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Ive come to the sordid conclusion that for some reason, (young)women find men who are non-single more attractive than single men. People say its about wanting what they cannot have but I think there's more to it than that. One fellow said that if a man is taken it means that since Someone wants him, there must be something about him that makes him desirable. Its like a job, if you already have one then getting a new one is MUCH easier than if you're unemployed. The pragmatic aspect is that part of me is almost tempted to lie about my relationship status on certain online dating/social networking sites and see if that generates more interest in me.

hmmm, that actually makes sense, start telling women you're taken to get them to like you more. *runs off to change facebook status*

But I've heard the same thing too, if you're single then why? not as much reason to like you, but if you're seeing someone than that means there has to be something redeeming about you.
Psychological mind games and workings to the relationship world we'll never understand.

It must be the sheep mentality. If a girl see's that someone else likes you, she will like you as well, so she can be like the other woman. She might also think you won't be as desperate (more confidence), if you already have someone.

This is probably why you are more likely to get another job, if you have one already...you don't come off as desperate.


The pragmatic aspect is that part of me is almost tempted to lie about my relationship status on certain online dating/social networking sites and see if that generates more interest in me.

Not to be offensive or anything, but try putting a picture up of a good looking guy. Seems to me, most people on those dating sites choose people based on their looks, for the most part.

Um, I don't think that's such a good suggestion. I can see a woman forgiving you for lying about your relationship status. But, most aren't going to appreciate you posing as somebody you're not. Probably come off as creepy and dishonest.

If you're only looking for someone to chat with, then it might not be quite as bad. If you're looking for people to meet IRL, I wouldn't try it. You'll have alot of explaining to do later. Plus, she might not ever trust you again.

I was being a little sarcastic on that one...

Trust me. There is a woman for you. Many women might be shallow/airheads but there are decent women out there who feel the same as you do.