Henriksson is so Happy!

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Hello folks. September is sliding over into October and its getting colder. It was 11 degrees celsius in my room when I woke up yesterday. Good thing I remembered to turn the heat on today. Enough about that. Today, I want to talk something made me very happy. Last Wednesday, something really, really great happened. So, I met this girl online, and now we have known each other for quite a while. We have gradually built a strong liking of each other. That particular day I finally decided to try to express the feelings I have for her, and I asked if the feelings are mutual. She said that they were. So I asked if she wanted to be my In a relationship on Facebook, to which she said yes.

And then we started to talk really sweet with each other, it was like all these romantic notions had slowly built up, and then just came out like the flood of a broken dam. I dont think I have ever been so happy in my life. All through the rest of the week I kept smiling like an idiot, and I dont think people at my school have ever seen me so happy before.

The downside, however, is that the relationship is, shall we say, a really long distance one. And by distance I mean approximately the distance from Stockholm to Beijing. She lives near Beijing. It feels really heavy not being near the one I love. I kept thinking about her all day, and I hugged the air. I feel like meeting her so much, I dont know what to do. And she feels the same for me.

I thought I might say a few things about her. Her Western name is Fiona Caroline Yeung, though I dont know how to pronounce her Chinese name. She was abandoned as a child, so we dont know her birthday. She is 21 or 22 years old. She gave me a Chinese name, Im not sure how to pronounce it but Ill have a try. 杨之贤. I hope I did that right. She gave me the same family name as she has, which is just such a wonderfully romantic notion. I also gave her the name Caroline, which is my cousins name.

You know, my mother says I call myself an asexual because Ive given up on the idea of relationships and therefore the idea of sex, but she is wrong. Being asexual doesnt necessarily imply that one is aromantic. Fiona and countless other love stories among asexuals on the web prove that to me.

Theres probably more to be said, but I cant think of anything more to say at the moment. If you have any suggestions as to what I should talk about in my next video log, Id be very happy if you could share it with me. Also, Id like to give a really big thank you to the people who support me every day. Thank you so much! You dont realize how much help you are to me. Also, as always, thank you for watching.

Her name is Yang Zhi-xian

Really sounded like Yang Zu Sien when I listened to a recording she had sent where she pronounced my name, though...

Gratulerer og "Til Lycka"

The situation you're in is bad though, but I hope the solution will be found

*Hehe* I know the "smiling like an idiot"-part very well.
Happy for you though and hoping for the best.

oh, gosh, the 'smiling like an idiot' part I just love! Glad you are happy,

Merle

Hello Henriksson,

I'm so glad for you!
Hope you'll find a way to meet her in real life without having to wait too long for you two.

(But is it her real name that you gave on the video and in the post?)

Edit: I forgot to write a verb in the post

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Way to go! Good to hear your so happy.

Im glad you are happy, Henriksson!

How did you met her, on a dating site?
Have you told her about your AS?
Do you feel she is honest with you?

You dont have to reply to this post at all if you dont wish to

I just care for you in this. To find love on the internet can be very excited but also dangerous, even more from the female side.
I know you are an honest and decent guy (at least thats my impression from your videos and your posts here)

I know you probably dont even want to think of the future right now, just only be happy and I want you to stay happy as long as you can.
You are in love and thats an extraordinary feeling I dont want to take away from you.

But I want you to be careful so you wont stumble across a shocking dissapointment in the middle of your happiness
So try to think realistically around everyting. How possible and likely can it be that you actually can meet when you live across the globe from each other?
And what guarantee do you have that this can work in long term?

So, my recommendation to you is

*take your time with getting to know her and share things about yourself
Is very easy that you just run forward fast when you are in love but it can be very beneficial to have a slower tempo and allow yourself to feel in between your talkings and meetings

*dont tear her out emediately
You dont have to talk everyday and all the time. Allow yourself to have breaks sometimes. Like it can take a few days before you talk with each other next time.
If you do this then you both allow yourself to extend your feelings but also to stop and relax in between and feel for real what you really feel...

*Let the relationship develope
I dont know how long you have known her. "Some people can met someone one day, fall in love the next day and the third move together, two weeks later they break up when realise they didnt fit kinda...."
Relationships develope by time and experiences. Let it grow properly!


*Gosh what long that turned out!! and hereby have xalepax made todays writing of WP in one and the same post*

Is she AS?

I don't know why, but it seems asian chicks is wild after Scandinavian guys for some reason

I think Xalepax came with some nice points, ask her about herself, ask for a photo, ask her to come over to YOU, that will probably be a good way, because søta bror is very awesome, I have been there many times buy Swede candy and eat "køttbullar"

as much as I don't get the idea of virtual relationships - I'm happy for you H!

yeah,he told me about this on MSN...

おめでとう! !!

lol, I posted the congratulations in Japanese..anyways, 恭喜! !

Thank you for all the replies so far!

China-World Forum. We later agreed that we didn't like that forum very much.


Indeed I have.


Yes.

Ok as long as you keep you wits about you. I'm not saying the relationship is cynical but you have to keep that in mind no matter how well you think you know someone.

Of course online is always different from meeting someone in person. I say that from experience.

There are certain things that would ring alarm bells with me. The part about being abandoned as a child. While it is feasible, it is also something a con artist would use to gain your sympathy.

lol

I don't even dare to comment honestly on this one.

Your mom is right, you can't have romantic feelings while you are 100% asexual, the oxytocin hormone is not only a sexual hormone itself but one of its main purpose is pair bonding and to give you a feeling of attachment with a specific person in order to successfully reproduce with her later. You love that girl, so you are under the oxytocin's effect , so the oxytocin is playing a 'sexual' role here and so you can't be really an asexual.

You are a sexual creature (like it or not), and you're straight too.

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