What type of man do you not want?

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Interested to see the opinions of women/gay men here.

Anyone who refers to how attractive a woman is on a 1-10 scale. It really creeps me out.
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Don't want...
- desperate
- clingy
- jealousy over my friends (some of whom are male)
- self-centered

I have three rules;

1. No abusers - been there, done that, never again.

2. No one who disrespects me; I tolerated someone who once told me 'I wouldn't respect you if we did that' - men should respect you no matter who you are, what you do, or what you want to do in the bedroom, too many men go for you because of how you look then get put-off by the fact you have personality and opinions of your own, and try to put that side of you down by disrespecting that, no way bucko!

3. No one who says anything along the lines of 'Music is my life' - translation of which is normally 'You're never going to be the most important thing in my life' or in other words 'I will not commit'.

There's obvious things like No Abuse. But other than the obvious things that are unacceptable to everyone, my list consists of one thing:

- No Negativity.

It's a lot easier for me to write a list of positive things that I would like in a partner than it is to cite the myriad of things that I would consider unacceptable. Detailing it all out, I end up with things like, "won't beat me awake at 3am" and "won't blow his nose at the dinner table" on the same list like they are equals and, we all know, these things are not equally unacceptable. In the end, what I really don't ever want around me is a negative man. He's got to be energetic, aggressive, ready for the challenge, confident, ambitious, positive and optimistic. Everybody has bad days, of course, but his genuine personality must have this drive in his heart. I treasure that and thrive off of it.

I've been with people who were very negative and were just bumps on a log. I like my carpe diem husband.

My statement still stands.

Heh. It's not my fault.

A sexist republican meat eating theist.
Someone who's social wouldn't work very well, either-
they'd feel bad for leaving me alone to go out with friends, who I'd never be able to meet,
and I'd feel bad for causing him to be known as the guy with the weird girlfriend,
and resent him for choosing time with them over time with me.

An abuser.