Guys That Want Virgin Mary Purity

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You may be surprised to learn that some women do believe in this stud/slut thing too.

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For the religious, I think that emphasis on virginity is problematic for two reason. First, OT virginity was only a way to ensure that a woman’s children were her husband’s. Israelite Law stressed the importance of bloodlines. Virginity was their preferred way of preserving those lines.

This is completely irrelevant in our time. The only purpose it serves is as an outward sign that a woman belongs 100% in every way to her husband. While it is very special that two people give themselves completely to each other, there is much more to a person than their level of experience. What you want in a partner is your business. But making it a religious argument over the real worth of a person is entirely superficial.

The other problem is that throughout the Bible sex is dealt with as a moral issue. Here you have to contend with the fact that EVERYTHING in the Bible is a moral issue. So if you have a problem with someone who has had sex, do you hold yourself to the same standard any time you told a lie? Broken a promise? Cheated on income tax? Stolen something, or borrowed an item you didn’t return? Behaved selfishly? Refused to tithe? Ignored a panhandler/lied about not having any money/judged a homeless person for being an addict/mentally ill?

I mean...if it’s about morality, then NONE of us were ever virgins to begin with, and it has nothing to do with sexual experience.

The Bible only makes a big deal about sex under very special circumstances. In fact, when death is attached as a penalty for unmarried sex, it typically goes back to preserving the bloodlines I mentioned earlier in which causing doubt as to who the father is was tantamount to attempted murder. Beyond that, premarital sex according to the law never calls for the death penalty. The Bible seems to wink at it, and fixing it is simple: either stop it or get married.

I won’t lie. I’ve had four virgins. With one exception I quite enjoyed it. My first time was with a virgin. One was a girl whose fiancé “came out” and dumped her. The third...that’s complicated. The fourth was a college freshman while I was in grad school. If I had it to do all over I’d make different choices. But the last one was truly beautiful because I’d never been with someone that inexperienced who could really let go and just instinctively let her body do what it was made to do. It’s too emotional for a lot of girls, I think, and the third girl I mentioned tensed up and became a dead fish. So I just think experience doesn’t have quite so much to do with it as how we’re taught to feel about it. Ideally two people would mate for life and grow into the experience together without a frame of reference and with the understanding that it’s supposed to be pleasurable and that your body already knows what to do.

Experience, whether in the bedroom or just dating, is something we all start without. Unless there’s a legit reason why experience is important, it’s really nobody’s business. Don’t ask, don’t tell. If a man rejects a woman because she’s NOT a virgin, I can understand. That’s fine. But a virgin who’s just throwing herself at a guy? If being a virgin means certain rejection and perpetual virginity, I just wouldn’t bother mentioning it. Same if you’re a guy. If you’re inexperienced and that’s the problem, you’re stuck because you can’t even GET experience. At that point I think the rules are stacked against you and you owe nobody any explanations.

If everyone would keep this within a marriage context, it would be less complicated. Everybody knows how this ends up. The guy finally gets everything in the right spot and the orgasm hits almost immediately. It’s gross. It’s totally unromantic and buzzkill. And then it’s funny. Ok, so you just talk for the next 30 minutes after she stops laughing and you stop laughing at yourself and you and try again, with a little more foreplay for her so she gets off first. Then you slow down and it starts to get kinda fun. And all you remember is how beautiful the whole thing was.

People make entirely too much of a big deal about this.

Anyway....I am with Peacesell's logic in this thread. Why?

Because you can't prevent people of having hypocritical preferences, they are hypocritical but are still legit preferences that you can do nothing about.

If we use the OP's logic then we can find tons of 'hypocritical' preferences common in the opposite sex too:

- It is hypocritical if a poor girl wants to date only rich guys.
- It is hypocritical if an unemployed girl want to date only employed guys.
- It is hypocritical if a short girl wants to date only tall guys.
- It is hypocritical if a non-White girl wants to date only White guys.
...etc

- The non-virgin guy who wanting to marry only virgin girls is as hypocritical preference as the above examples.

But still, you can do nothing about them; unless you become a dictator god over humanity.

I keep reading this thread's title as "Guys That Want Virgin Mary Putty"

which is doubtless a Freudian error, since putty is an amorphous drab material, and also a euphemism for a person who can easily be manipulated/shaped (She's putty in his hands).

I don't think Dali ever painted any malleable Madonnas, more's the pity. Would illustrate this post perfectly. This is the best I can do:

Not sure what your problem with me is, Peaceshells but I don't gaf what you think.

Ditching my misogynist boyfriend was a good move along with telling my mother to get a love life of her own.

Hey Boo, why were we not talking about all the preferences? Because this thread was about the douchebags that only want virgins....

Boo, start a thread. It would be fun to bring them up.

Yeah I was 18 when I dated him. I learned from him for sure.

Hey Peacesells, I hope you have someone in your life.....

I’m not sure why people want to be with virgins. It is usually not a great experience or so I’ve heard.