Importance of driving/transport in a relationship?

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I would try to learn to drive again, but if you can't do it or you're scared then dont. Just say you have a condition that makes it hard to.

I had a kickass prostock Mustang when I was 17 and dated a lot of guys with no car. We took mine even when he did cause it was so good. Except the bike guy. I let my friend borrow my car and we went out on the motorcycle.

I don't see car as a deal breaker. My 21 yo son doesn't have a car and doesn't really drive and lived with his gf for over a year and she drove him to work.

As for bringing somebody home, you're an adult. My kids have done it. My daughters fiance lives here and my sons have had girls sleep over. Ally kids have had friends over to hang or on a date too and I just leave them alone.

It's not as big a thing as you're worrying about.

O.o

Was that to me? If so I don't get it. Explain please.

LOL...I don't even know what that symbol means.

But I believe it means "meh."

I believe it was describing his mood at the moment.

The os are eyes, and the dot is a nose.

He's raising an eyebrow.
Questioning or disbelieving.

It's very important to have a license. You are then more useful in case of an emergency.

Oh. Thanks. Well, that's how it was for me when I was young and single. That was 70s and early 80s and cars were very important. My first real bf had a car but I couldn't drive yet. I didn't get a car until after we broke up. We dated two years and he had a Nova. The kind of car was important in that culture too and the more badass the car was, the sexier the guy seemed for some reason. Dating a guy who drove a black 79 Bandit Trans Am with t tops and a gold bird on the hood was the ultimate. I never did that. Never dated a guy with a good car. Ever. However, I was the girl with an extremely badass car, so that helped to make me seem sexier I guess. So even in an era that had a big car culture, lots of guys did OK without one.

Nowdays, at least in this town, cars aren't that important. To a few they are but not to most. If there is transportation of any kind, borrowed or even getting a ride, it's cool.

Things change. They do. But I still love the fact that I had a more badass car than some of the guys who wouldn't even look at me before I got it. And I never dated them after I did either. And I beat them in the quarter to add insult to injury lol.

You know, I noticed the same thing in my region, although I live in the Midwest, which is less car-oriented than a region like CA or TX. Back in the late 90's, walking was a social crime! If you were a pedestrian, you'd have things thrown at you from passing cars: usually just insults and honking, but sometimes trash too. And if someone from your school saw you walking, you could forget about dating altogether. One classmate saw me, and people didn't stop laughing at me for many weeks. Heck, one girl who agreed to go on a real date with me, canceled it when I told her I didn't have a car.

Now, walking is seen as very normal, even outside of dense urban areas. Drivers treat me with nothing but utmost courtesy, even when I walk along the edge of a road with no sidewalk. Nothing getting thrown at me, cars yield when I cross the street, and it's just so much nicer. I've walked from a grocery store carrying five bags, and no one said a word to me. I've even met a date at a train station near her; then we walked to an Italian place that turned out to be just OK.

One thing is for sure, in Houston, you do need a car. Not necessarily for a relationship, but because we're very car-centric.

I have dated guys who didn't have a car, though that has been living in the Denver area where there is public transit. I imagine if I lived somewhere that lacked it...I or the person I am dating would have to have a vehicle unless we lived in walking distance or were able to arrange rides with other people or whatever.

Basically it would come down to if there is no way to get together to see each other, a relationship isn't going to work out.

You need a car to say the least here in this god forsaken desert