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02 Aug 2010, 12:39 pm

Okay, some of you remember me as the fat aspie girl desperate for attention from the opposite sex. You may not have thought that at all but that's my reflection on my past behavior. After receiving dozens of PMs and requests for sex, dating, marriage, or just to meet for coffee, I've just about had it. I'm overwhelmed. What gets me the most is that some of these guys live so far away from me that a steady relationship would be impossible to maintain. Some of these guys were all over me claiming to be the love of my life even when we've never met. Come on guys, I know a lot of you are lonely and all but don't place so much pressure on a lonely, mentally unstable girl. It could send her over the edge. D:

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02 Aug 2010, 12:43 pm

I remember you telling me about this like, an hour ago. I hope you didn't feel my attempts to meet an aspie IRL were me trying to give you a nice sexing.

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02 Aug 2010, 12:45 pm

Consider yourself lucky. I'd do horrible things to get that kind of attention from the opposite sex. But if you don't like the attention, just ignore it. Online, it isn't exactly a hard thing to do.

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02 Aug 2010, 12:46 pm

Ferdinand wrote:

I remember you telling me about this like, an hour ago. I hope you didn't feel my attempts to meet an aspie IRL were me trying to give you a nice sexing.

Trust me, if it were only you I wouldn't have a problem. I remember someone commenting on my facebook about how stressed I was asking if he could meet me too. That's when I snapped I guess. It's like I just got finished talking about not wanting to meet anyone right now and he posts that? Was he not paying attention? He can't blame that he was staring at my boobs since I don't have them posted anywhere online. D:

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02 Aug 2010, 12:47 pm

Asp-Z wrote:

Consider yourself lucky. I'd do horrible things to get that kind of attention from the opposite sex. But if you don't like the attention, just ignore it. Online, it isn't exactly a hard thing to do.

She's really frustrated though, because she feels that the only boys attracted to her are so far away, whereas in real life no one is attracted to her. I can understand the sad reflection of life she sees.

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02 Aug 2010, 12:48 pm

Asp-Z wrote:

Consider yourself lucky. I'd do horrible things to get that kind of attention from the opposite sex. But if you don't like the attention, just ignore it. Online, it isn't exactly a hard thing to do.

But it's torturous in the sense that I'll never get to meet any of these people so all of it is wasted affection. If it came from someone I knew IRL and would be able to maintain a relationship with, I'd be happy. I'm really sensitive so I have a difficult bearing bad news to people. So having to tell 5 people that I can't date them in the past week is a lot for me to handle.

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02 Aug 2010, 12:50 pm

Ferdinand wrote:

Asp-Z wrote:

Consider yourself lucky. I'd do horrible things to get that kind of attention from the opposite sex. But if you don't like the attention, just ignore it. Online, it isn't exactly a hard thing to do.

^ Ding ding ding! We have a winner! *bangs drum with giant mallet*

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02 Aug 2010, 12:51 pm

Erisad wrote:

Asp-Z wrote:

Consider yourself lucky. I'd do horrible things to get that kind of attention from the opposite sex. But if you don't like the attention, just ignore it. Online, it isn't exactly a hard thing to do.

My best friend lives over 300 miles away from me, my ex-girlfriend lived a similar distance. It isn't too hard to have a long-distance relationship. I don't think you should reject people just for that reason. That's my opinion, anyway.

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02 Aug 2010, 12:51 pm

I'm glad you ain't a doorknob though. Good job, gal.

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02 Aug 2010, 12:52 pm

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Her ex-boyfriend was awhile away and he cheated. She feels distrust now, and she rather play it safe than risk another heartbreak.

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02 Aug 2010, 12:54 pm

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Her ex-boyfriend was awhile away and he cheated. She feels distrust now, and she rather play it safe than risk another heartbreak.

But the same risk exists whether the relationship is long-distance or not. Dickheads cheat, simple. If you want love you have to wade through the garbage to find the gold.

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02 Aug 2010, 12:54 pm

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I'm glad you ain't a doorknob though. Good job, gal.

I'll take a stab and say this is a compliment. Wouldn't want everyone's hands all over me anyway just to walk past me like a doorknob. >.<

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02 Aug 2010, 12:56 pm

Erisad wrote:

Ferdinand wrote:

I'm glad you ain't a doorknob though. Good job, gal.

I'll take a stab and say this is a compliment. Wouldn't want everyone's hands all over me anyway just to walk past me like a doorknob. >.<

"She's like a doorknob. Everyone has a turn."

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But the same risk exists whether the relationship is long-distance or not. Dickheads cheat, simple. If you want love you have to wade through the garbage to find the gold.

Emotions aren't logical, Asp-Z. She knows this; her brain tells her this. Her heart, however, tells her differently.

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02 Aug 2010, 12:59 pm

Ferdinand wrote:

Asp-Z wrote:

But the same risk exists whether the relationship is long-distance or not. Dickheads cheat, simple. If you want love you have to wade through the garbage to find the gold.

Emotions aren't logical, Asp-Z. She knows this; her brain tells her this. Her heart, however, tells her differently.

But someone who turns potential love interests away because of a previous bad experience isn't going to find someone, are they? Anyone who's been in a relationship has had bad experiences, but until you move on from them you'll continue to feel hurt by them. When you do start seeing other people, however, the pain from your previous relationship decreases.

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02 Aug 2010, 1:00 pm

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Telling a girl/woman you are madly in love with her or implying such a thing, without having taken the time to get to know her is creepy.

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02 Aug 2010, 1:01 pm

Ferdinand wrote:

Erisad wrote:

Ferdinand wrote:

I'm glad you ain't a doorknob though. Good job, gal.

I'll take a stab and say this is a compliment. Wouldn't want everyone's hands all over me anyway just to walk past me like a doorknob. >.<

"She's like a doorknob. Everyone has a turn."

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But the same risk exists whether the relationship is long-distance or not. Dickheads cheat, simple. If you want love you have to wade through the garbage to find the gold.

Emotions aren't logical, Asp-Z. She knows this; her brain tells her this. Her heart, however, tells her differently.

Uh uh. I'm a special door with a customized lock that only those with the correct password can access and then they have to go through a DNA scan. It's an arduous process.

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