Would you date an NT?

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I would if my Aspie girlfriend would let me.

I am the only aspie I've ever known, so if I date somebody it neccesarily would be an NT. Also, it's not like you decide who will you fall in love with...

I’m engaged to an NT, since both me and my son are aspies, he is out numbered.  He likes to tell me that being with me and Liam is “an adventure everyday” because he never knows when a whim is going to come on and change the plan (he is learning making plans at all is a big waste of time, the second either of us HAS to be somewhere, we won’t make it.) or what we are going to say next, or what interesting little bit of totally useless trivia he will learn. (my son recently discovered ancient Rome, which is a complete 180 from Dinosaurs, his last “hobby”) He tells me all the time that NT women would bore him by being too needy/loud/predictable/uncreative, lol.

One of his favorite things to tell me is “You don’t define something by what it has in common with everything else, you define it by what is different about it.” 

Knowing I would exclude sooooo many people if I didn't want an NT, I say yeah, NT's are welcome.

Date her? I've been married to her for 17 wonderful years. She's the best thing that ever happened to me.

06xrs youve made 29 posts in your first 5 minits?!?!?!

That has GOT to be a record!! ! ^_^

EDIT: I misiterpreted the "time posted" bit to be "date joined"... I quite often do that the other way round ¬_¬

NT’s are the only types I’ve gone out with. I’ve never been with a girl who had any Aspie traits. My last girlfriend wasn’t very social, which was nice, but her mind wasn’t anything like mine!

I had a girlfriend for four years when I was younger. She was very NT and very extroverted, always going out to clubs, concerts, and bars. I tried to go along in the beginning, but couldn’t handle the lifestyle. So, she did all that stuff with her friends…and lots of *cough* stuff with other guys.

I admit that I find myself wondering more and more if an Aspie girl would be better for me. The NT’s certainly haven’t worked out and an Aspie girl would probably be much more understanding.

I'm a nerdish NT female who has wondered what it might be like to date an Aspie or other Spectrumite. I don't really care that much about "traditional things." I would want someone I can, ideally, connect with on all levels possible (physical and non-physical)...I imagine I'd start with a mental connection, and then when comfortable - if I ever get comfortable - experiment for the physical after satisfying myself that I really want the experience for its own sake, preferably with as few regrets as possible. If, for some odd reason, I ended up with someone who was slower than myself romantically, I would be cool with asking before any advances were made..."I'm in the mood to kiss you. Wanna try that?" Yeah, nice and slow (unless we both decided we wanted to speed things up) and experimental...working out what we do or don't want as we go along, and establishing good communication. That would be the ideal, I think.

I tend to think that a relationship with an autistic-spectrum dude would likely suffer and fail if I did not share enough of his interests, even if our pace and our temperaments were similar. There would also have to be wanting the same things in a relationship, a barrier to dating anyone...I imagine most guys who lack nerdish temperaments would get bored with me because they couldn't get me in the sack or even to kiss them unless I became comfortable with experimentation, convinced that it was worth it if I couldn't achieve the romantic ideal of an extraordinarily deep and meaningful connection. (I'm such an extreme closet romantic that I don't think reality could EVER live up.)

I voted I would be willing to date an NT.

I am not looking for a date since I am married but my answer to that question is, no. I have dated smart guys, dumb guys, bad boys, super good-looking guys, super ugly guys, unsafe maniac guys, and guys with mental problems, but never a typical guy. They bore me to death and there's no relating with them. This doesn't sound good, but it's the truth.

It's not like all the aspie girls line up in front of you and start flirting one after the other, NTs are easier to spot.

Tip: Treat it all as friendliness until it develops into something more. After all, no one is offended by friendliness, but some are offended by unwanted advances and flirting.
(Why are girls and dating so important to you? Are you a teenage boy or something?)