestures, both good and bad, in human relationships, they are in my experience one of the key factors in long and happy relationships of any kind.


I agree..unfortunately many people have a self serving attitude but I like to think that altruistic and selfless relationships are far stronger than the self serving. Of course, that doesn't mean we should make compromises or sacrifices without a return or a good cause, strong relationships require a two way street of mutual respect.



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10 Nov 2015, 1:11 pm

Kuraudo777 wrote:
Aww, thank you, Bender! :heart: I've also been endeavoring to finally finish my first book after three years, and I'm really getting somewhere [at long last], so I'm quite happy about that right now! Oddly enough, for someone who dislikes romance, there's a fair amount of romance in my book! How peculiar.


Good luck! And maybe you long for romance, just not the saccharine tasting, BS smelling caricature of it that's so popular these days :P


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10 Nov 2015, 1:15 pm

Yes, I think I do. All of the characters in my book are in relationships that make them better people when they are with their 'other half', and always treat each other with respect, kindness, and integrity. They are also happier and more loving when they are together [not just in a romantic relationship, but also when they are together as a family].


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