Sexually triggered nervous breakdowns?

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I'm the only one in my circle of friends that isn't deflowered so to speak, but I was on vacation with a friend of mine - we went to visit a childhood friend of ours. A few nights ago after we were hanging out in the park and talking to a few aquaintances of our long-distance friend and a night at the bar, my other friend goes home with a girl we met earlier which we had a conversation earlier in the day at the park. I end up feeling like s**t, blaming myself for having this scourge(AS), blaming how my parents raised me in a super sheltered childhood, I was on the edge of breaking down when I was talking to my other friend. While he did hit a few points, he told me to focus on the bigger picture - finish school and move out of my parent's house(which is one of my long-term goals), relationships will happen and to work on my social skills and manners.

The last time I had a sexually-driven nervous breakdown was at a house party during which a threesome was in session. I'm 25, I have OK social skills, I've made out and had a close opportunity with a girl that worked at my old job. Is it because I'm beating myself up for not being on the same level as some of my NT friends when it comes to girls and relationships/sex or I'm just forching something that doesn't come easy for us? Should I seek professional advice or do I need to practice how to approach the other sex and learn how to make friends with them without looking desperate?

Let me tell you why I am on this forum. I am 49. I lost my 3 brightest American friends to this disgusting feminist culture. One went crazy, one killed himself, and one is in prison for life. I survived because I realized that this culture is my enemy and I must treat it like an enemy. I have done what I need to do to survive. So I am here hoping to save others from the fate of my 3 friends.

My advice: Do not seek "professional" help. Psychiatrists are hard core representatives of this culture. Avoid them. The main reason to develop social skills in America is for business, so focus on that. Spend time in business meetings and dealing with business people. Practice lying and telling business people what they want to hear. These are key skills for financial success. But changing your behavior to attract women or friends doesn't make sense because a meaningful personal relationship should be based on a person accepting you for who you are. American woman are virtually all worthless, so forget about them. America men are fairly low quality too, unfortunately. So just look for the few exceptional (meaning not normal) men who you can trust to be your friends. To find a woman, you should look in non-feminist cultures where women are much better.

Before letting yourself have nervous breakdowns about not having sex, I strongly suggest you seek the help of an escort. I really don't care what others say about that. They aren't the ones living in a permanent state of depression because of this disability.

As far as why aspies have such a hard time, there are many reasons, but the critical ones are eye contact and smiling. Two things that aspies have a really hard time with. Another issue is the lack of oxytocin production. You can get nasal sprays with it that last a short while.

First of all, don't compare yourself to your NT friends. Do you want a girlfriend and sex because you desire a connection with a woman, or you just don't want to feel left out?

To answer the original question, though, I had a breakdown a few weeks ago, and posted about it on the adult issues section of the forum. I was really close to meeting an ugly 49 year old woman that sounded like Patty or Selma from the Simpsons only worse. Then I masturbated and realized "What the hell am I doing?"

However, I've dated a hot girl and did everything with her but sex...so the desire for a girlfriend isn't there as much anymore now that I know that it isn't this big deal that society makes it out to be. To calm down the desire to lose the V-card...I changed my attitude. This may or may not help you, I'm not sure:

1.)I used to only want to have sex with someone I was deeply in love with or was just so hot that even a fundamentalist christian wouldn't turn her down. Now, if there's any physical attraction on my part, I'm game to get to know her.

2.)Instead of worrying about getting the V-card over with as soon as possible...I talk to several women on dating sites that I'm at least remotely attracted to and try to get a date/hang-out first, then if the sex happens, great. Basically playing the numbers game.

3.)I managed to lessen the intensity level of my interest in women. For the time being, I gained control of my obsessive thinking patterns.

Personally, I would rather wait than have sex with a professional as a professional is only sleeping with you because you're paying her. But I think a lot of guys on this forum would benefit from demysifying women in general. I can say that if I didn't meet my ex last year, I'm sure I would sound as frustrated as the guys on here do.

OP, I'm in the same boat as you...I'm not as old as you but I haven't done anything with a girl...not even made-out. I know how you feel, it pisses you off when a friend brags about getting laid, not even if it's intentional you know...I had a similar talk with my best friend about it...he gets laid all the time. I never even had a girlfriend. I had an emotional breakdown right in front of him and he basically told me with the one poster was saying with the steps listed...I'm working on it but it's not gonna come overnight

When I was 17 some guys I use to hang out with kept picking on me about still being a virgin. They noticed one girl in my art class kept talking to me so they pretty much forced me to go out with her. They worked on her too telling her I really liked her and would not shut up about her. I really did not feel comfortable with her for some reason, it might have been because she kept saying my shyness was cute . I took around 2 weeks of hanging out with her to get her to sleep with me. The whole thing felt creepy to me, I do not like to be touched or to touch someone I do not know or like so the thing was very awkward for me. When it was over my friends came to pick me up and one of them talked to her before we left. When he got back into the car he said to me "hey, its the girl who is spose to fake liking sex" then they all laughed at me. So in short becareful of what you wish for.