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Hey everyone, I'm back after a stint away from the site.

Anyway, here's the problem I'm having at the moment.

I got into a new job after a day's practical interview, done 3 days work already, however there is this great lass that sometimes sits next to me that's my boss's daughter... well I went to a works due on Friday and come to realise that I may have got feelings for her, I have it on good authority that she's single and around my age.

I just don't know how to approach this and it's really starting to bug me... I know I should just jump at any chance for love providing I'm not seeing anyone at the time, but how can I? I feel really aqward talking about things like my feelings in that way to the actual person... I've not told anyone that I know irl about this for the moment, I'll talk to my mother when we get some alone time and I feel courageous enough...

This probably isn't going to work out unless one of you quits. Plus if you tell her you like her and she decides that you make her uncomfortable, then you might run into some problems with her dad. Just focus on getting to know her, but don't rush into romance.

lol my boss is her mother actually

She's the boss's daughter? Then you stifle those feelings and look elsewhere. That only turns out well in movies.

Like Hell it does...what nonsense! If you really like this girl, can you get to know her a little better on your break at work? Or ask her out for a soda or coffee. However, since she is the boss's daughter, you will need to be extra sweet on her and on your best behavior at all times. If things don't work out, legally her Mom cannot fire you. However, having lost a love, things at work can become uncomfortable for you if you end up breaking up.

I have worked in places where people become attached, grow in love and end up in marriage. So, how serious are you?
Colleges, Universities and places of employment are "marriage markets." That's where most people meet their future "mates."

Only got about 15 mins break and she goes at dinner, but I'm sat right next to her... I'm pretty good on dates but it's the actual run up to the date (Asking them out) that I get tongue-tied, and I get pretty embarrased to the point where I run...


I know the risks involved, I also know my boss pretty well, she's pretty good mates with most of the staff if you know what I mean... I do a lot more than what most people do in one day, I love being fast on the keyboard as well as accurate when it comes to numbers


More serious than I have been in the past, there's one person that comes close, however she was older and further away from me.
As for other things, I've caught her looking once or twice... not enough to ascertain wether she likes me back or not...


That's quite funny actually, the job deals with serveral advisors commisions from financial companies, she does the same as me but slower (Spends some of the time just messing about lol) funnily enough my mother met her bf in the same company

In this economy, you need to think twice about anything that could make your job difficult.

In todays economy, you will occasionaly have to take risks. That is how the world works

People like us are likely to be the last ones hired and the first ones laid off.
If you lose a job you have today, you might never get another.
The fat cats want you to believe that the economy is going to improve.
For them, it might. And whether it trickles down to the bottom of the social ladder, they don't care.

Don't s**t where you eat.

Couple things... after three days of working together, be very careful not to confused attraction with emotional feelings or connection. That you work together does pose risks, though not to the extent that I think some feel it does; that it is your boss's daughter is more concerning. If you want to ask her to hang out or go on a date, I don't think that is problematic - but read your company's fraternization policy first, period. And I wouldn't press the romance... spend time to get to know her, and don't press an emotional agenda immediately (that doesn't mean don't be responsive or indicate that you are interested, just don't make such gestures weighty).


M.

I stand by my position that it is a very bad idea to even attempt to date the boss's daughter. Think about what could happen. Here are some likely scenarios:

1)You attempt to ask her out. She dislikes your overtures and either she outright complains to her mom, the boss, or her mom is able to pick up on her daughter's discomfort and why. While this may not be legal grounds to get you fired, it certainly will make it very unlikely that you will have a pleasant work enviroment or any chance for good assignments or a promotion.

2)You ask her out and she says yes. You want another date. She does not. You pine away because she said no. This makes it very uncomfortable for her to work with you. See 1)

3)You ask her out. Things go well. You continue dating. Then things do not go well. You break up. See 1)

4)You ask her out. Things go well. You don't break up. But mom, the boss, dislikes that one of her employees is dating her daughter. She can't force her daughter to break up nor can she legally fire the guy. But that doesn't mean he'll be getting a promotion anytime soon. See 1)

5)The Least Likely Scenario: You date. It goes great. You don't break up. Mom, the boss, is absolutely thrilled that one of her employees is dating her daughter. This could happen in theory but the odds of this happening are vanishingly small.

Like makuranoshi said, you may just be confusing initial "getting to know you" connection with attraction. Hopefully that's the case. Because I think the consequences of acting on an attraction to the boss's daughter have been seriously underestimated here.