What Should I Do Now?

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I was hanging out with a guy and my friend fpr couple of hours, jsut chilling out and talking. It slipped out that i like the guy on accident. He got all quiet and said this is new to me. He blushed bright red and ran out the door. He messaged my friend, that he's scared now and needs time to sleep on how he feels about me. He then wanted to hang out with us the next day after the whole awkwardness. He claims he feels really bad at how he run off leaving me confused, but needs time to sort out how he feels.Is there something going on?

"Just what it says on the tin," I'd say. I'd like to think he's being honest, and he's saying he needs time, so I'd take his lead on the issue. He's saying he still wants to hang out though, isn't he? So that's a step on the direction of "yes," but I think you should look for a pattern before taking another step forward. If he regularly talks to you and not your friend, for example.

He lacks balls.

He considers his moves.

Also he might be waiting to see how something else pans out if he's actively looking. This is where the power of gossip comes in.

He already knows you like him angelofdarkness so the ball is in his court so to speak. Since he is still willing to hang out, I'd assume he is still willing to be friends but he's not sure if he is ready to try & be more than that or not. Making a move on him now would likely push him in the opposite direction. Just keep being his friend & act like nothing has changed for now. He'll let you know if & when he is ready to try & be more.

I don't mean any disrespect to anyone at all, but that made me laugh a little bit - a wry laugh of recognition at my much younger self; I'd probably have done the same thing (I'm assuming that both you and he are about the age shown on your posts.)

It sounds to me like the guy just got incredibly embarrassed because he's rather insecure. I'd even venture a guess that his rather panicked reaction, blushing like a beetroot, and contrition afterwards, mean that he does rather like you. When I was a young man, a girlfriend was the thing I wanted most in the world, but the few times anyone expressed any interest in me (and they had to be pretty blunt about it), I'd suddenly realise that my fantasies about it weren't matched by my experience (no sniggering at the back, please!) I'd freeze in panic like a deer trapped in headlights - "oh s**t, what am I supposed to do now - and with my mates watching, too - aaargh!" And young lads often get a lot of mickey-taking and leg-pulling about that kind of thing, so the presence of your mutual friend probably won't have helped if he's easily embarrassed.

I may be completely wrong, of course. But I'd say the best thing is not to make too big a fuss about it, as it would probably just make him more nervous. Even though you didn't do it on purpose, apologise to him for having said what you did at an inappropriate moment - best done in private of course, which gives you a good opportunity to talk things over, or at least to arrange to.

No I agree with Boo. I wouldn't phrase it the same way, but he's immature. A mature person would not have run out of the room. He would have said "thanks for expressing your feelings, I'm not sure how I feel right now, can we just spend some time together as friends and see."

Although, even that might get her hopes up too much.

There's a potential here, but it's very small.

What you want is someone who actually wants you, not someone who will blown hot and cold with you and eventually drop you like a hot potato.

Just see how it goes OP, but be careful not too get too attached or read too much into his actions.

Oh and by the way guys if you want to keep your options open, just tell the poor girl who only has eyes for you, "no".

Let her move on. Don't string her along with the hope of something that will never be.

When I was about 20, I was hanging out with a female friend at her house. We ran out of beer, so she suggested that I go to the store around the corner for more. When I got back, the lighting was turned down low, and she was stretched seductively across the sofa in sexy lingerie.

I panicked, stammered something like, "Look at the time! I It's later than I thought and I just remembered there's somewhere I'm supposed to be!" and dashed out the door.

She never spoke to me again.

Poor girl. I still feel bad about that 35 years later.

Of course, I'm autistic.

Well hes still talking to me at least, im keeping my distance unless he talks to me though

This is literally the most autistic thing I've heard all day, ha ha