Would You Date This Man? (Either Sex)

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OK, first of all I'd like to appologise for how narcissistic this will probably seem but I'm really not doing this for egotistical reasons. I'm asking this question due to my complete lack of success with online dating, which is seemingly my only possibility of finding a girlfriend and to my detriment this is the thing I want most right now.

Anyway, to my poll. This is a purely hypothetical question (I'm not trying to find a date from this thread) so it doesn't matter if you're with somebody or too old/young, or even gay (I'm straight but would be interested to see if there is a more positive result from gay guys as many have come on to me in the past). I've made it into a poll so that people could vote anonymously and leave no comment if they would prefer but any comments are welcome. Also, this is to gauge how my profile would be seen so if you can, please leave any impression you may have gotten of me here on Wrong Planet out of your mind.

My profile.

Mark

If you want a tattoo I can put you in touch with an aspie tattoist

I want something a little different but that I won't regret - I'm stuck there right now!

United fan from Salford. Whats not to like? Maybe all the lasses reading your profile are berties or something?

Regret what you did, not what you didn't do young man. Get in touch if you want to be scarred for life

I'll keep you in mind, cheers.

Cheers

I have a feeling that only men will reply this thread.

Maybe if you're not getting any messages (i know the feeling) consider writing about your AS. Just incase that intrigues someone? I think the reality is that dating sites are full of really picky women and not the most successful blokes so i dont think they really work for a lot of people.

I'm yet to get a diagnosis. I will hopefully be tested soon but as there are no NHS services in the Greater Manchester area I have to find and fund my own. Of the two places my doctor indicated, one is Merseyside only, the other is in Yorkshire and I'll have to pay £350+ and prob have to go back to my doctor to refer me. Until I have a diagnosis I'm not going to anounce anything about it anywhere.

Quite possibly but I really don't know what to do. I've messaged girls who've checked out my profile first and got no response, I've messaged girls without them checking mine first and many have viewed my profile after recieving it and not replied. So I have no idea if it's my profile, my messages, or both that's putting people off and unfortunately this is my only option for trying to get a balanced view.

i dont normally message my viewers as i assume they would of messaged me if interested.

Well I read a girl on the OKCupid forums saying she'd got with her partner after they'd been viewing each others profile back and forth so they didn't message each other after viewing at first yet were interested. I also thought many women expected men to make the first move?

I like it. Personally I feel saying you have AS leads to people stereotyping you before they even know you and I think it is something best explained in person. Personally I don't want to date aspies, but if we met and connected I would want to continue regardless. When an NT reads "aspie" they probably don't think "quirky" or "nerdy" but "socially inept" and even "mysognistic". Also realize it takes a lot more effort for a man than a woman on dating sites so don't get discouraged, you really need to contact lots of people before finding someone. These sites have waaay more men than women so you need to be assertive.

/is woman

Your profile looks good. You sound more fun than snobby. The only thing that concerned me was the "more drug friendly" in your personality scale and that you smoke. But than maybe a lot of people still smoke.

You're definitely right about the ratio and I've tried being assertive and sending messages, I'm even sending to a few I probably wouldn't have considered initially but I get nothing back. I really do struggle with messages on there though, I wouldn't be suprised if they were all crap and they just look at my profile out of curiosity. For a start they recommend not just saying hi/hey/hello/etc. yet there are no 'outlandish' greetings I'm comfortable greeting a stranger with that I can use in place. Other guys on here complain of getting attention from people they don't like, but besides two people giving me four/five stars I've not even had that. I guess I'm confined to more waiting.