Wtf does she want?

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A few months ago I met this girl who happens to have the same pdoc as me. She invited me to go to church with her. I went along for 3 weeks. On the 4th week, which happens to have been valentines day, she told me to erase her numbers from my phone and to never contact her again since she didn't trust me. I think she took my expressionless face and lack of eye contact as cues that I was not being truthful. I erased her numbers and broke off all contact. Since then, I've ran into her on campus and each time she looked angryly at me. Once she even said: "remember when you said you were gonna kill me". My psych says she obviously has issues. I live in a state of panic when on campus due to the fact that she could appear around the conner. She is volatile and unpredictable. I don't know how to get this fear off me. Any suggestions?

She is a true Sith, she's your perfect match.

That's a doozy. I guess you didn't actually threaten to kill her? Is she dangerous? Is she like that with everyone? You mention a Pdoc, and I think you've mentioned schizophrenia before... can we safely deduce that she might be schizophrenic or similar?

I would never threaten anyone. I've been told that she acts strangely around campus and at times can be heard talking to herself. These are just rumours that I've heard though. I think she might be dangerous.

Run away, run away! She's paranoid, and whatever your deficits in body language are, they're a very small part of what's going on here. Don't seek her out, and avoid places at times when you know she will be there. She either believes you are a threat or she likes to make up bad stories out of malice. Either way, she may hurt you or get you in serious trouble, so try not to ever see her again. A psychiatrist's office (Pdoc?) is probably not the best place to meet a girlfriend. You might even want to consider switching Pdocs to reduce the likelihood of running into her. If you're lucky, she may forget about you.

Sounds like a total creep, stay the hell away, and if she does try anything, well you didn't do anything.

She's most likely a schizophrenic.

Hey, faceofboo... much and all as I admire your dedication to all things scifi, you've just annoyed me.

The poster is anxious about a real situation that he has to somehow deal with. Making light of it is insulting to him.

To the OP... try not to worry about it. She's obviously unwell, and others will know of her problems. Avoid her, and perhaps talk about it to your psych so he/she knows what's going on.

Other than that just carry on as usual.

A clearly unstable girl giving you "the evil eye" whenever she randomly crosses your path, in college. Yeah, I'd get the hell out of there. Or at the very least carry some form of repellant (like a baseball bat...).

I had a rendezvous with someone that fit this - it wasn't a romantic relationship that involved sex nor was the girl in question had schizophrenia, but she had problems and an "open" personality. She wasn't on the spectra, but she had an language disorder and SERIOUS self-confidence issues.

My two cents - stay far, far, far AWAY from her.

Wow, that's ugly. Keep tabs, if she tries to insight people to violence or anything like that (if you have people who can testify to it) - that would be time to get a restraining order. On the other hand, while I'd feel sorry for your replacement, she doesn't sound stable enough to laser in on you for too long - someone else will grab her attention and this will be on them instead.

This sounds to me like the paranoid/hallucinating variety of bipolar, seems like most people have at least a cousin or second cousin who thinks everyone at the Thankgiving/Christmas get-together is talking about them, tries to play divide and conquer games with people, and at other times is babbling incoherent garble about conspiracies. Hopefully she might find medication that works and have enough a scare from reality coming back to stay on it. Until then she's definitely a loose cannon.

My only other advice - keep giving her absolutely no acknowledgment, don't even flinch or change gaze when she gives you a stare like that. If you make sure she sees all behavior to that extent as utterly impotent/inneffective it'll yield nothing for her. The other thing - she may have really liked you, with AS at least we get better as we fall in love with someone, with people who have these kinds of issues they actually get much worse.

I had a schizo flip out on me once. The only thing you can do is ignore it and avoid contact with her.

Don't worry, he's not going to be killed by her. Such people are crazy but aren't harmful.

Honestly, I think she has a strong crush on him but she's in denial.

Nom nom joker.